School staff bullying children-in year transfer in Year 6

[Schoolbullies]

NC and risking a kicking on this topic but posting for traffic.
My child has additional needs, nothing to warrant a specialist setting, and up until year 2 was happy at school. We have had bullying from a particular TA over hair in years 3,4 and the start of year 5 but after many emails to school this stopped. Some bullying from other kids too but nothing major, just enough to make my child miserable. The bullying has started with another member of staff now but is being denied by the staff member and HT. The latest response from school is angry in tone and denies everything claiming it’s my child’s perception only. The incident before resulted in me making a formal complaint where the TAs actions were denied and it was put down to my child’s perception of things. Other kids have had the same issue with being targeted by the same TAs.

I’m thinking of applying to a different school but am reluctant to do so part way through year 6. It might be the best thing for my child though. The school is otherwise supportive generally but the bullying is now resulting in school refusal and I have a fight on my hands every day.

Has anybody transferred in year 6 and if so, how did things work out. The council have said they do it all the time but I’d appreciate any experience and advice. TIA

Would you be even able to transfer so easily in this year?

What does the bullying entail?

the bullying from the first TA was over your son’s hair?

With respect OP it's highly unlikely more than 1 member of staff is actively bullying your child and more likely your child is responding poorly to being disciplined.

I am inclined to agree

What precisely does this bullying look like?
Have you investigated other schools and what availability they have?

I would be very surprised if a TA was bullying a child, but horrendous if thry truly are.
Have anny other adults witnessed it? Or reliable peers?

not just one TA

apparently another one too

More info needed:
what does the bullying entail?
what are your child’s needs - and do they include rejection sensitive dysphoria?
is the school supporting your child sufficiently academically?
Do they have any friends in the school?
Have you talked to them about moving and if so how do they feel about it?

Goodness this is highly unusual for 2 members of staff to be bullying a small child.

“Other kids have had the same issue”. Any witness statements or emails from parents?

Could it be his perception?

My child is under assessment for ADHD and takes things very personally that other children would not, this includes jokes and innocent comments. Could you child's additional needs be affecting their perception of what's been said? Repeat bullying of a child by two separate members of staff seems highly unusual.

I agree, it seems very unusual that your child would be subjected to two different members of staff bullying them. Of course it might be technically possible but I would definitely be looking into alternative possibilities too.

What happened to the staff member accused of bullying your child ?

I don’t want to be outing but suffice to say my child’s hair is cultural and one particular member of staff took a dislike to it and made regular comments about it. She has now retired to a sigh of relief from a lot of parents but worked closely with the new TA who has a similar approach to dealing with kids.
My child has some medical needs and has repeatedly had time taken off play time or other fun time for seeing to these needs and humiliated for needing to do this. Comments have been made about my child being “slow” at completing work when it’s a recognised support need in the support plan that extra time is needed to complete work. My child’s hair needs reasonable adjustments during lunch and assembly and these are often denied with staff asking why they are needed despite knowing of the support plan. The teachers are great, it’s the TA that has now left and her replacement.

I am very supportive of school if behaviour needs disciplining. These are documented needs though, not behaviour problems. The hair is neither of course but that TA has left now so it’s no longer an issue.

Another parent I know has had meetings with school and it was suggested that they move their child if they weren’t happy. That one involved complaints to the multi academy trust and things settled down but there have been issues with this new TA and that child too.

Transfered at start of Y6 due to house move - it was fine but we took places offered there wasn't much of a choice only one school had the places we need and that was due to be being the least popular school.

It would give them a chance to meet more people before heading to secondary school - downside friendship groups can be fixed though can also be getting fraught.

If you ar at school refusal and council has a place at another school not sure you'd lose that much by trying.

It could be it's a perception issue - but well I was always told I was too sensitive and looking back as adult it was bullying and did come from one staff member. I would also look for groups cubs/scouts etc going forward soemthing social outside school if possible - my DC found it helpful when school got fraught.

My child’s hair needs reasonable adjustments during lunch and assembly and these are often denied with staff asking why they are needed despite knowing of the support plan.

Why does his hair need adjustments?

Your child’s hair needs reasonable adjustment at lunch??

How on earth does hair need adjustment at lunch time??

Sorry op but your update comes across as though your one of those parents.

My child has some medical needs and has repeatedly had time taken off play time or other fun time for seeing to these needs and humiliated for needing to do this.

Do you mean help with toileting? Are you sure he's being humiliated. What is actually happening?

More info needed here.

I am so confused, you need to be more clear, OP

Oh dear, no the hair doesn’t need any adjustments! Bloody autocorrect on my phone, sorry!

I took this to mean the readjustments to his hair?