Does anyone else just like being home?

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Sometimes it drives me mad but mostly I just enjoy being at home with my dc and dh. Life is hectic with work and chores. I try to keep busy with youngest dc on my days off. Weekends are often taken up with eldest’s activity. We have no family help.

I have lots of friends who always want to plan things. I love my friends and I’m happy to have days out with them now and then be it a spa day or lunches or nights out. But it seems like lots of them are wanting to plan weekends away for birthdays and hen doos this year (abroad has been mentioned) and the thought just fills me with dread.

My dh is a capable father but I’m definitely the default parent and I do have some anxiety about leaving dc. But mostly I just can’t be arsed. I like my home comforts. I don’t want to have to share a hotel room. I like my boring routine and while my friendships are important, being with my dc when they are little is more important. I don’t know how to convey this to friends who see a weekend away as an escape and don’t want to go home!

And dont get me wrong sometimes I want to pull my hair out and think a break might do me good, but I also can’t really force myself to spend money and annual leave on things I don’t really want to do. Is this just me? Am I officially boring?

Well, I think it sounds spectacularly dull, yes, but you do you.

Writing, shopping, having family over. Going to the Gym if that counts as I couldn't do that if I wasn't at home. Gym and working 2 days is in an effort to manage chronic pain as a result of being diagnosed with cancer twice and treatment including a transplant. I enjoy reading and crafts yes but only watch a bit of TV during the day, if any. I also enjoy Audio books. I do courses at my local Adult Education Centre once a term. I've done 4 already and starting my 5th next month. Things like Creative writing and Calligraphy. I do tidy and clean but that's far from top of the list.

As I say I do love trips out, holidays and meetings friends occasionally for coffee too although thats often at home.

Not really because home meant jobs to do so I have always avoided. Thankfully a non issue now as i have a house husband, rather dh retired and does all housework, highly recommended 😁

We have a motorhome, go away every month or so and somewhere sunny at least once or twice a year.
I have lots of friends but in all honesty, the thought of a girly weekend away would fill me with dread. I love a days shopping, the races, lots of lunches, spa days, all fine. I do weekends away with my sister and my daughter but not really with friends.
Do what works for you OP.

Most nights I say to DH as I walk through the door, I love being home. My car has to go in for damage mending (not me, bloke at work did it) so I shall take the 3 days off and have no car and not be able to go out. Cannot be arsed with a hire car. Bliss - we live in the middle of nowhere - my DH has his own van for his work. I am so looking forward to it. Will hardly dent my seven weeks holiday that I have this year.

I think its hugely important to keep up good friendships. Because those years when your DC want your company fly by, and you don't want to be sitting in your empty nest one day, when your job is easier and your DH has less enthusiasm for things, and wish you had someone who fancied doing something fun with you.
Certainly it doesn't have to be trips abroad but a regular commitment to quality time with friends now is a good investment for later life.

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