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Be honest: do you check your blind spot?

348 replies

Blueeberry · 25/01/2026 18:53

I check mine (by quickly looking over my shoulder) religiously anytime I’m changing lane, especially on the motorway. Was speaking with a family member today however who seemed to think that blind spots were some sort of urban myth and insisted that you can see everything by just looking in your mirrors…

When I kindly informed her that no, you can’t see everything in your mirrors she told me that my idea of checking over my shoulder is ridiculous and dangerous, there’s no way that she’d feel comfortable doing it whilst driving. AIBU to think WTF?!

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cardibach · 25/01/2026 19:48

WaitingForMojo · 25/01/2026 19:34

Thanks for this! Maybe the OP will struggle to believe you too 🙄

I can believe it based on the number of times people pull out dangerously close or try to pull our while I’m alongside. It just seems stupid. A quick check is easy and safe.

JG24 · 25/01/2026 19:48

I do if for some reason I'm not already aware of what's around me, for example if I've just merged onto the motorway or been in one lane a while and lost track of what cars are where

Cathmawr · 25/01/2026 19:48

I'm surprised how divided driving instructors are from reading these comments! I was a late learner, only passed in August last year and my instructor taught me to check my blind spot.

BlackSheepThisYear · 25/01/2026 19:49

Ex biker. Always check.

Blueeberry · 25/01/2026 19:49

ClaredeBear · 25/01/2026 19:23

I do because many years ago I almost caused an accident and the shock never left me.

This is exactly what happened to me. I used to be a bit more relaxed and it was 50/50 as to whether I checked or not. After a near miss with a car that seemed to come out of nowhere I always check now!! Sometimes a scare is needed.

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olympicsrock · 25/01/2026 19:49

Springflowersyay · 25/01/2026 19:05

No. I look in my mirrors, don’t change lane immediately and then check again, then move.
Anything hidden on the first look would appear on the second ad the blind spot is very small. If there was nothing on the first look it wouldn’t have whizzed up behind me quick enough to be hidden on the second look.
if I twist to look over my shoulder, I run the risk of swerving as my upper body movement would turn the wheel, which is more unsafe, IMO

You are not safe to be driving then

godmum56 · 25/01/2026 19:49

UnalliterativeGeorge · 25/01/2026 18:58

Yes, because DH rides motorbikes.

This. Never forgotten my lovely driving instructor (safely) showing me a milk float in my blindspot.

soupyspoon · 25/01/2026 19:50

I was specifically told off in my driving lessons for looking over my shoulder, told 'keep your eyes front and on your mirrors'

However to my mind that is not foolproof and so I am religious about it

Im so fastidious about it that every time I do it, a fleeting thought goes through my head that if I have any accident in a car it will be the one rare time when I have thought Ive checked and hadnt, it would be sods law

Namechange568899542 · 25/01/2026 19:50

Teeheehee1579 · 25/01/2026 19:02

That is categorically not correct. I just double checked the driving theory test website and it confirms that you do have to look over your shoulder to check your blind spot. Are you and your son definitely talking about checking over your right shoulder after you’ve checked mirrors and before you move? Because what you have both been told if so, is not correct.

Yep. Learnt to drive last year and this is very much correct, no idea why other people are disputing it. You can’t see everything from your mirrors and anyone that thinks they can has just been lucky to not get into an accident as a result of it.

soupyspoon · 25/01/2026 19:53

HighStreetOtter · 25/01/2026 19:35

That’s exactly what DD’s instructor told her. He said she’d fail her test if she looked over her shoulder. She passed first time and didn’t look over her shoulder.

Yes I was told I would fail my test if I did it.

Femalemachinest · 25/01/2026 19:53

WaitingForMojo · 25/01/2026 18:58

I learnt to drive later in life, about 5 years ago. My instructor told me that looking over your shoulder is a no-no, and that you’ll fail your test for it. The thing to do is check mirrors.

However, I do still look over my shoulder now I’ve passed!

How else do you check your blind spot if you dont physically look? This is taken from the RAC website.

  1. Check the blind spot by turning your head and looking out of the window over your right or left shoulder (checking around any door frames or pillars)
onlyoneoftheregimentinstep · 25/01/2026 19:54

When I learnt to
drive, over 50 years ago, blind spots were very much a thing. But technology has moved on, and modern mirrors and cameras now do the job for you.

MovedlikeHarlowinMonteCarlo · 25/01/2026 19:54

I wonder if it's just one particular area of the country that is teaching people not to check their blind spot.

ValidPistachio · 25/01/2026 19:55

Happydays321 · 25/01/2026 18:56

You don't need to look over your shoulder, you should know what's around you by constantly checking your rear view and wing mirrors not by looking over your shoulder.

Absolute garbage.

Iamsotiredandfedup · 25/01/2026 19:56

Very simple question for those of you that rely on your mirrors alone, why is it called a “blind spot” if you can see everything in your mirror?

SunnyViper · 25/01/2026 19:56

My cars for the last ten years or so have had a blind spot indicator.

fashionqueen0123 · 25/01/2026 19:56

Springflowersyay · 25/01/2026 19:05

No. I look in my mirrors, don’t change lane immediately and then check again, then move.
Anything hidden on the first look would appear on the second ad the blind spot is very small. If there was nothing on the first look it wouldn’t have whizzed up behind me quick enough to be hidden on the second look.
if I twist to look over my shoulder, I run the risk of swerving as my upper body movement would turn the wheel, which is more unsafe, IMO

Why is your upper body touching the wheel?
If you are moving the wheel by checking a blind spot you need to move the seat. It’s dangerous not to check

fashionqueen0123 · 25/01/2026 19:57

This thread is terrifying

TheChosenTwo · 25/01/2026 19:58

I do every single time because not long after I passed my test I was moving from the outside lane of a motorway into the middle lane and almost totally missed the car in the left hand driving lane moving into the middle overtaking lane. It really shit me up. 15 years later I’ll never forget how scary it was and I’m a religious mirror and blind spot checker.

menopausalmare · 25/01/2026 19:58

ALWAYS, having nearly side-swiped a car on the M3 over 25 years ago. Scared the bejesus out of me.

GiantTeddyIsTired · 25/01/2026 19:58

I was a biker before I drove cars - I always do the life-saver before I move over - it was ingrained in me by my boyfriends, CBT instructor, and the motorbike test assessor, plus my dad, my friends, every bike magazine etc.

And because I've had to train the kids, I do the same before I open the door too.

AtLeastThreeDrinks · 25/01/2026 19:59

This really explains the many near-miss side swipes I’ve experienced on UK motorways. Other drivers terrify me! I always do the lifesaver look before changing lanes and when passing slip lanes as cars hurtle along them. I was taught to always check your blind spot… it seems mad that instructors are telling learners not to. Are lots of people really lane drifting from a quick head turn? It’s not much further than glancing in the wing mirrors which presumably (hopefully) they’re doing.

thecomedyofterrors · 25/01/2026 20:01

Every single time. One near miss when I was a learner, 20+ years ago and now every single time!

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 25/01/2026 20:02

Happydays321 · 25/01/2026 18:56

You don't need to look over your shoulder, you should know what's around you by constantly checking your rear view and wing mirrors not by looking over your shoulder.

This is what I was taught! When I said it on a thread a few years back everyone went nuts and told me how lucky I was I hadn't caused a crash. I don't think it was luck. I think it was consistently checking the mirrors and being aware of the vehicles around me.

WaitingForMojo · 25/01/2026 20:02

cardibach · 25/01/2026 19:48

I can believe it based on the number of times people pull out dangerously close or try to pull our while I’m alongside. It just seems stupid. A quick check is easy and safe.

I agree, which is why, as I said, I do check.

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