Beckam Fued

[Suspiciousminds2]

I am curious to know what other mumsneters think of Brooklyn Beckham latest Instagram story, revealing his side of the story. I for one certainly believe everything he has said, and I am slightly unnerved by the hate he is receiving from people and the “you only get one mother” “spoilt brat” “he would be nothing without them!” All true, yes, but it still does not mean that he should be controlled and dominated by his mother, and it still does not mean that it gives them endless rights to continually disrespect his wife. As the DIL who has been the victim of many many lies which have perfectly painted me as the devil, I feel for them, I really do. I have distanced myself from my own MIL but would never dream of telling my husband of keeping away from his parents, yet he does, because believe it or not he has his own mind and is capable of making his own strong decisions. The public opinion that he is being controlled by his wife, yet it was ok for him to be controlled by his mother? “ there were no issues until his wife came into their lives” well no of course there were not, because she was not there for the Bekcham to hate, disrespect and pick on…there was no other woman to threaten Victorias place as Mrs Beckham. Its saf yes that they cannot get on, but from my own personal experience (not theirs I know) we tried and tried and tried, but no apologies, no accountability and my MIL having the emotional maturity of a 2 year old toddler we had exhausted all our options and strength and happiness, and I think this is the case for Brooklyn as well.

I just find the attitude to it all weird

here you have posters complaining about toxic family, abusive in laws, traumatic parents etc,

yet you have Brooklyn mentioning those topics and all of a sudden it’s “poor VB” etc. just seems like a real double standard

Brooklyn Beckham is a deeply ordinary (boy) man living an extraordinary life on the back of careers/brand his parents built. This paragraph made me laugh most:-

My wife and I do not want to live a life shaped by image, press or manipulation. All we want is peace, privacy and happiness for us and our future family.

Did he even read it? He has an ocean between him and his family, they are on another continent. They are not exactly peeping though the letter box.

By contrast look at Rocco Ritchie who has quietly made a name for himself in the art world. He completed a fine art degree at Central Saint Martins, then studied at the Royal Drawing School (who knew?). Before releasing his work under a pseudonym. We don't doubt that Madonna lead a bit of a chaotic household but he managed to go under the radar and come out of the other end respected.

None of us know what really happened or what the truth is. We will never know. D&V as far as I know have never commented publicly. Its the media that have hyped the situation and forced BB to make that statement. Even if its all true... as some contradictions have been found. He is entitled to his feelings. But You keep your family's business private. Seems like they have struck a Friendship of sort with Prince Harry and have followed suit in publicly revealing family business.

There’s a million threads already on this

This is what I am really struggling with! I saw a comment on SM yesterday saying “if it wasn’t for your parents, you’d be working in Aldi mate!” Erm… yes, and? He would still fall in love, he would still get married and he would probably still have to protect his wife from his families disrespect if they are that kind of people. Just because he was born into a rich family doesn’t equate to good moral respectful parents who give him space and respect his choice of spouse.

Yes… so ive bern told many many times , heres another one 😂

But his family buisness has never been private and it was not now. Rumours flying around about the cause of distance at the detriment of his wifes mental wellbeing, he had to address it.

No but it's a lot less painful on a sleeping on a feather bed with cashmere blankets and than having to walk home from the Twilight shift because you've missed the last bus and can't afford a taxi

It seems strange to me that people are so vehemently on one side or the other when we only know one side of this story. If BB and his wife want peace and privacy as they say, i don't think his public complaints about his family are the best way to achieve that end. Sadly i dont think we have heard the last of this and it could tragically get much worse for these families.
I think therapy would have been a better option for everyone involved tbh because what is clear their is emotional pain on all sides of this.

Why did he? They didn't. Between them they know the truth. Im sure it was affecting all of them.
As I said the only people who speculated and made anything of it was the press. They kept digging.
Didn't he say something in his statement about wanting a private life... yet he knew full well that statement would draw worldwide attention

And even if he felt like he had to address the situation publicly he could have just said the matter is being dealt with privately and no further comments will be made.

But don’t you think he saw his wife being completely ripped to shreds? The media jumping to conclusions and the regular jo blogs jumping in with the “poor David and Victoria!” “You only gwt one mum” “his wife is evil” “shes behind this all” Of course he was going to say something, to at least try to set straight what has happened. If thats your argument David and Victoria as parents and good in-laws should also have been stepping in tbh to tell the press enough “the matter is being dealt with” don’t you think he deserved the chance to stand up for himself, his wife and ask to be left alone, how else was he going to ask for that exactly?

But he felt the need to desperately defend his wife who probably put up with a lot and was being vilified even further for it.

Im pretty sure the pain in your heart would still be the same…

https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSahba14G/ This lady has a point.

So his mother being ripped to shreads is ok? Isn't that what you've just said he was wanting to protect his wife from?
D&V made no comments publicly as far as I am aware.
As I've said no one knows the truth and we never will. Like you say it's all press speculation.

Unfortunately, rightly or wrongly stories about celebrities will always circulate. They are accustomed to it and must have to just igbore, ignore ignore. The best way to deal with them is say nothing at all. Perhaps D&V should have said it's a private matter, would it have stopped further press speculation, I think not. Probably fuelled their intensity in digging around.
Would it have stopped BB making this statement, who knows?
No one would be interested in this drama if it was John, Sandra and David from your street.

Regarding his mother being ripped to shreds, I just think that if she really is the cause of all this harm, then Brooklyn stating the truth should not been seen as ripping her to shreds, its just him telling the truth, and if that paints her in a poor light, I just think that its on her.

@Suspiciousminds2 I don't necessarily agree with airing this worldwide is the best thing for anyone. Especially when BB says he wants privacy.
BB would obviously be upset at his mother's behaviour on his wedding day if it's true. But why now ? Why not decide to take this action straight after the wedding? And if it's true then VB will have to bear the consequences of her behaviour.

Because he saw the stories and rumours ripping his wife to shreds making his wife look like the devil whilst all the while the distance happened be because D&V could not be respectful? He was keeping quiet, but someone wasn’t, but again and again he respected privacy enough to keep it shut, untill he and his wife could stand it no more. Nicola posted a photo of her and her mother on social media the other day saying how thankful she was of her mother, and the comments beneath were absolutely disgusting tbh. How that girl must be feeling from allegedly being continually disrespected by her in-laws to then being bullied online.

Airing your dirty washing in public is never a good idea plus always at least two sides to every story so I think the petulant child and his parents should hammer their differences out privately instead of broadcasting them to the world.
Somewhere lies the truth and all this hoo ha will die down soon enough.

What stories and rumours ripping his wife to shreds? No one this side of the Atlantic had heard of the Peltz family before getting together with Brooklyn. What does he have to defend? Faceless comments from idiots on the keyboard. There is a very simple solution - stop posting. Turn off the comments

The couple had 500/600 guests at their first wedding. Surely that would give a friendly base for a private account. An ideal place to declare your gratitude and respect for your Mother.

Brooklyn stating that 'he and his wife don't want to live a life of image, press and manipulation. All we want is peace, privacy and happiness for us and our future family'. He may have posted that but clearly he didn't write it or is living it.

I don't doubt he has issues resulting from those early years in the public eye. He probably was a guinea pig for early tabloid/social media. But it's hard to feel sorry for him when he could easily step out of the limelight and stop relying on likes and followers for self esteem.

As with Prince Harry, it's hard to come back from public mud slinging. There are always consequences to hurting people.

There are ALWAYS consequences for hurting people yes, and that works both ways. This has triggered me so much because I was bullied relentlessly by my SIL, until i eventually took myself out of the situation, out of her life and blocked her on all SM to give myself space to heal. Her reaction to this? Doubling down, bullying harder, and posted similar to what you have just said (a family member i formed me) something along the lines of “actions have consequences, before you act, make sure you’re ready for them!” I thought to myself, does this woman know how badly she is eating her own words? So yes actions have consequences BOTH ways

It's unfortunate that this has triggered bad SIL memories for you which could be clouding your view. It sounds like you did the right thing, you stepped back and disengaged - you behaved with dignity, unlike the interfering family member relaying posts you didn't want to read.

I am assuming you do not have 16.9 million followers on Instagram. That is the combined population of Sweden (where I reside) and Denmark. He describes himself as an Entrepreneur and a 'founder' he has two flavours of hot sauce that are sold in Whole Foods. He leads a very public life on the back of the Beckham name and his parents hard work.

I don't doubt the Beckham's run a tight ship, being protective and probably been controlling. But now, he is a grown man, married and living on a different continent. There is distance. If those six pages were what he had to say, he could have copied it out in long hand (there is no way he wrote that himself ...... Omid Scobie) and sent it to one of the Beckham's many addresses.

@Suspiciousminds2 I am sorry for your experience with your SIL. It sounds like you dealt with it in the correct way. No one condone the actions on your SIL.
However D&V as far as I am aware have never publicly criticised or attacked Nicola. They may have raised concerns, opinions, thoughts privately with BB which they can do. Its a natural instinct to do so. He might not have like it / appreciated it. IF, the suggestions about his wife, being controlling etc are true he won't see it, he will always support his wife and like you say he might not realise it being in the situation in the moment, and this is his natural reaction. But the fact his parents may have had this conversation with him privately doesn't mean it's right for him to have done what he has. I don't think for one minute any of them are perfect, not perfect parents and not perfect children.
Let's not forget the only people speculating, writing stories with unverified names / unverified sources are the press which attracts the comments and fuels the nasty comments from people hiding behind anonymous names or the keyboard. The don't know these people and being in the public eye they have to ignore. I know is easier said than done but they are unknown to these people.
I don't want to get into the realms of that he's neve had a proper job etc etc because I doubt his wife has either. But like a PP said she was unknown to most of us before she was in a relationship with BB. So she may have had some thriving career im unaware of. BB has lived a very privileged life thanks to his parents and I doubt he was complaining in all of his younger years. I accept it might always have been his choice etc. And your job etc has nothing to do with how you treat your family, he has publicly attacked his family, and seemed intent on focusing on VB on the back of press speculation and perhaps private conversations they have had that the world is unaware of. He also knows D&V probably won't publicly respond.