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Be honest: do you check your blind spot?

348 replies

Blueeberry · 25/01/2026 18:53

I check mine (by quickly looking over my shoulder) religiously anytime I’m changing lane, especially on the motorway. Was speaking with a family member today however who seemed to think that blind spots were some sort of urban myth and insisted that you can see everything by just looking in your mirrors…

When I kindly informed her that no, you can’t see everything in your mirrors she told me that my idea of checking over my shoulder is ridiculous and dangerous, there’s no way that she’d feel comfortable doing it whilst driving. AIBU to think WTF?!

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HighStreetOtter · 25/01/2026 20:20

JanuaryJasmine · 25/01/2026 20:13

She would have passed if she had looked over her shoulder too.

The fact that some mirin's are teaching mearnsmers not to LOOK us fucking frightening & another reason our rusds have become so dangerous. Teach her to LOOK. If she drifts. Practice.

I ve tried telling her as has my brother but she won’t listen 🤷‍♀️

2025mustbebetter · 25/01/2026 20:20

Husband is newly qualified driving instructor. Yes you do need to check your blind spot whenever moving away or changing lanes!

JanuaryJasmine · 25/01/2026 20:21

onlyoneoftheregimentinstep · 25/01/2026 19:54

When I learnt to
drive, over 50 years ago, blind spots were very much a thing. But technology has moved on, and modern mirrors and cameras now do the job for you.

I don't trust them like I trust my own eyes. Yeo they're useful tools when getting ready to make a move, but will never replace my eyes to check properly.

HighStreetOtter · 25/01/2026 20:22

RoastBanana · 25/01/2026 20:18

I know lazy journalists from the Daily Mail sometimes pick up Mumsnet threads. I think this is one thread that deserves - NEEDS! - to be picked up & covered nationally. Because there are obstinate people on here who are a terrifying danger to others and should not be on the road - and no doubt many many more, too many, in the country at large.

People need educating about this - which absolutely should not be the case.

I hate to think of my DP on his bike being injured or killed by one of these people ranting about how if they move their head right to look in the blind spot they will have to move the wheel right too. Just crazy.

I think it’s bonkers that some driving instructors are actively teaching this.

JanuaryJasmine · 25/01/2026 20:23

fashionqueen0123 · 25/01/2026 19:57

This thread is terrifying

Explains a lot though!

godmum56 · 25/01/2026 20:24

WaitingForMojo · 25/01/2026 20:06

Repeatedly checking mirrors is what I was taught to do.

I personally find it feels safer to look over my shoulder quickly though, and I do that now. I don’t see how you’d drift, but that was the instructor’s rationale.

My instructor taught me NOT to drift

AnSolas · 25/01/2026 20:24

HighStreetOtter · 25/01/2026 19:30

Dd was told this as well. She was strictly told that looking over your shoulder is dangerous as you may drift out your lane. Ive been doing it for 30 years with no drifting.. 🤷‍♀️

anyway at the time I started a thread on MN about this as I thought she must be wrong and the general consensus was that shoulder checks are out dated and no longer taught.

Is this along with "your lane is (only) your lane" and once you are in it you can ignore giving way to the right?

HighStreetOtter · 25/01/2026 20:25

onlyoneoftheregimentinstep · 25/01/2026 19:54

When I learnt to
drive, over 50 years ago, blind spots were very much a thing. But technology has moved on, and modern mirrors and cameras now do the job for you.

I’ve been driving over 30 years and my mirrors now are exactly the same as they were in my 1972 Datsun and the same as in my 1980s micra 🤷‍♀️. I don’t have a camera. Sure if I had a fancy car with technology like a Tesla then maybe it’s not necessary but i think the majority of cars don’t have such technology.

JanuaryJasmine · 25/01/2026 20:25

GiantTeddyIsTired · 25/01/2026 19:58

I was a biker before I drove cars - I always do the life-saver before I move over - it was ingrained in me by my boyfriends, CBT instructor, and the motorbike test assessor, plus my dad, my friends, every bike magazine etc.

And because I've had to train the kids, I do the same before I open the door too.

Everyone (physically able) should have to ride a bike before getting a car licence.

Oreosareawful · 25/01/2026 20:25

I had an accident in my early twenties when I pulled off without looking over my shoulder and hit a passing car. Totally my fault and I’ve never ever not checked over my shoulder again. Lesson learnt. Blind spots are there

ZoggyStirdust · 25/01/2026 20:26

WaitingForMojo · 25/01/2026 18:58

I learnt to drive later in life, about 5 years ago. My instructor told me that looking over your shoulder is a no-no, and that you’ll fail your test for it. The thing to do is check mirrors.

However, I do still look over my shoulder now I’ve passed!

Yep this
modern cars have better mirrors that minimise blind spots, but also the width of the door pillars now is much wider so there’s little to no benefit trying to look over your shoulder.

also, it’s now understood that it’s worse to look behind while driving as it actually increases the risk due to swerving or drifting.

so it’s a pretty dated thing now tbh

Notmyreality · 25/01/2026 20:27

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 25/01/2026 20:02

This is what I was taught! When I said it on a thread a few years back everyone went nuts and told me how lucky I was I hadn't caused a crash. I don't think it was luck. I think it was consistently checking the mirrors and being aware of the vehicles around me.

You aren’t wrong. You should be checking your mirrors constantly such that you always have a full picture of what is around you at any one time. Add a quick blind spot check just in case and you have the best of both worlds. I do wonder how many of the people on here spouting they always check their blinds spot also maintain ongoing awareness of what is around them. I bet a significant majority have little idea what is around them until it comes time for the manoeuver at which point they start their checks. That’s a dangerous way to drive also.

JanuaryJasmine · 25/01/2026 20:28

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 25/01/2026 20:02

This is what I was taught! When I said it on a thread a few years back everyone went nuts and told me how lucky I was I hadn't caused a crash. I don't think it was luck. I think it was consistently checking the mirrors and being aware of the vehicles around me.

It's bith, but now you know better. Do you do better?

soupyspoon · 25/01/2026 20:28

ZoggyStirdust · 25/01/2026 20:26

Yep this
modern cars have better mirrors that minimise blind spots, but also the width of the door pillars now is much wider so there’s little to no benefit trying to look over your shoulder.

also, it’s now understood that it’s worse to look behind while driving as it actually increases the risk due to swerving or drifting.

so it’s a pretty dated thing now tbh

I was told this over 20 years ago and not just from one instructor either, I dont think its a modern thing.

HighStreetOtter · 25/01/2026 20:29

AnSolas · 25/01/2026 20:24

Is this along with "your lane is (only) your lane" and once you are in it you can ignore giving way to the right?

Not sure I understand?

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 25/01/2026 20:30

ZoggyStirdust · 25/01/2026 20:26

Yep this
modern cars have better mirrors that minimise blind spots, but also the width of the door pillars now is much wider so there’s little to no benefit trying to look over your shoulder.

also, it’s now understood that it’s worse to look behind while driving as it actually increases the risk due to swerving or drifting.

so it’s a pretty dated thing now tbh

But it’s in the Highway Code!

I think it’s mad that some instructors are teaching one thing and others teaching the opposite.

Someone up thread said some professions disagree - but this is not the sort of profession that can have opinions l!!! You teach a set of standards aligned with a code. You need consistency and the test should then be built on this.

Owly11 · 25/01/2026 20:30

Every single time, yes. When I was a learner I nearly pulled into a car who was in my blind spot and it shocked me so much I always looked over my shoulder. I just can't see why not - it takes a second and means you know for sure that the lane is clear.

BringBackCatsEyes · 25/01/2026 20:30

As a cyclist (not on the motorway obv!) I am very vigilant about checking my blind spot. See also : opening car doors!

carconcerns · 25/01/2026 20:30

Each and every time.

Passed a decade ago.

Also - ALWAYS use indicators. Cannot understand people who wait to see if they need to indicate - just bloody do it!

The number of times I'm approaching roundabouts etc and I have to stop when it wouldn't have been necessary if the lazy arse to the right could be bothered to lift their finger. This laziness slows down everyone and the flow of traffic, not to mention is a danger to pedestrians you may not have noticed. I'll never understand why some people are such selfish and unaware drivers.

I do wonder if they're the same people who can't drive shopping trolleys or stand talking in shop doorways or the top of the escalators.

Areyoiboredyet · 25/01/2026 20:31

My car (Seat Leon) flashes orange on the inside of my doors when there’s anything on either side, even bushes if I’m a bit close. I still check but not as rigorously as in my last car

Xkk · 25/01/2026 20:31

Happydays321 · 25/01/2026 18:56

You don't need to look over your shoulder, you should know what's around you by constantly checking your rear view and wing mirrors not by looking over your shoulder.

Is called blind spot because you can not see it in any of the mirrors nor in your peripheral vision. The position of the other car should be it's front just at the half of your own car or something similar.
Yes, religiously. I passed my test many moons ago but still have the instructor's in mind "MMS-mirror mirror shoulder" never change lanes or pull out without these 3 checks that take a split second each

Flourshiba · 25/01/2026 20:32

🙋🏼‍♀️ every time. And a very few times I’ve been genuinely astonished to see a car there, I 💯 would have missed it if I hadn’t checked my blind spot

ConvolutedCat · 25/01/2026 20:33

LVhandbagsatdawn · 25/01/2026 19:00

That's great, what happens when it breaks?

And how about not indicating until you know it’s safe to pull out? 😬😣

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 25/01/2026 20:34

HighStreetOtter · 25/01/2026 20:29

Not sure I understand?

I think they mean lane hoggers. People who pick a lane. Drive slow or just don’t adapt to what’s going on around them

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