Sharing a bathroom with my neighbour is slowly breaking me

[beefthief]

Thread title: Sharing a bathroom with my neighbour is slowly breaking me
OP — Posted by: WallTooThin
I need to vent and also check if I’m losing my mind.
I share a bathroom with my neighbour (old building, “temporary” setup that has now lasted 3 years 🙃). On paper it sounded fine. In reality? Absolute chaos.

They will occupy the bathroom for 45 minutes minimum. Shower, music blasting, mirror monologues, the works. Meanwhile I’m doing the pee-dance in my hallway like an idiot. Knocking does nothing. Texting does nothing. It’s like once they cross the bathroom threshold, the outside world ceases to exist.

Hair. Everywhere. Sink, floor, shower walls. I don’t even know how one person produces this much hair. The toilet seat is also constantly left up, which would be annoying but fine—except they also don’t wipe it. I shouldn’t have to mentally prepare myself every time I need to sit down.

I’ve tried being polite. I’ve tried hints. I’ve tried schedules. Nothing sticks longer than a week.

Has anyone survived a shared-bathroom situation like this? Do I confront them directly, or do I just accept that this is my villain origin story?

Not the UK then?

This person needs help, not a grammar lesson.
I feel your being a bit insensitive.

No. But use of google for example, streaming services on TV, even doing the washing up or taking long showers are all activities that people do all the time without giving any consideration to the environmental impact. Using AI is not 'worse' than all the other things people do! An AI search is equivalent to 90 seconds of video streaming. How many people binge watch Netflix for hours on end and nobody is shaming them for the environmental impact! One litre of water is around 20-50 AI queries. How many times have you accidentally left the water running while you brush your teeth or overrun a bath or even chosen a bath over a shower? AI is part of modern life now. It's no worse than any of the other myriad terrible things we do daily that are destroying the environment. Singling out use of AI whilst doing everything else harmful is hypocritical, ignorant and dogmatic.

They're not giving a grammar lesson though? People are just saying that using AI is becoming all too common and an imperfect, human post is preferable to basically getting a machine to think and work for you.

It’s got nothing whatsoever about grammar, it’s about using AI to create something that should be done by a human mind, however badly spelled or structured that human created post might be.

I’d much prefer a badly spelled post with poor grammar that doesn’t use water and energy over a rambling, incomprehensible post that accelerates climate change.

For goodness sake, this thread has been derailed and is now a discussion around the use of AI. If you want to discuss this, start your own thread as it is not helping the OP at all.

I’d much prefer a badly spelled post with poor grammar

Same, and I've actively started liking posts from businesses more on FB that are sometimes imperfect, with spelling mistakes etc, as it's infinitely preferable to blatant AI shite.

I lived in a set-up like this year ago, where we had individual flats but the loos and the bathroom were shared.
If the OP is living in a situation like this and is in England/Wales, the landlord may be responsible for maintaining the common parts, including cleaning (as happened in the place I lived). If the OP is sharing a house/flat, this wouldn't apply. It won't address the neighbour's behaviour but might make things a bit better.
If the OP was placed in this accommodation by eg the council or housing provider, might be worth asking to be moved.

Maybe you can use those 45 minutes as an opportunity to gather your own thoughts rather than using AI.

No. We should call this shit out every single time.

I'm very confused about the pinned post (first post after the OP)

What's that all about? 😳

Can anyone else see it?

It could all have been so easily avoided if they hadn't had used it in the first place and made more sense as a result.
If you're going to blatantly use AI for posts people are going to have an issue with that, not just be like "nothing to see here" and pretend it's not there.

Yes, not sure what that's about either.

👏👏👏

Well the OP can't even be bothered to come back and clarify their stupid-ass problem, so it's quite reasonable for us to discuss actual problems like the environmental impact of AI.

Yes, in the 1980s I lived in a bedsit with a shared bathroom and kitchen. Think Rising Damp but with an even more creepy landlord. I can well believe these places still exist

This isn’t allowed£ in uk…where are you?

It is allowed in a HMO where the rooms are self contained bedsits

Yes. V odd. Almost as though they want to preserve the fact it was generated by AI by pinning it to the top to make a point of it. Bizarre...

Complaint to landlord or move out.

It’s the double dash that gives it away that the post is AI generated.
you would have more luck and more sympathy if you just explained it in your own words

Sorry but I haven't seen a set up like this since the early 80s.

So the bathroom is in neither one of your flats? Like in a corridor?

If it's actually physically inside your own house I'd just stop letting them use it. If it's inside theirs then I'd not really have a leg to stand on complaints wise.

Where is the other bathroom/what's wrong with it/why does the landlord rent out properties without bathrooms? Which I think is illegal.

lots of people who write complex sentences use em-dashes.

@DameOfThrones yes - I’m confused too. Is the OP beefthief or WallTooThin?
I miss the pre AI days….

never heard of houses sharing bathrooms, only HMO places odd. if it was temporary, you need to contact the landlord as its gone on too long and is not working out