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My doctor was late to my appointment because he had been at the local country hotel full of asylum seekers...

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doodiethewonderdog · 17/01/2026 10:59

When was the last time you had a home visit? Is this a way of managing the " problem" by them taking clinics there? Is it a way of hiding this issue? I understood they did not have access to the NHS yet I see massive bags of medicine labelled for this hotel too at the dispensary. We wait about 6-7 weeks for a routine appointment.

My doctor was late to my appointment because he had been at the local country hotel full of asylum seekers...
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Kingscallops · 18/01/2026 12:45

DuncinToffee · 18/01/2026 12:44

At least you are honest about your racist views.

So bloody predictable.

scorpiogirly · 18/01/2026 12:47

DuncinToffee · 18/01/2026 12:44

At least you are honest about your racist views.

The more the left uses that term, the more it is losing it's meaning. It isn't about the colour of their skin, but try getting through to a left extremist.

GalaxyJam · 18/01/2026 12:48

scorpiogirly · 18/01/2026 12:40

Yes, when they don't belong here. Came here illegaly. Without women and children. Mostly young men. Never contributed and never will. Putting them up in hotels when we have a large homeless population as it is. Families in hostels because of the lack of housing.

The indigenous people of the county struggle to get a doctor's appointment. Waiting months for delayed life saving operations.

7M quid a day spent on housing these undocumented men in hotels. Imagine if that money way ploughed back into our services.

This country should be like a Utopia, but it's become an absolute shit hole.

So you think you’re entitled to live in a utopia, because you happened to be born here, but they should all have to live in poverty/war zones etc because they were born there?

GrannyOog · 18/01/2026 12:49

Nevermind17 · 18/01/2026 12:02

I don’t want to sound condescending but I don’t think you understand the reality of living in a nearer safer country.

So for an example we can look at Syria. Most Syrians will go to Turkey, where they’ll stay in temporary settlement camps. Turkey is not a rich country, and the camps are awful places with extremely basic provisions (clean water and a tent/hut). Some don’t even have electricity. There is a lot of anti-refugee sentiment, and the government are closing camps all the time. There are currently four million refugees in Turkey.

There are also two million refugees in Lebanon, out of a total population of less than six million. Over 1 in 3 people in Lebanon are refugees - mainly Syrian followed by Palestinians. And similarly, the conditions of the camps are squalid. There is no chance of a ‘life’ there.

That is why people try to get out, quite understandably. So the next safe country is either Greece (by dinghy) or Albania (via mountains). Both are impoverished countries. They can’t afford to support millions of extra people. So when they can’t get work or shelter there, they move on. And they’ll keep going until they can make a life somewhere.

It’s not fair to expect one country to absorb them all. One phrase that really gets up my nose is “But why do they all come here? It’s for the benefits!” They don’t all come here. In fact we take very few compared to many other countries. They actually get the same benefits pretty much everywhere in Europe. But if you’re English-speaking (as a lot of the world is) and have a cousin in the UK who runs a business and can give you work, then the UK would be a more attractive prospect than going to a country where you know nobody and can’t speak the language.

On the list of countries with the most asylum seekers per capita, the UK is in 58th position.

I’m sure everyone who comes here hasn’t got a cousin that runs a business and many don’t speak the language. I also didn’t say one country should take them all. My point is, there are many countries to settle in that don’t involve such a dangerous crossing. Once settled they can always apply to enter this country legally. Then they won’t be putting their lives at risk or being left in camps. Immigration is important we need people to come to this country, but we also need to know how many are coming in. We are an island we do not have the space and resources to allow an infinite number of people in. There are many decent hardworking people coming into the country but also criminals and people who don’t like our way of life. It is not racist to be concerned about who is being allowed to stay in this country.

Kingscallops · 18/01/2026 12:50

scorpiogirly · 18/01/2026 12:47

The more the left uses that term, the more it is losing it's meaning. It isn't about the colour of their skin, but try getting through to a left extremist.

Absolutely. The left boast about having critical thinking skills. Not much critical thinking applied when just shouting racism to every topic relating to asylum seekers. Plenty of attempts at guilt tripping though.

scorpiogirly · 18/01/2026 12:51

GalaxyJam · 18/01/2026 12:48

So you think you’re entitled to live in a utopia, because you happened to be born here, but they should all have to live in poverty/war zones etc because they were born there?

Most of these people are not coming from war zones. Not the mention the fact they travel through numerous safe European countries to get here. France, Italy, Germany, Spain, Greece etc. Why do you think that is?

Nevermind17 · 18/01/2026 12:53

@GrannyOog Once settled they can always apply to enter this country legally.

They can’t. There is no other way for a person to claim asylum from outside the UK.

Somerwerovertherainbow · 18/01/2026 12:53

The indigenous people of the county struggle to get a doctor's appointment. Waiting months for delayed life saving operations. @scorpiogirly

Let’s be clear here by “indigenous people” are you referring to white British people? If so this is a great example of why people like you are called racist.

If the issue is white British people struggling to get a doctors appointment an are you saying it’s less important for a British Asian person to struggle with that? A British Asian who might well have paid lots into the system btw - just as much if not more than the white British person.

GalaxyJam · 18/01/2026 12:54

scorpiogirly · 18/01/2026 12:51

Most of these people are not coming from war zones. Not the mention the fact they travel through numerous safe European countries to get here. France, Italy, Germany, Spain, Greece etc. Why do you think that is?

There have been many, many reasons explained upthread. Why do you think those countries should take all of the immigrants and we shouldn’t?
It was also pointed out upthread that, per capita, we are nowhere near the top of the list of countries in terms of the number of immigrants taken in. Why do you think many of them aren’t stopping in other safe countries? They are.

MaturingCheeseball · 18/01/2026 12:55

For those bellowing about how compassionate we should be to large groups of men - in particular those from another culture, what do you think about the Dutch Stellen Oost situation? (I am not equal to links.)

In the spirit of cultural cohesion, female university students were housed in the same apartment block as 125 male migrants. You can imagine what transpired.

I wonder how many posters, hand on heart, would like their 18-year-old daughters to be allocated such housing?

IndyGestion · 18/01/2026 12:56

Dollymylove · 18/01/2026 12:27

Strange though isnt it that they traverse through many safe countries until.they reach the Land of milk and honey 🤔

We are an island. So will never be the first country people reach. So should we take nobody?

Anyway, if you read the accounts, the treatment in some of these places can be appalling. It’s too simplistic to say people should not want to find the most safe and decent place to live. We all want that.

It so easy to comment when you aren’t in that situation yourself.

Anyway, we will all be receiving more people fleeing war, poverty and climate change over the next few decades. The world is a mess.

scorpiogirly · 18/01/2026 12:57

Somerwerovertherainbow · 18/01/2026 12:53

The indigenous people of the county struggle to get a doctor's appointment. Waiting months for delayed life saving operations. @scorpiogirly

Let’s be clear here by “indigenous people” are you referring to white British people? If so this is a great example of why people like you are called racist.

If the issue is white British people struggling to get a doctors appointment an are you saying it’s less important for a British Asian person to struggle with that? A British Asian who might well have paid lots into the system btw - just as much if not more than the white British person.

There are many non white British citizens who came here via the right method and pay into the system who live as British citizens. Embraced the culture. Live by British values and laws. I have no issue with this.

I didn't know the word was racist. Unbelievable.

OtterlyAstounding · 18/01/2026 13:04

BlanketyBlankBlank · 18/01/2026 12:00

You mean like the aborigines in Australia? It’s a case of don’t do as I do, do as I say?

I'm afraid I don't understand what you're trying to say here.

Somerwerovertherainbow · 18/01/2026 13:04

scorpiogirly · 18/01/2026 12:57

There are many non white British citizens who came here via the right method and pay into the system who live as British citizens. Embraced the culture. Live by British values and laws. I have no issue with this.

I didn't know the word was racist. Unbelievable.

What word did I say was racist? The victimhood here is tiring. You throw these stones then you hide your hands and whine lefties are calling you racists!

To be clear, I never said any one word was racist. I can use the word myself quite happily for example :

”the indigenous people of Scotland have a relatively high number of redheads”

And here’s another one “the indigenous peoples of Australia, Canada and the U.S. were brutalised by European settlers”

Neither of these sentences are racist. I am not sure about the accuracy of the first one :)

Anyway as I quite clearly outlined I was saying it would be racist to suggest that white British not getting an appointment is more of a pressing issue than say a British Asian. Not that using the word indigenous is racist in and of itself.

DuncinToffee · 18/01/2026 13:04

MaturingCheeseball · 18/01/2026 12:55

For those bellowing about how compassionate we should be to large groups of men - in particular those from another culture, what do you think about the Dutch Stellen Oost situation? (I am not equal to links.)

In the spirit of cultural cohesion, female university students were housed in the same apartment block as 125 male migrants. You can imagine what transpired.

I wonder how many posters, hand on heart, would like their 18-year-old daughters to be allocated such housing?

You know this was an experiment where people signed up to voluntary?

What transpried?

OtterlyAstounding · 18/01/2026 13:05

DuncinToffee · 18/01/2026 12:00

Ofcourse it is accpetable for people to show concerns, But I do think the 'might be deeply misogynistic' is very short sighted.

Being angry because the GP treated people from different countries, religion, culture is unacceptable imo

"But I do think the 'might be deeply misogynistic' is very short sighted."

How is that?

DuncinToffee · 18/01/2026 13:07

OtterlyAstounding · 18/01/2026 13:05

"But I do think the 'might be deeply misogynistic' is very short sighted."

How is that?

Assuming that all people or should I say men from those countries hold those views.

Why do you think people flee from Afghanistan and Iran for example?

OtterlyAstounding · 18/01/2026 13:08

BlanketyBlankBlank · 18/01/2026 12:02

No you haven’t, I’ll also assume that you’ve never sat and spoken to someone who has been in that position?

Honestly, try it, it’s very enlightening.

Well, you know what they say about people who make assumptions.

BlanketyBlankBlank · 18/01/2026 13:08

OtterlyAstounding · 18/01/2026 13:08

Well, you know what they say about people who make assumptions.

Actually it’s not an assumption, it’s plainly obvious!

Nevermind17 · 18/01/2026 13:09

scorpiogirly · 18/01/2026 12:51

Most of these people are not coming from war zones. Not the mention the fact they travel through numerous safe European countries to get here. France, Italy, Germany, Spain, Greece etc. Why do you think that is?

There are 515,000 asylum seekers in the UK. Here are some figures that are easily found on google.

Greece serves as a major entry point into Europe for refugees, hosting 214,000 asylum seekers facing challenges like overcrowding in reception centers, limited access to services, and integration barriers, despite legal protections, with ongoing arrivals from Africa, Asia, and the Middle East via the Eastern Mediterranean route.

Italy hosts 300,000 refugees and asylum seekers, primarily arriving via sea routes from Africa and Asia, facing a challenging reception environment with increasing arrivals and stricter policies, though initiatives for resettlement and integration (like humanitarian corridors and employment programs) also exist, with countries like Afghanistan, Nigeria, Bangladesh, and Peru being major origin points for applicants in recent years. The country manages a complex system of reception centers, legal procedures, and integration efforts, often in partnership with organizations like the UNHCR, but faces pressure from high numbers of arrivals and policy shifts towards more accelerated processing.

Germany hosts 3.55 million people with protection needs, including refugees and asylum seekers, with significant numbers from Ukraine, Afghanistan, and Syria, facing both integration challenges like poverty risk and success stories in labour market integration and education, supported by government programs and NGOs, though applications have recently fallen to decade lows under tighter policies.

As of 2023, France hosted approximately 664,366 refugees, a figure that increased from previous years, with significant numbers of asylum applicants, particularly from Syria, Afghanistan, and Ukraine in recent times.

Spain hosts a significant number of refugees and asylum seekers, with around 370,000 recorded refugees by early 2024, primarily from Ukraine, Venezuela, Syria, and Mali, alongside a surge in asylum applications, particularly from Latin America, reaching over 163,000 in 2023 and nearly 167,000 in 2024.

So please tell me @scorpiogirly, what makes you think they’re ALL coming to the UK?

BlanketyBlankBlank · 18/01/2026 13:11

OtterlyAstounding · 18/01/2026 13:04

I'm afraid I don't understand what you're trying to say here.

I’m not surprised! Lots of blinkered views. Carry on your day.

OtterlyAstounding · 18/01/2026 13:14

DuncinToffee · 18/01/2026 13:07

Assuming that all people or should I say men from those countries hold those views.

Why do you think people flee from Afghanistan and Iran for example?

What world do you live in, in which a person is not affected by the deeply misogynistic culture that they're raised in?

I think women flee because they're being oppressed and persecuted - but that doesn't mean that even many of them might not still hold internally misogynistic views about what's acceptable for women. After all, British women hold internally misogynistic views too (to a much lesser extent).

As for the average man, quite often it's the poverty, the lack of jobs, the unrest, and the religious restrictions that impact negatively upon them too, in addition to perhaps wanting their wives and daughters to have more freedom. But again, they are most likely far more conservative than the average Brit in what they consider a woman's 'proper' role in society to be.

Considering how misogynistic British men can be, despite being raised in a culture where women have equal rights, are you seriously going to try and argue that men from countries where women don't have equal rights aren't going to be steeped in misogyny?

OtterlyAstounding · 18/01/2026 13:16

BlanketyBlankBlank · 18/01/2026 13:11

I’m not surprised! Lots of blinkered views. Carry on your day.

You've randomly brought the Australian aboriginal peoples into the conversation, with absolutely no explanation, as though it's somehow relevant.

I'm not blinkered, I'm bewildered.

(Incidentally, I haven't stated any firm personal views on immigration or asylum seekers.)

OtterlyAstounding · 18/01/2026 13:18

BlanketyBlankBlank · 18/01/2026 13:08

Actually it’s not an assumption, it’s plainly obvious!

It's an assumption, I'm afraid. But then living in a different part of the world, asylum seekers tend to have a different experience to those who travel to Britain, I imagine.

BlanketyBlankBlank · 18/01/2026 13:21

scorpiogirly · 18/01/2026 12:57

There are many non white British citizens who came here via the right method and pay into the system who live as British citizens. Embraced the culture. Live by British values and laws. I have no issue with this.

I didn't know the word was racist. Unbelievable.

You do know that the people housed in the country hotel that OP speaks about, are not able to work?

Once they’ve been processed, they become the “non British citizens” you speak of.