Talking through every single tv show, every single night.

[Noshadealltea]

Just as the title says really. My partner constantly talks or makes random noises or says ‘ok honey? OK HONEY’ at me through every single program we watch. Every night. If I don’t respond it makes him louder. It drives me insane, but he won’t stop.

aibu to next time he does it (tomorrow night) pause the tv and rewind it every single time; or is that too passive aggressive.

So not to drip feed, he is not ND, and I have already spoken to him about how annoying it is 10000000 times.

God I’d kill him in the face, do you have a TV in a different room? I’d get up and go into the other room to make the point, this would drive me mad.

That would drive me mental.
I would end up roaring at him to stfu.

Every single day on here someone makes a post about something which makes me so glad to be single!

Why is he saying "OK honey?" repeatedly? That is very odd. Does he watch anything himself?

Yabu to keep watching tv with him. Watch tv in another room, if he can’t behave he shouldn’t get your company.

It drives me batshit.

It’s like a constant verbal string of dihorrea, it isn’t even a conversation, it’s just words or noises, but I’m still expected to respond.

It’s been a full on weekend, with a very energetic toddler and I just wanted a bit of quiet. I’m feeling very talked out 🤯

They’re shows that we ‘watch’ together so theoretically he is ‘watching’ it too. I have no idea why he repeats that at me. It’s genuinely so aggravating.

I can’t watch tv with DH because we like different things, when we like the same thing he fast forwards through bits 🤯, if I gasp I voluntarily he gets annoyed etc etc etc. We now have two TVs.

Could you put the TV sound through headphones just for you? Then you can hear the TV but not him...

This is attention seeking behaviour. Wear headphones and pretend you can’t hear him. Or turn them up till you actually can’t.

Why would you NOT be ok, honey?

What’s wrong with him?

Sounds like when I'm trying to read and my six year old can't bear not having my constant attention. Except yours is a fully grown man child demanding interaction.

It just sounds as though he’s jealous - literally. Is he?

Sounds to me that he is genuinely concerned for your feelings, he's aware of your hectic weekend and is misinterpreting your silence as you being unhappy. If you respond to his questioning in a loving way, he'll know that you're fine, nothing's festering with you, you're just trying to relax after a full on weekend and you just want to chill out and watch the telly. Sounds like he's being caring to me, at least he isn't ignoring you, the odd comment about what you're watching shouldn't affect you so much. Does he annoy you all the time? It's good to talk 😉

Absolutely pause the tv every time. I have control of the remote in our house because I’m best at pausing the minute someone says something. I’m fine with chatting about the show as we’re watching, but can’t bear to have it while the show is playing. So it’s the pause button.

Sounds like FIL. Can’t stop talking which I could ignore. But he then says, “what do you think?” Repeatedly. Drives me batshit. But I’m not married to him.

Spray bottle? Air horn?

Ask him not to do it (again!) and then when he inevitably does it, just get up and leave the room and go and watch it on your phone in peace.

How did you get to that?

I’d be more inclined to say he’s insecure as any length of time she isn’t speaking to him, he thinks the worse that she’s in a mood with him. Hence ‘okay, honey?’. Very odd.

@Noshadealltea next time he ask’s you, just say/shout ‘shut the f**k-up! One more word and I’ll not be okay. Have I made myself clear…. Honey!’

Tell him to leave the room.

Give him a box set of Gogglebox and a dressmakers' dummy with a wig in your hair colour. For extra practicality, record yourself saying 'Yes, darling. Uh-huh. You're so funny/clever, ha ha ha' and set it on looped playback whilst you sneak upstairs to relax in a silent, darkened room as far away from him as possible.

Jealousy = possessiveness. A jealous husband is possessive of his wife and prevents her from giving her attention to other men / people / inanimate objects in this case.

I feel this is accurate, but it’s not like I’m sat in a moody silence, it’s more a companiable ‘I’m watching our show’ silence, then when there’s a natural pause I’m chatty etc.

He has 0 reason to feel insecure, so I just don’t know. If I told him to shut the fuck up, I garuntee there would be moody silence, but not from me 😅, for about 10 minutes. Then it would be back to random noises again. It’s a small problem, but god is it irritating the fuck out of me right now.

Though, are you watching multiple tv programmes every night? Are you in fact using tv as a way of ignoring or avoiding him, every night? Do you sometimes spend an evening doing something together, talking?

Have you ever responded and said you are fine? What would his reaction be? Would he continue asking if you were fine?