Beckam Fued

[Suspiciousminds2]

I am curious to know what other mumsneters think of Brooklyn Beckham latest Instagram story, revealing his side of the story. I for one certainly believe everything he has said, and I am slightly unnerved by the hate he is receiving from people and the “you only get one mother” “spoilt brat” “he would be nothing without them!” All true, yes, but it still does not mean that he should be controlled and dominated by his mother, and it still does not mean that it gives them endless rights to continually disrespect his wife. As the DIL who has been the victim of many many lies which have perfectly painted me as the devil, I feel for them, I really do. I have distanced myself from my own MIL but would never dream of telling my husband of keeping away from his parents, yet he does, because believe it or not he has his own mind and is capable of making his own strong decisions. The public opinion that he is being controlled by his wife, yet it was ok for him to be controlled by his mother? “ there were no issues until his wife came into their lives” well no of course there were not, because she was not there for the Bekcham to hate, disrespect and pick on…there was no other woman to threaten Victorias place as Mrs Beckham. Its saf yes that they cannot get on, but from my own personal experience (not theirs I know) we tried and tried and tried, but no apologies, no accountability and my MIL having the emotional maturity of a 2 year old toddler we had exhausted all our options and strength and happiness, and I think this is the case for Brooklyn as well.

Maybe have a look at one of the other 2 threads if you want to see people's comments?

Doesn’t matter what happened you don’t publish a warts and all story about family members

There are plenty of threads on this already @Suspiciousminds2

However I'll bite. It was a tough read, I struggle without the return button being pressed a few times in a post, but that might be just me.

I think your entire post is influenced by your personal experience, as is many people's. Your perspective is that your DH has his own mind, but perhaps he would have a different opinion if you liked your MIL.

You don't, so he's been influenced by you. That's fine, but it's not always necessarily the case that this is the gospel truth and only perspective. It's your view, and that's fine of course.

I think it is the same with BB and his wife, and his choice to reject his family. He may be doing so to 'protect' his wife and his new family, or he may be incapable of comprising and adapting to meet someone's feelings.

Both can be true, and it's all a matter of perspective.

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Blimey, and the rest! 😬

No need to be curious OP, just use Advanced Search.

Reported.

You know exactly what the OP is saying, regardless of how well they can/cannot spell.

I think in general it seems to be frowned upon if you call your parents out or you decide as a young adult you’ve had enough of them.
I mean people are more understanding if the parents have been obviously neglectful and awful and they deserve to be told where to go.

But it’s the “nice” parents who give their children a good upbringing but have an unpleasant side to them that the child sees amongst all the nice bits. So you get labelled a brat for deciding you’ve had enough.

My first thought as well.

If you don't even know their surname, why in god's name would you have an opinion on their family disputes? It's nobody's business.

Oh I’m sorry, a few typos from fat fingers is my downfall.

Will do

I'd rather have fat fingers than a narrow mind.

I had no idea there were people out there who think people who can't spell certain words or who make typos, don't actually know the words they're typing? 😳

Bizarre.

😂 thank you, I must admit I do type really quickly on the tiniest of IPhones for my fat fingers, that and no glasses was a recipe for disaster 😅

A couple of weeks ago someone helpfully wrote out a list of commonly misspelt words for dyslexics to look at and learn.

Like it's that easy. I spent 20 years going through the education system, so god knows why nobody though to do that before. Could've cured me before I hit secondary school 🙄.

It's nasty isn't it?

The area I work in has one of the highest child poverty and DV rates in London.

The local FB group for that area happens to have an above average amount of members who cannot spell very well.

Yet if they came to Mumsnet for help, they'd end up feeling like absolute shit because of their poor SPAG, on top of all the other shit going on in their lives.

This is why sadly I can't bring myself to recommend this website to them.

I had issues with my Mil and that side of the family, but kept quiet and it all came out in the end.
My instinct in this case tells me that his wife is the issue, there are reports of her being a not very nice person before all this and to have been in a similar scenario with an ex of hers
I really feel for Victoria

You only have to read the Stately Homes threads on MN to know how awful some parents can be to their children. Team Brooklyn

I think keeping quiet is wise if it does not harm anyone. I feel in this case, Brooklyn staying quiet just meant that the attacks on him and his wife for keeping their distance would continue. I think he felt their silence was detrimental to his well being and his wife’s well-being and therefore something needed to be said.

I think if you are going to gossip about strangers, you ought to at least respect them enough to spell their names correctly.

It's not like it isn't plastered all over the place.

Its not gossip, its giving and asking for peoples opinions on the very public matter, did I mention my fat fingers?

So to save from any further offence my fat fingers have caused BECKHAM thought it looked strange, but without my glasses I couldn’t figure it out…

There are 3 threads already just in trending (without spelling errors). It couldn’t be easier to find an existing thread on this topic. Why start a new thread?!

I think that all the public statements in the world aren't going to tell us, looking on from the outside, what really happened. As with all stories, there are three versions and it would be pretty daft in this case (and many others) to just decide you believe only one or the other because there is no way of verifying what we've been told. The actual truth is likely to be quite different.

The one bit I'm questioning is the first dance stuff - this was an extremely public wedding. Dramatically and ridiculously over reported, every little detail questioned and analysed. If VB really had made such a public fool of herself by hijacking the first dance and being so inappropriate, I'm pretty sure that would have been all over the press at the time. Let's face it, people are very quick to call her out for every little mistake made but I don't remember hearing about this before and I don't think most people who reported on the wedding at the time were worried about keeping face on her behalf. It does make me think that at least some of what he says was probably bullshit.

I had to go non contact with my mum after many years of “difficulties”. I think unless you r been in that situation you cant understand how awful it is and what you’ve been through. I agree with you @Suspiciousminds2 re the hate Brooklyn is getting, it’s horrible. The press will be loving this and will stretch the drama out as long as possible, taking V&Bs side because they know they will feed them stores for many years to come.

I instinctively believe Brooklyn, his post isn’t just about specific incidences like the dress or first dance, he talks about his whole life being about “The Brand”. We all witnessed those kids being used to promote the family brand. I’ve always said one of them will either go off the rails or go no contact when they realise how much they’ve been manipulated and used for money. So sad.

And you’re just rude! Have a nice day.

Well @Namechangerage I did not think to look and afterwards the one I could find were not accepting anymore comments .