To ask if your brother/brothers had to help round the house when you were growing up?ere

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My sisters and I used to do some vacumming at weekends and also had to set the table and clear the table after meals growing up Understandable.

I never remember my brother having to do anything. It was just us.
I feel it was because he was a boy.
Thinking about it, it really annoys me.
Im sure if my parents were still alive I would mention it and ask?

Was it the same for anyone else?
If it was, and your parent/s are alive would you consider asking them?

Its really wrong. He seemed to get out of everything.
Come to think of it as an adult, Ive never seen him wash or dry up or anything to help when we were both at parents.
Im sure Ive never seen him cook, wash up at all actually even as an independent adult.

It was also everyone but him that did chores.

AiBU to think my parents should have made him.
Tell me about your brothers and chores.
Was this normal?

4 of us. 3 girls, 1 boy.

My Mum created a list of jobs/chores and a monetary value against each. I was the savvy one and jumped right in and did as many of the higher value jobs asap. Always got the most pocket money at the end of the week.

Joint bottom with earnings/pocket money - my brother (lazy t**t) and the youngest sister, who spent most of her time crying about jobs and then not getting any pocket money.

I have 1 son and he 100% has jobs/chores. Today he has done a light wash, hung it out to dry, emptied and filled the dishwasher and ironed his jeans. Tomorrow he is changing the bedding.

I always tell him that I am raising a man, not a wimp. I am not as daft as my Mum - he doesn’t get paid.

I was raised in the 70s. Saturday morning was very much help with household jobs. Not for my brother though (2 years older than me) , for some reason he was allowed to lie in bed until noon.

I was given chores and made to keep my room to a higher standard to my brothers. I do remember her cleaning it up frequently but never mine. I was also given babysitter duty to younger brother while my mum worked. Elder brother had all the freedom to go out and socialise. Her ex husband didn’t help around the house when he finished work. I suspect the religious group she was involved in encouraged this behaviour. Still to this day both of them sit there relaxing while myself and my mother clean up after gatherings. One brother won’t even clean his plate up after eating. He has a long term gf who I suspect does everything. They plan on having children. She’s in for a shock when he barely lifts a finger. I raise my children different to my mother. My son knows better and I hope he doesn’t go into adulthood like my brothers. Younger brother lost his house mate and is only worried about who is going to keep the place clean and cook food. I do wish my mother didn’t create this issue. Both successful men but severely flawed.

No, never. I was the one cooking family meals (one parent in hospital, the other visiting) at 11, and responsible for looking after all pets and domestic chores on the one occasion when a parent went away for a few days with work. My brother just did bits of cooking for himself.

What really irked me was how the women did all of the rushing around cooking, serving food and washing up on Christmas Day, while all of the men sat around drinking, watching James Bond and falling asleep all over the sofas. This was how it was up almost 2020.

If I ever have a son, he will be as domesticated as his sisters. As one woman with grown sons put it, "I'm not having my daughter-in-laws doing all of the work when they move in together!" They all worship their MIL, but it's probably not just for that reason 😁

Around 65 years I used to be asked to go to the local shop for a neighbour, because she only had boys.

I remember seething there and back.

hence I became a feminist.

My brother never lifted a finger. Even as an old lady in her nineties my mum would put him first and tell me to get him a knife and fork, or ketchup, or a drink if we were eating a family meal. She also would not only serve him the biggest portion, but if she and I were sharing a portion of chips and he had a portion for himself, she would tip half of our shared portion on his plate!

Apart from keeping my room tidy, I had no chores ( this was the 60s). We weren't allowed in the kitchen...I wasn't taught to cook. My siblings were a lot older than me by 15/ 12 years and I dont really remember them living at home.

Yes, actually they got the worse jobs like hoovering and polishing the floor while we just cleaned out the cupboards/ tidied!! They were also pulled out to do weeding and picking up rubbish more while we just swept a tiny patch of concrete!!

No my brothers never did anything in the house. They were expected to work though, even as children. They do pull their weight at home as adults so I think it's work ethic that's important. We're all retired so older generations.

My brothers weren’t expected to help at all. I had to.
However, my mum never ironed their clothes or made breakfasts or lunches, even packed lunches except occasionally breakfast as a treat on weekends.
My brothers would sort out their own ironing and do school shirts and make their own packed lunches.
Because of this, they pull their weight at home and have a great work ethic.

I'm 61 with 2 older brothers. I clearly remember my DF announcing after mealtimes that "I need 2 volunteers. One for washing, one for drying", then walking away whilst we fought argued it out amongst ourselves. I was only 10 when eldest DB left home for Uni and 13 when 2nd DB did. I remember I did my own laundry if I needed something turning around quickly (I played sport so got through quite a lot of kit), but other than that, I don't remember any of us having specific tasks. My DF did a lot of the housework as DM was never in particularly good health so there was no sex discrimination regarding chores anyway. In all other ways they were quite old fashioned/traditional parents.

Yes, of course. He is very tidy and an excellent cook and baker, which was handy when he got married and had 3 boys!

I am from a family of 2 boys 2 girls all born late 70s early 80s. Girls older two boys younger two. Same expectation on all of us for chores. Middle two (me and my brother) always out and about with friends and have to admit used every trick in the book to try to get out of it but definitely no difference between chore list for boys and girls. However my mum was a sahm and dad worked full time and often travelled with work. He did very little chores in the house and still doesn't although retired and in his late 70s, which does irritate me but that is my parents marriage and dynamic so I keep out of it.

This is such a shock. I was raised in the 80's, mum and dad worked full time, no brothers.

I was pretty crap at housework tbh but I never had this sexism drip fed into me as both parents did stuff around the house.

1960s Stay at home mum and a dishwasher. None of us had to do much, boys or girls. Certainly not on an enforced regular basis.