My DS is 14 , he is on the ASD spectrum, has sensory processing disorder and compulsive issues surrounding food.Suspected ADHD and Dyslexia, fully verbal , emotional id say 2 yrs younger approximately than physical age.in mainstream school.
loves walking around in his underwear and has done it for a long time, it’s been a backburner battle with regards to his SPD but in the last year tbh I’ve been having regular conversations around the fact he is getting older now and it’s not really appropriate he be walking around in his underpants with everything hanging out , I’m not a monster I don’t mind in the morning but not all day,
Hygiene can be a bit of an issue aswell, having to prompt showers and be quite stern regarding body odour, if there’s no cotton to soak up the sweat it makes the odour worse.
He is carrying some extra weight because of issues with food regarding his condition and I’m also to some degree trying to protect him from other’s judgement I suppose but I’m also getting frustrated as it’s making me feel a bit ill sometimes, when there’s refusal to cover up and wash it’s not pleasant to be around.
do I do the sensitive approach or be firm on approach?