Feel like I've been grey rocked

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So tonight I won an award. Not massively prestigious but it felt like a big deal to me. It was about effort and improvement, rather than achievement.
Nor one person in the room acknowledged it (about 80 people there, and i know most of them quite well).
Even the people on my table didn't say anything when I came back from the stage.
I said well done to the people who presented, which I think is just normal etiquette.
My family were not massively interested either, even though I came home with prizes and a trophy.
I tracked my progress for a year and thought I had 2nd or 3rd place so was so elated to come first. I don't usually win anything so it was quite special for me.
Am I unreasonable to feel very deflated?
There were other awards during the evening but this was the major one.

Let me get this right, you won an award at running club for the most improved runner this year and even your table didn’t make a big fuss when you got back?

An award that recognises the hard work an effort you’ve put in over the last 12 months?

Bastards!

From another runner, WELL DONE. That’s amazing and so well deserved. You ROCK!

Oh OP, that is very ugly.
Very strange.
It actually takes effort not to congratulate someone as it is a very normal response.

I would take a look at all those people and ask yourself do you do too much for them, if you do, drop that rope.

With your family, did your running inconvenience them?
If so, is this a passive aggressive response.

I'm so sorry.
Sincere congratulations to you.

Wow, says a lot about who I am as a person that I read this and thought if I was in this position my immediate thought would be:

Ah, shit - clearly I've pissed people off with this. Is it the way I've spoken about it? Is it the way I've done it? Have I trampled on other people's feelings a bit? Have I bored people? Have I been oblivious to something this whole time?

I would immediately think I had done something wrong, seeing as its my peers AND family and im the common thread!

This is (among other things) a really strange use of the term 'grey rocked'. Grey rocked means to minimise the amount of information shared with people who are 'narcissists', or may even just be common garden arseholes in a dysfunctional, often family-based, dynamic, in the hope they leave you alone and you don't get sucked into their drama. The behaviour you are describing is unclear.

The colleagues probably are jealous of you and your family just don't realise the enormity of it! I did a qualification recently and my family was completely uninterested until they came to my graduation and they were all crying and proud because they saw it in the bigger context! You know how hard you've worked and you have been rewarded by others who understand that too- no-one can take that away from you! Congratulations!

Since when has anyone ever thought (or assumed) that?
People make up some weird excuses for odd behaviour on here.

Congrats OP

Congratulations OP!!! 💐💪🏻

Stay proud of yourself and fuck those shitty people 🖕🏻

Agree completely OP .

Congratulations ❤️✨

Is there anything that may cause people to not want to celebrate your win?

I'm just thinking aloud.. but if you were a TIM winning a woman's award I'd not clap

Well done op.

But i will ask are you one off them that as been going on about so much they are just fed up with hearing it.

Or some people just didn't think to say something?, I find the jealous line extremely immature, are people honestly jealous of people as much as mentioned on here

the ''their just jealous'' line makes people sound about 8

Thanks for your replies. In response to some comments, no I'm not a TIM (had to google that!), I'm also absolutely not a running bore, my whole family runs, and it doesn't impact my family life at all (I run in my work breaks during the day and I also do pretty much all of the home organising, ferrying kids around etc.).
My family have been great today, I think they hadn't really realised what the award was (as I hadn't gone on about it at all, maybe mentioned it once or twice over the course of a year) and this evening they've all brought it up and have said they're really proud of me.
Still a bit flummoxed as to why nobody said anything at the time (as in, at the event).
In response to @Thundertoast , yes my first thought was 'I suppose it means I'm just not very well liked' which is why I felt so deflated, but I don't really believe that it's true; loads of members of the group actively seek out time with me, both socially and for running activities, and I've always got on really well with everyone. I can only imagine they were wrapped up in the event and just didn't really think to say anything specific to me.
I probably massively over-reacted as I was so excited and wanted everyone else to be excited for me! Feeling much more positive today,
and feeling very loved by my family which is the most important thing.
In any case, first world problems....!😄

That’s amazing OP!!!! Big well done to you!

Re: my use of 'grey rocked' yes I think that was the wrong term, I just meant minimised, ignored...

Envy at its best !

Well done, you earned this, be so proud of yourself 🏆💫

actual running! sorry my post wasn't very clear, reading it back!

Congratulations ! Great work. You clearly deserved it.

Re your colleagues etc. Their lack of acknowledgement is likely one or more of the following:

• Envy or feeling that someone else should have won it
• Lack of interest - your achievement not their achievement.
• Pulling you down a peg or two - they may know that you deserved it but dont want to make a big thing about it and dont want you getting a big ego - we are after all british not american - we are masters in downplaying and self-depreciation.
• Self preservation / self confidence issues - your award may make them feel inadequate and you achieving may make them look 'less than' in their minds. So they dont want to shine any more attention on your award than you have already received.

I once won a significant award and like you experienced, no one expressed any recognition to me - which i put down to sour grapes and feeling like why should I get an award when they didnt. In the grand scheme of life however that award went on my CV and has been useful validation in my career - and yours can be too. Become less reliant on the approval of others - they have their own issues. Feel proud of your achievements internally and use it to enhance your career.

Or they could have other things going on in their own life which made them not think to say anything?

the OP winning is great for them but how many achievements other people do are really that important to everyone else?

I have found, over many decades now, that women generally are not championed for being achievers and winners!

Women aren’t really supposed to be huge successes. We’re not supposed to WIN. (In spite of our much varied brilliance, achievements and successes - eg.
google the Matilda Effect).

Every success, achievement of yours should be savoured. You worked at it and deserved it.

So CONGRATS 🥳 WELL DONE!
(No excuse, your family should have acknowledged it in the moment. I’m pleased they are now, but you should remind them that having it acknowledged in the moment would have been more appropriate).

It’s a fantastic achievement - very well done👏

In reality most people aren’t interest in others achievements it’s given for you to feel good.

Congratulations 🎊

I really don't agree with this.
I have various friends that have achieved big things in their lives through pure slog and commitment.

I am so proud of them, celebrate them, remind them of how proud I am of them and how I live vicariously through their achievements.😁
We are all women in our late 50's and 60's and we definitely celebrate each other.

I think this is very normal when you genuinely care for someone.