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I'm really depressed,drinking too much(I know everyone's gonna say it is not a solution!!!),living with my mother in law for the past 12 years ,with all her depressions,with her son,my husband,telling me not to upset her!!!!!I've had enough and I don't know which way to go.... He doesn't do anything in the house,I am the one fixing things,I got our flat,our garage,her pension credit,her own flat-and she 's not happy anyway,I do everything in the house,but still people are not happy!His mum cooks,I work night shifts,and he only likes his mum's cooking!!!!He slapped me tonight and I wonder if tomorrow might be a better day...I don't know....I definitely need some therapy

Divorce

(I know everyone's gonna say it is not a solution!!!)

According to chemistry, alcohol actually is a solution. Mainly beer though as wine is more of a mixture.

misses the point of the thread

P.S. I do not wish to make light of your situation, just bring a little humour to your day.

He slapped you? Report him to the police.

I cannot report him because I'm scared.He is aggressive and I've been so many times through these situations!!I'm used to it and I don't know if police take you seriously in this country.

It sounds utterly miserable OP. Can you list any positives about your relationship?

Please can you put spaces between your punctuation and the next word to make it easier to read your posts.

I cannot remember positives,now that you've mentioned...I just now that he loves me so much till he hits me....

You would be best seeking advice from whatever women's support there is in your country as MN is UK based and advice will be police, women's aid, divorce because that is how women get away from abusers here.

In the meantime, drinking around your child isn't going to get either of you safe.

You don't hit someone you love. Please divorce him, you are worth a lot more than this pathetic excuse of a man.

Yes, police do take domestic violence seriously.

The mention of pension credit surely means the op is in the U.K.?

Please please contact Women’s Aid or Refuge ASAP.

Women's aid.

Thank you for your support!I'll see what I'm going to do,because this life is just horrible!

OP hasn't mentioned a child.

I’m so sorry💐

But you need to leave. Am I correct by saying this slap/hit isn’t the first one?

Is his mother aware of him being violent to you?

Do you have enough money to rent a small flat or a room for yourself somewhere?

I echo other posters by saying contact Women’s Aid.

Do you have any family or friends you can tell in real life? Or is there anyone at work you trust and can tell?

Thank you for your message CherriTomaties! And to all of you!He didn't use to hit me,till last year ,but recently he said that he feels like to pick on me!I think he cannot live without telling me what to do,why is that thing there?why do I use so much oil when cooking,why do I do whatever I'm doing,so I'm just terrorised!But,in the morning he sees me the most beautiful woman in the world without makeup!Isn't it frightening?I feel I'm living in a scarry movie,but I am real!His mom has 3 other boys and all of them don't want to know about her!My husband talks to her all the time,they cannot live without exchanging messages!And,of course,you would say I'm just stupid!🙂But,of course,you know by now -there is a son involved...He is 14 .So,I preferred to just be bullied and wait for my son to grow older,so I can leaveeeeeeee....

OP I understand you want to wait until your son is older, however.. it doesn't seem like a healthy environment for your son, or you. It also isn't right for your son to grow up thinking controlling and hitting women is right.
I agree with other posters advising you to contact women's aid. This isn't any way to live.

Money isn't a problem,and I've got a friend at work that keeps telling me to take my son and go far away!But I'm just thinking,my son is used to his flat,to his habits,so I carry on with this horrible life.I know you are all right, I am just stupid!And I deserve everything that's happening to me!Because I don't have the courage to leave...

You’re not stupid. Nobody would think you’re stupid💐

You don’t have to take your son far away, but you need to take yourself and preferably your son away from the abusive household. Obviously it is way easier said than done when you leave an abusive partner. But there is help and support out there. Are you in the UK?

Yes,I live in the UK.And yes,I'm stupid!!Very stupid!I've been teaching all my life people what to do in certain circumstances,I am dealing with everything in the house,I am a good listener to everybody's problems at work,everybody's problems at home,encouraging everyone,but I've had enough!!!Everybody sees me as an angel, but even angels can fall...I am tired,and with your help guys,maybe I can go on with a better life🙂Thank you very much for your message!

I just want to ask everyone,what is women's aid?Sorry for being stupid again!🙂

Thank you very much for your support everyone!I couldn't see your messages CherrieTomaties and GarlicSound,but I know you wish me all the best!My pub is closing in March,for refurbishment,for 3 weeks and he says I should take some time off,to stay at home.What???3 weeks at home with a mentally instable man?When he needs to pick up on me for nothing?Just because he is bored?Jesus Christ!!!I am not disturbing you anymore guys,you've got your own problems but I want to thank you everyone for being so supportive!I used to rely on myself only, dealing with everything because I didn't want to disturb anyone around me, and I knew I was strong enough to conquer the world!🙂It seems that this world is too much for me! 😇I don't know you guys,you don't know me,but I DO APPRECIATE every second of you time dedicated to my posts!I wish you all the best in the future,and you cannot get rid of me!I'll tell you how things worked out in the end....There should be an end somehow...

Oh,I'm still wondering,what is women's aid??

Women's Aid is a charity for women in abusive/difficult situations.

Please contact them, they can help you leave the relationship and find another place to live.

womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

Women’s Aid: https://womensaid.org.uk

“We work to ensure women are believed, know abuse is not their fault and that their experiences have been understood.

As a federation of over 180 organisations, we provide almost 300 local lifesaving services to women and children.”

Find your local WA service here: https://womensaid.org.uk/information-support/womens-aid-directory/

Please have a look at what is available in your area. Or when you’re in a safe place (work, etc..) you could email them on [email protected] or call the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247

Please seek help from one of the charities or helplines. You and your child need to get away from him.

Thank you ColdWeatherWarning! I want to be the person I used to know,again!I am full of life,I used to love life,I became a person that I hate ..I cannot go out because he's jealous,he wants me just doing things in the house,my friend lives just one bus stop from me and I don't dare go to her,because he would say I'm seeing smb else!I don't go to parties with him,because he says smb looked at me,or I looked at smb else!!!I don't care about smb else,I just cared about my family!But this is not a family anymore!This is just nightmare!I'll try look for advice and thank you again!