Question: I went to the cinema this weekend and the person sitting next to me arrived late and had a very strong, unpleasant odor, as if they hadn’t washed for some time. I tolerated it for the entire film, even though it was distracting and uncomfortable. At one point I felt so nauseous because they kept moving and shifting the smell.
I considered politely saying something, because it didn’t feel acceptable to me, but I didn’t want to embarrass or offend them, so I chose to endure it instead. Later, I realized that by staying silent, I spent the whole time feeling uncomfortable and offended myself. It was so strong I could see others leaning away too.
What is the appropriate way to handle a situation like this? Is it better to quietly endure the discomfort, or is there a respectful way to address it? Because I spent my hard earned money and this was a treat, I expect it was their hard earned money I know - but surely a wash is minimal in societal standards in a close contact public space?
You’re being unreasonable- suck it up sugar! Life ain’t roses.
You’re not being unreasonable- unacceptable! People who stink should be told as kindly as possible.