Does anyone else just like being home?

[jessiefletch89]

Sometimes it drives me mad but mostly I just enjoy being at home with my dc and dh. Life is hectic with work and chores. I try to keep busy with youngest dc on my days off. Weekends are often taken up with eldest’s activity. We have no family help.

I have lots of friends who always want to plan things. I love my friends and I’m happy to have days out with them now and then be it a spa day or lunches or nights out. But it seems like lots of them are wanting to plan weekends away for birthdays and hen doos this year (abroad has been mentioned) and the thought just fills me with dread.

My dh is a capable father but I’m definitely the default parent and I do have some anxiety about leaving dc. But mostly I just can’t be arsed. I like my home comforts. I don’t want to have to share a hotel room. I like my boring routine and while my friendships are important, being with my dc when they are little is more important. I don’t know how to convey this to friends who see a weekend away as an escape and don’t want to go home!

And dont get me wrong sometimes I want to pull my hair out and think a break might do me good, but I also can’t really force myself to spend money and annual leave on things I don’t really want to do. Is this just me? Am I officially boring?

I was thinking the same thing myself. For me, it’s not even about the financial aspect of it. We usually take a lot of foreign holidays. But this year I’ve decided to stay at home more. I don’t even want to go away within the UK. I like my house, I like where I live and I work hard and the ideal of just chilling out in my own house seems far more appealing than packing, unpacking, flying etc. 2026 is the year of the staycation, as far as I’m concerned.

No, I have to say that the older I get, the more I want to get out an actually do stuff, and live a little. I didn’t travel enough when I was younger, and whilst I had a great time, I wish I’d done more. Staring down the barrel of 50 has made me realise how fast time slips away.

Each to their own though, there’s no right or wrong.

Hell yeah! Home is the best! I love sitting on the sofa and I love family time with the kids and DH. I absolutely don’t love all the tidying up and feeding people, obviously. But I LOVE being home. I love my house, love my stuff, love my people.

Means I have to go out lots though - I would honestly stay home for days if I had nothing in the diary and although I do love being home, I know I’d get very lonely and depressed. Balance is key in all things isn’t it, being home is better if you’re not there all the time.

I love being home indoors my safe space.

I really love being at home.

I really love being at home.
I love having nothing planned and nowhere to go. I know that's boring and I don't care.

I’m like this now, I didn’t used to be I turned 50 and basically thought I can’t be faffed. This yet like another poster I’ve said to DH lets explore the UK we have trips booked to York so far, that’s it.

I’m the same as you. X

I am retired. I like to go out in the afternoon. Apart from that, mornings and evenings, I like to be at home.

No, I can't really relate to this. Sure, a relaxing day at home is nice now and again, and I love my house. But I also love holidays, days out, gong to the park, eating out, meeting friends, the cinema, the beach, going for a walk, and lots of other activities. I try for a balance.

I like being at home and am secretly quite pleased when plans get cancelled 😂, but...I do love going on holiday! At home, I look around and things need doing-cleaning, tidying, gardening etc. on holiday-I can look around and if something needs doing, it's not my problem!

I like these things too. I don’t mean literally never going out I just mean going away without my family and constant nights out and so on.

I also don't like constant nights out, in fact I rarely go out at night. I do the cinema and meals early. But now my DS is older I really enjoy a few days away with my friends or my sister, and go away once or twice a year on my own. DH and DS enjoy a different kind of holiday to me so it's a chance to have a 'sun and sea' break which they don't really like. I love sea swimming so love a chance for a few days on a nice beach. I didn't notice if your kids are young, I think that makes a big difference to if you like to get away on your own.

I love being home but also love having the odd plan with friends. Maybe just be a bit selective on what you decide to say yes to.

I live alone, am fortunate enough to be able to work part time, and love my time at home. I have a handful of like minded friends locally, and no one is forever planning stuff. When we meet it's all very low key, maybe once a month.
I have 2 seperate weeks away abroad each year, and that's enough for me.
I had a very 'full on' job until my late 40s - shifts, call ins, unexpectedly working late as something has cropped up - so now I very much enjoy the peace and quiet.

Ours 3 had 15 min reading daily and 3x10 min math split over week in primary school.
I think it was nice to see them work and to sit with them.
I think they benefitted from it.

One of life’s greatest reliefs is having planned to meet up with a friend…and then they have to postpone or cancel. The sheer loveliness of knowing I can stay at home instead is just bliss. 😀

I enjoy going out with my family or going on holiday. I only work 2 days a week (after working ft for years) but I love being at home. I can find loads to do. I have colleagues who say they are bored after being on leave etc. I could never be bored at home, I can find plenty to occupy me both in and out of the house.

@silverringpoles

why?? Surely you like your friends and enjoy seeing them?

@jessiefletch89

just out of interest, when you say ‘home comforts’…what are you referring to? Surely whatever hotel you’re staying in or wherever has all the same or similar stuff in it as to what you have at home?

and you don’t need to clean at a hotel like you do at home!!

I am not fond of going out at night. But I love being out and about in the day and then returning to my beautiful home. I balance seeing people with a few days of not seeing people. And I never see people out of duty.

Totally normal when life is otherwise hectic. Don’t feel guilty for wanting to relax in the comfort of your home, it is difficult to juggle everything all the time, keeping everyone happy and included

@Bbq1

such as? What do you do? Besides cleaning and tidying? I guess watching tv, reading, crafts, gardening in summer but anything else?

Only if I'm home alone 😂 with DD I try and strike a balance of out doing stuff and home to relax. If we have a whole day stuck in I do the dog walk and go to the gym while DH stays home, I get cabin fever if everyone else is hanging around too

Yes of course but I also love a sudden unplanned opportunity to stay at home and do nothing. It probably boils down to personality type. I’m likely an ambivert - I enjoy seeing people but I get my ‘energy’ from unwinding at home.