To have had a baby after being with DH for less than six months?

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Absolute insanity really. I think it’s worked out, hard to say. I do wonder how much we really have in common?

So you got pregnant at six months. I mean yes it's risky. Did you plan the pregnancy? I got pregnant intentionally after eight months. I also look back and wonder were gremlins at the controls. And yes i think it has also worked out.

It’s becasue people think that you got met, got married, and gave birth all in the same 6 months.

I think you mean that you met and got pregnant in 6 months, and later gave birth (obvious) and got married.

FWIW, my parents got married within 3 months of meeting mostly for immigration reasons, and are still together 45 years later. Some things just work!

No but I’ve got a feeling the thread will continue with cancel the DH …

That’s a nice story

It's easy - 6 months into a four month marriage, they met in Octember, with the baby being born before she got pregnant 👍🙂

It was planned but not without a certain amount of devil may care. I’m normally quite a cautious person. I did have a good feeling about now-DH and I think I’ve been proved correct (although he drives me bananas!)

I had a similar situation to you. Pregnant within six months. Got married. Went on to have two more children. Ten years in and I wouldn’t say everything is perfect but I’m very happy with my choices.

You’d think …

Anyway OP

It's far too soon to say whether or not it's worked out when you've not made it to your 4th anniversary yet.

But I wish you both the best of luck and a long and happy marriage

😂

Because miraculously there have been other March's, before this year

Ok so with him and planned a baby very quickly and were pregant by six months as you had a good feeling about him?

If you don’t have much in common, as per your OP, then it sounds like you settled. That’s the part that sounds less than ideal to me.

DH and I got married 10 weeks after meeting. I was pregnant 5 months after that. We celebrated our 27th anniversary 2 months ago

No, it was very much now or never in terms of my age. I knew I’d either have a baby or I wouldn’t be a mum. I went into it knowing there was a chance I’d be doing it alone; obviously hoping I wouldn’t but acknowledging it as a possibility. It was hard in some ways as we had to navigate the newborn days whilst also being semi strangers to one another. But we’ve grown together and that has helped.

The main thing is (and this is what I mean about things we have in common) is that the main thing we have in common is obviously our children. So I do sometimes wonder what we’ll talk about when they are older and have left home!

Well, come back to us in 20 years, I suppose?

How does he feel about it all?

She’s got to still be pregnant, I think she means child was conceived after they we’re together 6 months. No it’s not unreasonable you have married him it’s a bit quick but as long as your happy that’s all that matters.

As far as I can tell DH is very happy. His parents didn’t think he’d have children and were delighted to be grandparents again, and one of our children was a girl which was really nice for MIL as all her children and other grandchildren were boys so she’s really enjoyed that experience (FIL too to be fair; dd made him wear an Elsa tiara subsequently forgot about and went to his dentist appointment wearing!)

It isn’t perfect but I’m so glad I took a leap of faith.

When you say you were ‘with DH for less than 6 months’ that implies you met him less than 6 months previously.
Personally I would want to be with someone for longer than that before I had a baby. Once you have a baby with someone you are tied to that person forever. A marriage can be ended and you can walk away.

I think the timescale (any timescale) is fine if it works for you. But you are writing on Mumsnet about it which suggests you feel it was too soon. How old is your little one now? Perhaps you could start trying to get more time together again to date.

This thread hurts my head and OPs replies are not helping.
Why the confusing title and why are you asking how much you have in common, when you’ve actually been together for years? Surely you would know by now?

More thinking out loud really, but yes we haven’t had any time together just us so it’s possible cracks will appear. Hard to know.

We’ve been together for just over six years. Our youngest child is only two so it’s obviously hard getting much time to ourselves.

This really does sound snarky and I’m sorry but it’s not compulsory to reply to a thread!

However …I didn’t intend the title to be confusing. I really did think it was clear that we’d been together for six months THEN got pregnant (given most pregnancies are around nine months!) but clearly not!

As for what wry have in common, what you have to realise is that for pretty much the duration of our relationship we’ve had a very young child and as you probably know that means the focus isn’t on the relationship / marriage but the child(ren.)

To be fair OP I think most parents feel this at some stage. Because you moved quickly it's easier for you to pin it on that, but actually you do just lose each other for a bit. It is normal and you have to put effort into finding your way back to each other. Plus things in common is a bit overrated. Opposites attract for a reason.