I don't know

[Lime47]

I don't know what to do if
I'm really depressed,drinking too much(I know everyone's gonna say it is not a solution!!!),living with my mother in law for the past 12 years ,with all her depressions,with her son,my husband,telling me not to upset her!!!!!I've had enough and I don't know which way to go.... He doesn't do anything in the house,I am the one fixing things,I got our flat,our garage,her pension credit,her own flat-and she 's not happy anyway,I do everything in the house,but still people are not happy!His mum cooks,I work night shifts,and he only likes his mum's cooking!!!!He slapped me tonight and I wonder if tomorrow might be a better day...I don't know....I definitely need some therapy

If he hits you, he doesn't love you. Saying he loves you isn't the same as actually loving you. Performing affection now and then isn't loving you either. Abusers do that - be just nice enough just often enough to keep you thinking "maybe it'll change, maybe he does love me, maybe I'm unreasonable to want to leave." Just enough so you won't end it.

Make sure you have proof of his income and copies of all financial documents, stuff to do with property etc. Do everything through the solicitor - don't let him bully or rush you into agreeing anything without one.

I hope he and his mum will be very happy together. (You know that if you stick around until she's old and frail you'll be the carer, right?). Good luck.

That's what I said to him:What am I doing in your life?You need just your mom!!He is looking at me like I'm an alien, what do I mean by that???And don't raise your voice at his mom,(because I've had enough and I started raising my voice!),try to behave!We have some properties together,in our country,but I want everything for our son,I don't care about them anymore!You gave me lots of courage guys and thank you again for your messages!!!

What he's doing is called "coercive control". It's a crime, if you talk to the police they will take it seriously. (and of course, tell them that he hits you, and other things)

You deserve to be free, not stuck in your home all the time. Imagine being able to go and visit your friend whenever you want. This man does not own you. Good luck!

I was talking to a colleague from work,she was saying ,do you have any bruises,anything to go to the police and prove what's happening to you?No,I don't have anymore!Last July I told him I've had enough with his mom living with us!She should go!I We were in the car,he was driving,and still could hit me in my right arm and pull me by the hair!Because his mum has to stay,she's cooking for him,of course-she has all the time in the world!!!Me-I'm tired all the time,night shifts for the past 12 years,and waking up at 6 in the morning to take our son to school after night shifts,
and so I can be daytime at home-dealing with everything in the household-have even struggled enough with the Council to give her a flat,that she got a month ago!And she's not happy,'cause the manager there checks on her every morning!!!To see if they're allright!!!She doesn't like to be seen as an old woman,though she's 69!!Now I waste all my days off, just to find her discounts for pensioners on water,electricity and whatever!I did it,everything I do,turns to be gold for them,but they don't appreciate,or appreciate just for a moment!And he says that he loves me and cannot live without me!Now,after hitting me!I was happy to go to work,and sorry for the late message-it's after night shift,but I feel better talking to you!Have a good night everyone and thank you again for your support!

Can't live without you? I don't suppose he wants to live without you, as you're paying the bills, caring for his mother so he doesn't have to, and putting up with his abuse, which most women wouldn't. He can though, and he will. Don't listen to him.

He does not love you if he hits you. And yes domestic abuse will be taken seriously if you report it.

Well, it forgot to mention we support his father,too!😅At least he doesn't live with us!!😁My family have got everything they need,they don't disturb us for financial support, and they always send us presents for our son,on celebrations.My father wants to leave me a 4 bedroom apartment and money,after he's gone,and it is a beautiful apartment.I'm just thinking,I don't need any more properties,because my husband will get everything,'cause I know he will live more than me!My father re-married after my mom died,and his wife said that he left a will,for me to have everything,and she wants me to have everything.She has her own properties there,she doesn't rely on my father or his wealth.I wanted to tell her,she can have everything,because she is taking care of my father,who has cancer,and she's been taking care of him for so many years! don't want a thing!I want him to enjoy as much as possible the time with her,if she made him happy! I sometimes envy the birds,up in the sky,(I know you would say now,that I need years of therapy!!!)and I think,they can go anywhere,they can do whatever they want...Have a nice day everyone and thank you again for your support!