To think my ex good friend has lost the plot?!

[Hellskitchen24]

Quick background. I have an 8 month old. Ex good friend who made all sorts of fabulous promises about being there, seeing loads of me and the baby etc, hasn’t. I’ve seen her twice in 8 months. Every month or so she sends a passive aggressive (or just aggressive?!) text saying I haven’t been there for her, I never think of her etc. Basically makes it all about her. Never asks me how I am, how my little one is etc. Today she sent me a text saying what a terrible person I am and never contact her again, but to send back a gift she gave me about 6 years ago?! I’ve left it on read and am considering blocking her now. It’s a shame as we used to be close but I think she’s lost the plot.

Has she always been this strange or is it since you had a baby?

Just block her and get on with your life.

Lol at sending back a 6 year old gift.

Have you contacted her much in the last 8 months though?

I’d be worried about psychosis tbh. That’s not normal behaviour, the gift thing is wild.

Since I have had the baby.

I used to be the one making all the effort. Id go to her house, I’d book absolutely everything we did, arrange everything. And obviously that stopped when I had the baby and she didn’t like it.

Oh dear, she sounds in a really bad way. You might reply that she obviously feels badly let down by you, and that you are going to take a step back now as neither of you seem to be getting much from the relationship.
I agree that the tone of her messages has been aggressive rather than passive aggressive!

A watch!

How often have you messaged her or visited in the last 8 months?

Messaged about once a month? Ive not visited her. My little one won’t tolerate being in the car on her own in the back for the length of drive it takes to get to hers. I made this clear. We met in the middle once.

What was the gift ???
yes totally bonkers , it’s gone to far now to salvage
personally I’d send the gift back as requested and a note saying it’s a shame it’s come to this blah blah

the chance to sort it was the first angsty text but you didn’t so it’s ended badly

Regardless of how much you messaged her or not since the baby, it's pretty unhinged to be saying things like that in adult friendship/relationship. I wouldn't think twice about blocking.

Sounds like she's lost the plot then or there's something going on that she's not telling you about.

Either way, there's not much you can do.

The watch thing after 6 years would indicate the plot losing.

I did wonder.

A normal text from me to someone I haven’t checked in with would be, hello how are you guys?!? Not aggressively accusing them of all sorts.

Anything stopping her coming to you?

To be honest she sounds very main character.

I'd tell her to sod off.

Psychosis is a bit of a reach!

OP, have you contacted her? Sounds like the friendship has run its course. What gift is she asking to have back out of interest?

She sounds unhinged, does she have history of mental health? Any family members you can contact and tell them your concerned as shes acting crazy?

I’m thinking this is the way forward. I’m a bit flabbergasted!

A watch!

I think I she must be having some kind of psychiatric breakdown. Do you know if she's bipolar, schizophrenic? It seems very weird.

I hope she's not literally a danger to herself? Do you have mutual friends who still speak to her, just to check on her?

But yeah just block her really is all you can do. I don't know why she hasn't blocked you already if she 'hates' you so much.

Depression but nothing crazy that I’m aware of.

Do not send back the gift. Tell her that you are concerned about her well being and advise her to seek help as you are not returning 6 year old gifts.

Eh, just block her then. Shes obviously jealous that you have moved on with your life and doesn’t like the fact that your attention is on your family and not on her.

I wouldn’t block but I wouldn’t respond either. No need to add fuel to the fire. Blocking is quite a statement and could drum up trouble.
Avoid and ignore.
If anything else happens you can reevaluate.

Sounds like this friendship has run its course. I agree with above comments to just ignore. Don’t block, don’t respond. Just move on with your life.

Unless there’s some massive context about her being through an awful time recently then yeah block and move on