Hello
I have been with my fiance for 5 years. Engaged 2 years and we have a 5 month daughter. I live in his house. I moved in 2 years ago. I sold my house.
Before i moved in, he had a leak in the bathroom upstairs. He couldnt fix it but switching off the hot water stopped the leak. Since then, we have no hot water in the whole house except the shower but only because its electric.
He has a smaller bathroom upstairs he ripped out years before me. He wants to put a new bathroom in so he can work on the barhroom with the leak and we would still have a bathroom to use.
Well. We have argued non stop about this as he hasnt done it. In 2 years. I havent had hot water since living here except in the shower. I hate it. I have tried everything, offered to pay someone to just put in a new bathroom and find the other leak - nope (he wants to do it, im not even on the deeds anyway), i have stopped nagging (apparently i was creating a hostile environment whcih wasnt motivating), i have stopped talking about it (apparently I have made it all about me and what I want?!). No matter what I do, nothing is done.
He had 3 weeks off over Christmas and vowed to work on bathroom. He didnt. Instead, he did other bits around the house.. mainly because he didnt want people to think his house was a mess. He also has a 3d printer and has been printing off things just because he can. He made from scratch a games table with lights and speakers built in. We have argued about it. I said he could be fixing bathroom instead of this games table that only he wants. He said its for the family not him. So we can play games.. we dont play games?!
Anyway, last week he cut his finger quite badly amending this table. He had to go to a&e (cut using power tool). We agreed this weekend he would work on bathrooms. Today he complained his finger was still in agony. I said "is it easier to fix bathrooms next weekend then?" He said yes, as he cant put any pressure on it. Fair enough. So i said, lets still both do something productive to the house as its a tip.. it is, he says so too. He didnt like that and said "cant you see how that pisses me off, you are telling me what to do". I told him i didnt have "jobs for him" specifically but there is lots to do. 10 mins later he said he is switching power off. I ask what for, he said to put a new light fiting up in the room where the games table is. I said okay. He was gone 4 hours. 4 hours??! 4 hours where i had to do everything for our baby.
Afterwards, he appologised for time and said it all got complicated and a part broke. I was tempted to say "is your finger okay then??" But id be accused of "passive agressiveness" but it dawned on. He has no intention fixing the leak or the bathroom. If he did, we wouldnt be without hot water for 2 years. Its a joke. He isnt even motivated to do it for his baby who is nearly outgrowing her baby bath. Im fed up filling this up from the shower and then carrying it when i could use the actual bath!!
In that moment, tonight, i got the ick. I have made arrangements to see my mum tomorrow. Ill tell him tonight. I am so pissed off. He doesnt care, does he??
I think im done. I am upset as i do love him and obviously we have a daughter. He is all smiles tonight and has thanked me for a lovely day. Prick.
When did you get the ick??
Am i being unreasonable??