I agree with you to a certain extent OP.
I think removing the two child benefit cap was crazy. Why would a country enable parents living on benefits to have even more children who are more likely to grow up and continue the cycle? That money could be spent in much better ways to ensure better outcomes for children IMO.
I also think now that we have a NMW unions should be about health and safety and not be demanding large pay rises every year, a lot of people working in non gov jobs don't get a pay rise every year and a lot of people on very low pay for the gov see very little increase because their pay is so low to start with. However train drivers (no degree required) are earning 60k pretty shortly after they're trained, why is that? Well because of the unions. No one seems to care about TA's though or low paid NHS staff.
However the idea of seriously reducing or removing benefits, healthcare etc is a complete disaster - Skid Row anyone? The number of homeless people would sky rocket, drug use through the roof, slums popping up everywhere. I'd rather be over taxed than that any day.
The solutions IMO are - we need to be putting more money into kids - real help for struggling parents to parent or diagnose their kids, working out what the issues are and getting them proper help and support at as young an age as possible. Kids MH should be an absolute priority along with diagnosing ND and other conditions, every child should be screened for dyslexia at 7. Schools should have many more TA's and a lot less very highly paid CEO types. We also need many, many more SW's who have the time and resource to properly support people.
What options are there for kids with no GCSE's? Who is helping those kids with their options? Why didn't anyone suggest they did functional skills and alternative courses rather than come out of school with no self esteem and no qualifications? Why aren't schools offering functional skills? Why do you have to repeatedly fail your GCSE's to be offered it? What is happening to all the YA with degrees coming out and really struggling to find any job? Why is there not more help and support through their third year to actually get them all into jobs? Why is there not more support in navigating the job market? Who is supporting all the YA's with ASD and ADHD to navigate the job market?
I think we need to be putting our money into the kids. If we do that then the chances of them growing up into healthy, well adjusted, working adults has to be so much higher.
I don't think it's helpful comparing us to Denmark, Finland or Estonia though. We have a population of 69 million, they're populations are all below 6 million with Estonia closer to 2. There really is no comparison. We are vastly overpopulated and that is a huge part of our problem IMO.