I am furious with my 9 year old...

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He has been asking to go to a friends house all week, i explained that i needed to speak to his mom first. I sent him in this morning with a note with my phone number on it for her to ring me.

Today is the day they wanted to do the tea date.

I am sitting waiting for him to come out of school, his twin brother gets in and says "who are we waiting for?". "Your brother" i reply. "But he has gone back to xxx house"

Aaarrrgghhhhhhh.

I came home, phoned the school who phoned the boys mum. They have him and she had taken it as ok that my son had convinced her all was well and she could just phone me later.

Now i was specific with said walking dead child this morning about not going. He is in huge trouble. AIBU to be a bit cross at the mum too?

No sobbing, wipe, eyes, blow nose.... we are well hard remember. You are the hardest though

He is back, i have sent him to his room. The mum was very embarrased and said he was very convincing and the pulling out of the 'note' sealed it for her.

I said to her not to worry at all and could i have her mobile for next time

The boy in question is coming next Monday for tea. To play with the other twin.

I am gulping down the non alcoholic G&T MrsJB

No time to sob, will have to do that later!

A DH at sea....6 DC's...one on the way......what are you? Superwoman?????

Lynette - G&T is definitly Superwoman - we are friends off the multiples thread. She's a lovely MN friend.

Well done LG&T! Next time tell him he's moving in with me. I think it's good to have strong boundaries.

That poor other mum lol!

Just to reassure you LG&T, I was a bit like your DS - quiet, well behaved and geekish most of the time, but very occasionally I would sneak a fast one like that (hey its boring being good all of the time...).

However, once I'd done it, I couldn't enjoy it while I was there because of the anticipation of what would happen when I got home. Then, at home, I would have got the same reaction you've given him, and it would make me quake and realise it just wasn't worth it. And so, I stayed good

You have to have times like this with your children - its how they [yawn] test the boundaries and know they are still there. And I've read recently that if children are passive and compliant all the time, they may be setting themselves up for grief later on in life, depending on what influences they end up with around them. They need to see that bad choice = bad consequences.