Average age 1st time mums

[moonsovermiami]

What's the average age of a first time mum in your area?

I would say around mid-thirties is average in Australia. I was 29 when I had my first and it was considered 'young'! Most of my friends had their first around 34/35.

She didn’t say always. She said ‘statistically’.

Nobody is stating that people like your friend don’t exist, or that everyone who has their kids at X age must be Y. However, statistically, certain things are more or less common within specific demographics.

I would say mid 30’s, round here (London suburb, professional, middle class). Late 30’s isn’t uncommon.

Honestly? What nitpicking.

Simply made a comment I wasn't arguing.

It's also statistics that people who have babies older are more likely to have kids with special needs. But the so called " educatedolder parents" don't often go on abou that while they are insinuating that only poor stupid people have kids young

Three children - year 4, 3 and 1. Based on other parents in my childrens' classes in the infant school (I knew the parents better then), average age I would say most had their first between about 30 and 34. A lot are older (38/39). A few are younger but not many.

32/33ish?

I'm 37 and there seem to be lots of reception Mums the same age

I wonder how old the parents are that are actually working and not doing school drop offs? Because the ones at the school gates are either likely to be SAHM or office types working from home

The school has shrunk a bit since my year 4 started in 2021 but I would say I knew parents from each family across all three of my children's classes well enough that I could tell you their job or if they were a stay at home parent.

It's a small village school (one form entry, classes no longer full, although over subscribed when my older two were there) with not the best wrap around, although it does have it.

Mostly parents work but work around pick ups and drop off and it's typically parents who are doing those school runs. Sometimes grandparents. There is the occasional nanny at the gates (I can think of one family in the school currently using one), previously there have been two others. Most work. It wasn't uncommon to see people trying to keep themselves online on Teams in the end of term church services! Some parents split pick ups (parent one drops, parent two picks up), some use wrap around but it only goes until 5. I know of several who nip out to get the kids and dash back to log on. Several work for family businesses which offers flexibility.

I have one child left at the infant school and in that class there is an older parent (mid 50s) who does not work and one other who doesn't work but has a preschooler and is considering what to do come September. There's two on maternity leave (one will 100% return to work, the other I'm not so sure). Everyone else works. Most parents in the class are actually older. There's one who is early to mid 30s. The rest are all late 30s upwards.

Edited to add: Most people drive to this village school as it wouldn't survive on just the young families in the village. For a 3 bed house you are looking at probably about £420,000 in the cheapest near by town. In the village itself you are looking at about £700,000 and in other surrounding villages about £550,000! That probably explains why so many work!

My city caseload shows the average age of a first time grandmother is 35. My colleague up in the dales has a caseload with first time mothers with an average age of 35.

My DGS goes to a village school with 13 I. His ,year. His parents don't know any of the other parents as he is taxied In.
Only time DDor her DH have set eyes on them are at an occasional party

That's a very different atmosphere to here. There are only about three children from the village at the school, the rest drive in from various towns about 5-12 mins drive away. It's not the nearest school for anyone so no taxis in as (here at least), the LA would only fund if it's the nearest school to the home address. It's also typical here for whole class parties to happen for most children for all of reception then usually a couple in year 1 so you get to know the other parents a little. The PTA is also quite active and has a parent event in the autumn term so more opportunities to meet then. Currently 45ish in the school. It was 90 when my eldest started.

Yes they had whole class parties at reception but GDS didn't attend them all. His father doesn't drive so if his mother was at work ( every other weekend) it was impossible to get him to most of them

I'm not sure about " parent" events but know it's not the kind of thing DD would attend

Early to mid 30s in my area. Mix of professionals, sahm's etc. All university educated. Nice area, probably mid/lower middle class on average although many like myself would have grown up working class.

Ah, I see. I’m not responsible for the chip on your shoulder.

In my area about 35. I’m an old first-time mum at 41.

I'm in the South West and I'd say 30 +/- a couple of years. I always thought I'd start around 30 but my DD was a (happy) surprise when I was 28. Certainly not an age anyone raises an eyebrow over though and I don't feel out of place among the school mums at all.

I always get the feeling on MN that anyone who has a child before they are 35 must be uneducated and in a rough area but it's not my experience at all! Maybe in London because it's so expensive to buy a house and most people want house before baby.

I don't love the narrative that if you are well educated etc you need to wait to have children - we are trying for baby #2 and finding it much harder and I'm 'only 32, it seems irresponsible to preach that women have all the time in the world. Might be an unpopular opinion but there we go.

I just checked and it's 32 here in my part of central Stockholm. Younger than I thought actually.

Early 30s, DD's school is in an area where houses are 900k plus for even a tiny one and it is London so less likely to have free grandparent childcare which makes a huge difference to when it is affordable to TTC.

I feel a bit like a teen mum being under 40 with an 8 year old 😂.

I imagine where house prices are less insane it's more affordable to TTC earlier.

@MamaOooh , I pp that I know many who left it to their mid 30s and found that it wasn't happening. Some had several rounds of IVF resulting in one or no children. (Nothing wrong with either but the couples I know wanted more than one child).

I know several women who had babies in their 40s but only two were FTMs in their 40s. Many of the babies were not planned.

Tbf I’ve been doubted on here. People assume (or want to believe) that you’re lying if you have a good job, degree, aren’t destitute and don’t hate your life.

It’s not surprising others have a chip on their shoulder, you get tired of the negative stereotyping - although I don’t think your comment was unfair.

I was 19. I'm now 31 and most people my age are done having kids.
The people older than me with kids tend to only have one
So they were probably in their late twenties

Probably 30-31.

I have no idea how old people are, apart from my friends. At the school gates for primary everyone looked about the same age but there must have been old looking 20 year olds and young looking 50 year olds. And everything in between.

I did once mistake a woman at the park for a grandmother (she was a mum!) but I still suspect she just looked older. It is really difficult to tell.

I’m going to guess 30

I'd say average age around 28: rural town.