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'Taxes are the price we pay for a civilised society'

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Bargepole45 · 26/01/2026 09:17

Having just paid an enormous tax bill, I frankly am fed up with hearing this. There are lots of civilised countries that have a far lower tax burden than the UK. It's just a form of blackmail designed to make contributors believe that there is no other way other than to pay sky high taxes to subsidise people's crap life choices.

Have too many kids and can't afford them? No problem, the state steps in. Have a terrible lifestyle and don't look after your health at all? No problem, the NHS will treat you. Spent all your money with wild abandon and have nothing left to pay for your care when you get old? Don't fret, the state will fund the same care home as someone that has saved all their life.

Don't people understand that these 'safety nets' just facilitate reckless behaviour? We can have a civilised society where people aren't cushioned from all of their bad decision making. I say this as someone from a background where I didn't have much money and I am so fed up with people pretending that poor people don't know that an apple is healthier than a chocolate bar or that it's a good idea to actually attend school. It's insulting and disempowering to keep making excuses for people that simply aren't incentivised to make different, better choices.

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whereHeroesAremade · 29/01/2026 18:44

Even St Paul said we are to pay our taxes and shut up.

whereHeroesAremade · 29/01/2026 18:48

itsthetea · 26/01/2026 09:35

There isn’t any link between working harder and paying more taxes.

Snd if the work needs doing, you deciding to go part time just frees up a post for someone else you are not unique and super special and irreplaceable

The hardest working people in our society today are not on the higher tax rates

when I got big pay rises I wasn’t working harder - I was changing focus but I didn’t work harder. I recognise my luck in having the right kind of mind that is rare enough to command a premium

exactly....the sales office managers who sit on their asses all day or wave theirs fannies around the business expos are not doing the hard work, the labourers who make the product for sale do

ILikeAirports · 29/01/2026 18:51

whereHeroesAremade · 29/01/2026 18:48

exactly....the sales office managers who sit on their asses all day or wave theirs fannies around the business expos are not doing the hard work, the labourers who make the product for sale do

Are they not actually getting the product sold?

whereHeroesAremade · 29/01/2026 18:54

bathsmat · 26/01/2026 09:38

So for example using a clear example, currently a family with three children could be around £20k a year better off not working than if they were working.

And what benefits are in the above calculation?

I am wondering also, because all the lazy asses on benefits simply sit at the council house or flat all day long, eat, drink and watch tv. Lazy even to catch a bus down to the seaside or go to London for a nice concert.....where is their money gone? On crack, beer, fatty take always, fake eye lashes and nails....

I could not never live like that and be proud of anything or happy.
I prefer my hard work on NMW and my hubby's slightly higher wage but boy, we have a decent life, self respecting and nice holidays and even private health care.

you chose. I don't envy a benefit scrounger or even worse, a mother with disability benefit for her kids - the last one's life can be a hell

whereHeroesAremade · 29/01/2026 18:55

plus don't start me on the tax my self employed husband has to pay. He would be in bancruptcy if it was not my wage and I still not dare complain or envy others

whereHeroesAremade · 29/01/2026 18:59

Catza · 26/01/2026 09:33

What's your definition of a civilised society then? Something like US, perhaps? Low(er) tax burden, no universal healthcare, no social support network at all? How's all that working out for them right now? Did they all suddenly become high-earning citzens who eat healthily, attend school, treat each other with respect?

Or, maybe, we are not making enough effort to look at biopsychosocial reasons for poverty, obesity and lack of school attainment?
I grew up in a socialist country. It had a lot of problems. A lot. Do you know what else it had? Universal free childcare so my mother could return to work and focus on her career. Free tertiary education. Universal free school meals so nobody went hungry and could focus on learning. Free after-school clubs and youth clubs for nominal fees. Reasonably priced public transport. Reasonably priced cultural events so, even living in relative poverty, my mum and I could afford to go to theatre, ballet and opera several times a year.
You may think this is all frivolous for a "feckless single mother" but my mother worked very very hard, long hours and studied at uni as a mature student at the same time. And she could only drag us out from poverty because there were social structures in place to support her.

this is why our countries right now are up and coming, keeping our national identities alive and Christianity alive and these here the complainers are saliving after our cheap properties and are migrating like mad...surprise, surprise, you got to pay up for all you want to use as facility, even abroad.

whereHeroesAremade · 29/01/2026 19:07

Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService · 26/01/2026 09:42

I strongly disagree with the idea that the state should leave people to fend for themselves when it comes to health and welfare. Some people are underprivileged; some people are unlucky; and some people do make very bad choices, but we still shouldn't leave them high and dry.

Incidentally, I find it interesting how many people will roundly condemn people for maybe not looking after themselves health-wise and it leading to the requirement for expensive medical care; yet when it comes to active people taking part in sports that have an inherent risk of danger to them, nobody ever seems to criticise them when the NHS has to fix them up again after enthusiastic sessions lead to injuries.

That said, I do agree that the government spends an enormous amount of taxpayers' money on wholly wasteful and unnecessary things. You will notice that it's always "But if people don't pay those taxes, there will be no schools or hospitals" but never "But if you don't pay, how could we fund lavish and dubious expenses for MPs, commit to enormous white elephants like HS2 or keep the royal family in obscene luxury?"

this is spot on. The middle wage person who just makes it through life has to finance everyone else but hey, the rich are untouchable....WHY?

ILikeAirports · 29/01/2026 19:08

whereHeroesAremade · 29/01/2026 19:07

this is spot on. The middle wage person who just makes it through life has to finance everyone else but hey, the rich are untouchable....WHY?

The rich pay the most in taxation?

UserFront242 · 29/01/2026 19:11

ILikeAirports · 29/01/2026 16:58

My view is you and your family should be reliant on yourself to make your own ends meet.

I have exceptions for a few limited things.

Long term benefits: disabled yourself or caring for disabled family member and kids. Obviously depends on severity of disability. If people can work with PIP that's great let's help then. If they cannot work and medically can't, they should have basic sustenance levels from the government.

Short term benefits: massive life shock/change of circumstances. Benefits are there temporarily till you bet back on your feet and are self sufficient.

"Basic sustenance levels" for the disabled. What would that look like? Food parcels, plain grey tracksuits, and a bucket to piss in?

Nevermind17 · 29/01/2026 19:12

whereHeroesAremade · 29/01/2026 18:55

plus don't start me on the tax my self employed husband has to pay. He would be in bancruptcy if it was not my wage and I still not dare complain or envy others

We always get a woman on these threads complaining about how much tax her self-employed husband pays. If your husband is paying a fortune in tax, he’s already earned a fortune x2. If he were near bankruptcy, he wouldn’t have to pay a lot of tax. His money must be going somewhere else (ie. Not to HMRC).

ILikeAirports · 29/01/2026 19:14

UserFront242 · 29/01/2026 19:11

"Basic sustenance levels" for the disabled. What would that look like? Food parcels, plain grey tracksuits, and a bucket to piss in?

Money for rent, utilities bills, internet, clothes and healthy food. The essentials needed to be alive. And the money needed for their disability and medical condition.

UserFront242 · 29/01/2026 19:16

ILikeAirports · 29/01/2026 19:14

Money for rent, utilities bills, internet, clothes and healthy food. The essentials needed to be alive. And the money needed for their disability and medical condition.

That is pretty much what they get anyway. Disabled people do not get a lot at all. Just the UC is less than the state pension.
Some are great at budgeting though, so can afford some luxuries too.

whereHeroesAremade · 29/01/2026 19:19

Bargepole45 · 26/01/2026 10:05

This is what people are increasingly doing. They are reducing hours, retiring early and frankly just not trying as hard. Why would people battle on through difficult work conditions and often health challenges to see such large chunks of money go to the taxman? Look at our productivity figures and economic inactivity data to see that we are incentivising the wrong behaviours.

Alternatively emigrating to lower tax countries is an increasingly popular option. Statistics show this too.

Be very careful of shooting the golden goose. People with money and earning potential have options other than to stay working in the UK and be taxed to the hilt.

Thanks. You just said it - my last post was prophetic.

Araminta1003 · 29/01/2026 19:21

I don’t think anyone truly rich will be complaining this year as they will have passive investments which have gone up (equities are up, interest rates are up, precious metals up). Most got richer this tax year and significantly so.
The complaints are from those pushed into higher tax brackets (many many) by inflation but not getting back due to cost of living and a perverse benefits and incentives system. Ignore at your peril. Add in the HMRC approach of taxing people forward now to make figures look better, it’s not looking good..

Frequency · 29/01/2026 19:30

The "rich" on these threads vastly overestimate their own importance. If you're on PAYE, you're not that rich, and you're not that important. If you leave, someone else will take your place.

We could probably do with a few of you leaving, to help out the 2.3 job seekers for every vacancy.

The rich we actually need, the business owners who create wealth and employment, are not as mobile as people on this thread seem to think.

UserFront242 · 29/01/2026 19:32

Nevermind17 · 29/01/2026 19:12

We always get a woman on these threads complaining about how much tax her self-employed husband pays. If your husband is paying a fortune in tax, he’s already earned a fortune x2. If he were near bankruptcy, he wouldn’t have to pay a lot of tax. His money must be going somewhere else (ie. Not to HMRC).

It is funny how the most vocal on these sorts of threads tend to be women that are bankrolled by their husbands.

ILikeAirports · 29/01/2026 19:33

Frequency · 29/01/2026 19:30

The "rich" on these threads vastly overestimate their own importance. If you're on PAYE, you're not that rich, and you're not that important. If you leave, someone else will take your place.

We could probably do with a few of you leaving, to help out the 2.3 job seekers for every vacancy.

The rich we actually need, the business owners who create wealth and employment, are not as mobile as people on this thread seem to think.

Small businesses are actually the largest component of the tax gap

ILikeAirports · 29/01/2026 19:38

UserFront242 · 29/01/2026 19:32

It is funny how the most vocal on these sorts of threads tend to be women that are bankrolled by their husbands.

I mean ones is supported by a partner (as partners do) instead of being reliant on the taxpayer.

WalkDontWalk · 29/01/2026 20:29

Chiseltip · 29/01/2026 18:41

So I should have children just to make good little tax payers for the future?

Not at all. You can maintain your own roads, staff your own hospital, process your own sewage, drive your own bus, police your own neighbourhood, direct your own air traffic, fight your own fires and build your own dialysis machine.

Papyrophile · 29/01/2026 20:32

I think the question @Chiseltip is how do I teach my children to be good at playing life's game, to their own satisfaction? (I am assuming that you can afford to pay the overheads). It may be a personal opinion, founded on nothing substantial, but actually I think that if people only have the children they can afford TO NURTURE, then we probably can adjust to a lower birth rate quite quickly. It won't suit the plutocrats who want to consume cheap labour and resources though. Or the politicians who want to claim that the economy is growing at 3%. Intelligence (I hope) will create elegant new solutions.

I do not want anyone to breed tax-payers.

UserFront242 · 29/01/2026 20:34

ILikeAirports · 29/01/2026 19:38

I mean ones is supported by a partner (as partners do) instead of being reliant on the taxpayer.

Well, no. You get wives of high rate tax payers berate people on benefits, when they also have none of their own income.
It is hypocritical.

Papyrophile · 29/01/2026 20:41

Not very fair @UserFront242 . My Dsis was a trailing spouse for 35 years, and learned so much about relocating globally that she eventually ended up the higher paid. You seem to have a UK mindset because internationally, tax rates are usually irrelevant.

Araminta1003 · 29/01/2026 20:51

More than 7 million now paying higher tax rates, plus their spouses I guess according to some. Not an insignificant amount of voters and no wonder some want them to leave the country, lest they cast their vote in a certain way. You know exactly what I am saying and you also know that I am right.

Papyrophile · 29/01/2026 21:02

We would have left by now were it not for a drug that makes DH intolerant of direct light and heat. We're not the big tax payers, but at 70, as two successful competent formerly self employed people, we'd be welcome in most countries outside the obvious billionaire tax havens.

SleeplessInWherever · 29/01/2026 21:02

@UserFront242

Quite. I think what some mean by “Why can’t these people solve their own financial problems?” Is “Why don’t they just marry a rich man?”

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