People flirting with your partner in public, anyone had this?

[AmpleHedgehog]

I bought him something for his birthday that we needed to return to the shop for an amendment, we both went together.
The assistant serving us was a lady who looked in her 20s, I started the conversation to ask about their returns policies etc. And she only spoke to me when she had to.

She complimented my partner on what he was wearing then they ended up in a wider conversation. We had to wait with her for around 5 minutes for a supervisor to come and check she'd issued a refund correctly or something.

I was smiling and approachable but couldn't really find an inn in the conversation, she barely looked at me. She was asking how old he is, and to be honest I felt he was flirting back slightly, he teased her about something and they had a bit of a laugh.

I may have to go back into that store this weekend and when we left he said something like oh you'll have to check if she's in, then something like sorry hope that didn't seem weird.

I know she was his type physically (both goths, and he's into that). I know this will happen and it may happen when I'm not around, some people are just like that. If she'd also spoken to me more it would have been different.

To be fair I just laughed it off and didn't say a word about it, 20 year old me probably would've made a comment or been a bit offended to him. Anyone else had this?

Oh FFS. No-one can get angry or emotional at anything because someone somewhere has worse problems? 🙄

The most blatant I saw was at a family gathering and the partner of my cousin was definitely flirting with my late teenage daughter. Cousin marched over with a face like thunder, dragged her partner away and proceeded to spread rumours about my daughter coming on to her partner. She then went all trad wife, nauseating posts about how he was her soulmate, no one ever had a romance like theirs. Oh how I laughed when it turned out he’d been shagging anything with a pulse for the duration of their marriage.

My dp was single for a few years before we got together - we've been together for just over a year, and we don't live locally so nobody knew me. We live about 30 minutes apart, so go backwards and forwards.

There are a few women at the pub we drink at that have attempted to flirt with him in front of me, when they have no idea who I am. Bless him, hasn't got a clue! Until I point it out to him, and then he's mortified. We've both been married twice before, and both his ex's cheated on him, so it's just not something he'd ever contemplate.

Most people who flirt with DH are those in whom he has no interest: women 20+ years older than he is and men. He shares his awkward experiences with me.

The strongest memory I have of someone flirting with him in front of me was when we went out to dinner as a young couple with our first baby. The restaurant was nearly empty and we were the only ones sat in our area since we went very, very early to not bother other diners by bringing our DC along. The young male waiter was clearly very attracted to DH, blushing and staring all agog. My DH kept trying to force the waiter to acknowledge me by asking me direct questions about my order, but the young man couldn't take his eyes off DH and didn't seem capable of hearing a word I said. Eventually DH repeated what I had said to get the waiter to go away, but this was repeated every time he found an excuse to return to our table throughout the meal. The whole event was incredibly uncomfortable for both of us and it ruined our "date night."

It's an experience I look back at and wish I'd been more assertive. I think both of us didn't want to look homophobic so we didn't say anything even though the waiter was extremely unprofessional and left us with such a negative association that we never returned to that restaurant.

She nearly ran me over in her white Mercedes (on a zebra crossing) in Islington - maybe she thought I was you and wanted to take me out…..

I imagine everyone posting here has had worse problems. It’s a complete over reaction and you totally missed the point.

No. But my husband looks like a cross between Ricky Gervias and a bulldog these days.

(I am hardly an oil painting myself before anyone jumps).

Couldn't agree more!

My DH is a doctor and quite a handsome one. He gets women patients flirting with him all the time. If only they knew what ah absolute nerd he is at home and utterly handless around the house. I love the bones of the man but he is so oblivious to the real world it’s funny

Dolly Parton wrote "Jolene" after the teller at her bank brazenly flirted with her husband with Dolly right there.

Yes, a lot! Today he got hit on in Costa, then later when we were in a sandwich shop the woman practically cut her hand instead of the baguette as she was staring at him. He also gets loads of messages on IG from random guys asking if hes gay.

He doesn’t give a single shit and it just bugs him really. He just gives off heavy ‘I’m with my wife’ vibes by wrapping himself around me in a very nonchalant way.

Yes! My husband is a bit of a gym rat and even though he’s in his early 40s he’s still quite fit so he gets hit on all the time. He shuts it down (at least in front of me 🤭). Doesn’t really bother me but if I was being ignored like you seem to describe that would annoy me.

@BIossomtoes No charmed life as I have had a child die so I have possibly as sad as someone can ever be but I have never seen the point in anger.

My husband wouldn't notice even if she flashed her boobs...the flirting happens occasionally and I just wonder what they think when he totally ignores them

DH would bask in any attention a woman showed him frankly, it doesn’t happen very often so I let him enjoy it. Really wouldn’t bother me because I’m fairly sure he’s not wandering off.

Well that's reassuring 🤣

Yes, I’ve had this happen.
It wasn’t jealousy as much as that brief feeling of being invisible while they connected easily. I laughed it off at the time, but it stayed with me for a bit. Older me handles it better I notice it, process it quietly, and move on. It feels more like growth than insecurity now.

I can guarantee he would! Maybe they think, "I wonder why he's ignoring me now, last week he was flirting up a storm"

Sorry 🤐

If it was a men's shop or department she is probably just trying to get her sales up.