Help with social services and CFA.

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TrishyLou1111 · 10/01/2026 00:14

My 17 year old daughter was sexually abused by a male in november 2025.
She was living with her nan at the time it happened and returned home a week later.
I immediately called the police and my DD stated she wanted to press charges. Legalities began and she did a video interview ect. Bail conditions put in place for this young man and investigation still ongoing.

I have 4 other children and I am currently pregnant. My question, why are social services doing a children's and families assessment? They've checked bedrooms, contacted schools etc etc, im obviously not concerned but I feel as though ive done something wrong? Like im the perpetrator.

Is this standard procedure? Or AIBU and completely stressed for no reason?

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grumpygrape · 10/01/2026 21:41

TrishyLou1111 · 10/01/2026 21:11

She has recieved no support at all and no updates. She asked for some mental health support and shes heard nothing at all. She was interrogated in the interview and was.told if she was lying she'd be in serious trouble.

I will contact the officer tomorrow.

I really appreciate all the advice as, from how this has been handled so far, I juat presumed this was normal protocol.

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Please Google 'Support for people making rape allegations' and contact the most likely results.
I thought the Police were supposed to be more supportive nowadays.
I'm sorry I can't be more help

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TrishyLou1111 · 10/01/2026 21:43

Starlight7080 · 10/01/2026 21:38

After your updates I suppose ss could have just been confused about what lines have been crossed.
It sounds like the cousins were in bed together? And the nan was also asleep in bed . Was this in the same room? .
Just all sounds very weird .
But also does sound like rape and obviously she would not consent. I hope they do take it more serious and she gets more support

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Nan was in her room.

DD and perpetrator were in the second lounge. They are not babies and dont need supervising to watch a film. The only weird thing about it is that he did what he did..I know i used to watch movies in bed or on the sofa with my cousins growing up and I didnt feel the need to be a sexual predator. Im not going to explain positioning in detail. Its disgusting.

Ive just contacted the officer in charge of the investigation as I feel ive been really unintentionally nonchalant after some of the responses on here. I thought this was all standard procedure and its evidently not.

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DecisionTime123 · 12/01/2026 13:23

Well done @TrishyLou1111 - get angry, get the facts. Have you been in touch with something like Rape Crisis? That might be key for your DD (and also give you a clear account of what should be happening now and why):

https://rapecrisis.org.uk

Rape Crisis England & Wales

Rape Crisis England & Wales is the feminist charity working to end child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, sexual harassment and all other forms of sexual violence.

https://rapecrisis.org.uk

TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 12/01/2026 13:26

Haven't read the full thread but having been through this (although with a younger child) they are basically making sure you are reacting to it in the way you should. They also want to make sure your other kids aren't at risk. It's a standard thing, ours was over and done with very quickly.

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