I met a guy around 7 months ago - we’d both not long left relationships but we hit it off and have been together ever since. Outside of all this he really does appear to be perfect.
Anyway a month into dating and I got messages from his ex saying that they were still in love, he’d cut her off but had been messaging to say he still loved her and missed her. She wouldn’t provide proof to me of these messages.
Naturally I confronted him and he showed me a number of messages but couldn’t account for certain blanks. It became
apparent he’d been with his sister to see his ‘ex’ in a show about 2 weeks after we started dating and they had exchanged messages that night. Whilst the tone of was one of an ending relationship he did say things like ‘how I feel is love but you don’t feel the same, you’re not confident in us to announce us to your family/friends. Ending with I have to move on as all you’re offering me is eternal dating.
i was pretty devastated but as it was early days I could deal with it. Her behaviour got very erratic, threatening my car and his family until in early September we reported her to the police. She has bail conditions so we’ve not had further contact. I had to give a statement to the police who in not so
many words said it was apparent to them that their relationship wasn’t over fully until late August but without evidence I could see. I should say we’ve spent every day together so I know he wasn’t physically seeing her.
Again I found it hurtful but dealt with it.
Today I have found out through chance that after the apparent post show break up exchange he was liking social media posts she was featured in. He told me she was blocked and it’s coincidental however he has only liked posts she is in and even liked the same post across Facebook and Instagram. These posts were early July to mid August and show a clear pattern of behaviour. He says he can’t remember why he liked them but it must have been an accident but I don’t buy it. It seems in fact he stopped as we considered going to the police at which point he would be seen to be causing issues had he maintained contact. He makes a good point that if he wanted her back he could have easily gone back to her when she begged him multiple times. But I have a gut feeling I don’t have the full truth and don’t know I can continue to be in a relationship if I don’t have that.
AIBU to think he’s pulling the wool over my eyes.