AIBU to keep my friend at a distance

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Hey
So i keep my circle small. Always have. I had a really good mate eho used to come to mine. I went to hers. We walked to school together and home together. Texted daily.

I started having a real hard time with my relationship and general depression. My hubby was threatening suicide etc. An awful, shitty time.......where you need friends to vent to right?
Well i got a text message saying (roughly)
Hey
Im taking a step back from our friendship. I am in a realky good place atm and you seem to see the shit side of life. Im in a good space and cant have anything ruining it.

I was like "BITCH WTF is this" in my head. So i left it. She blanked me at school. Went full on cunt mode.
Then over the next few weeks webhad zero contact. Luckily my personal life got better andnmy hubby got tue help he needed. We started rebuilding.
My friends son then turned up at my door crying asking of i could take him home. I immediately got in the car and took him. My friend then messaged me saying "I've not heard from you for months" so i said "you wanted that because YOU were in a good headspace and i wasn't "

We text every so often now but the relationship has been absolutely ruined by what i believe is total selfishness and rudeness on her part.
Aibu to keep her at a huge distance? This is my choice because i simply cannot trust someone who could act so callously in a mates time of need.

I was like "BITCH WTF is this" in my head. So i left it. She blanked me at school. Went full on cunt mode.

You're still at school but married?

No. Our KIDS are at school

Ahh ok, I get it now, thanks.

It sounds as though the friendship has run its course so YANBU to let it go.

So you're an adult?

CLARIFICATION.
MY FRIENDs KIDS AND MY KIDS ATTEND THE SAME SCHOOL. WE ARE ADULTS.

Yes, no need for the caps lock.

It's clear now.

To be honest, sometimes when (for whatever understandable reason) a friend becomes quite needy it's not a problem and they're easy to support.

But other times it can be difficult for the person doing the supporting, due to their own personal reasons.

Ive just added a clarification to say this as no idea how to edit the post lol
Yeah its sad but honestly just couldn't trust her after that. All i needed was a hug and a kind word but was blindsided completely.

"I was like "BITCH WTF is this" in my head. So i left it."

Deep deep down, I think this too a lot.

The caps is so people notice it 😊

I’m so sorry for your husband’s struggles, that must have been awful. It’s good he’s doing better and I think you’re right to keep your distance from this woman.

To be honest you sound like hard work

Thankyou.
Honestly was awful watching him try to fight his demons. I had to lock the doors and hide the keys. Absolutely soul destroying then she piled more on top. X

And you sound like someone who’d write the kind of text the OP received

Helpful.

I think it all depends on how you are as a whole , was this the first instance or do you often have issues and problems in your life.
I had to distance myself from someone for always moaning and complaining every time I spoke to them

I think you sound funny OP and I too would absolutely keep my distance after that. Yanbu.

Mean girl vibes. But do u know what? Every post on here has at least a couple of this type.

OP, she is not a friend.
Do not waste another minute on her.
I wouldn't dream of even having a texting relationship with her.
I'm glad your husband is doing better.
Move on completely.

She’s not a friend. I wouldn’t even bother speaking/texting her.

On the whole I was ok. We used to laugh alot and send reels etc that the other found funny. Then when the issues started she was just instantly different- i used to keep moaning to a minimum and vent to family but it still wasnt enough x

Thankyou.
Its been months now since contact so think its dying on its own but appreciate your comment x

You’re right OP!

I read her reply and thought BITCH WTF is this?

You sound great (and also funny) OP and I’m glad things are better for you now.

🥰🥰🥰🥰 thankyou so much

I'm a good person - im a damn good mate and understand what it means to go through shit. My bestie is vulnerable AF but even ehen she doesnt message me ill spam her with shit that makes her smile for when shes ready.
Ive come back stronger and bitches like that don't even get to me any more. Like fuck them. Lol xxxx

When I read your friend’s message to you, I instantly thought that she needed to protect her mental health, now that she’s in a good place.

Maybe she had had some difficulties prior to yours which you were not aware of.

Well i initially thought that but it was the way she did it, she then clearly talked about me to others as people at school didnt speak to me either - ive left quite a lot out for privacy reasons as im sure you understand but happy to give details for clarity when needed x