Ex’s new wife

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I ended it with Ex due to cohersive control.

AIBU to think it is strange he found someone to buy a house with (after 6 months!) and marry with the same name as me, surname initial and job title? The job is a professional one which is quite hard to get into at Uni.

Maybe he has changed and trying to rewrite history.

Do you share children?

If not, stop stalking him! He’s her problem now.

Why are you still wasting a second of your time thinking about him if he was so terrible? Just be glad he’s not your problem anymore.

Maybe he has changed and trying to rewrite history.

Thats a bit of a strange conclusion to come to.
More likely he is continuing in his unhealthy approach to his relationships.

Does she look like you too, same age?

Let it go and move on, why would you care you had a lucky escape OP. One of my exh was like this, moved in with someone very quickly - blissfully happy together for 5 months then... she called me, he'd left her for her words 'some slag' he'd met in the pub. He fleeced her and she nearly lost her tenancy as a result of his drunken behaviour.
In Op's case the new squeeze poor cow will be on here in a year or less complaining about how shit he is, she pregnant, jobless and possibly broke to boot. Still not your problem.

You are the one analysing your ex's behaviour. I would say at present you are the one acting strangely

Strange as in coincidence or you think he specially found as close a replacement as possible?

Either way, it’s not something for you to waste any time over, tbh.

Yes on both accounts

Obvs 🙄

The strangers thing about it is that you know so much about what he's up to. I have no bloody clue what my ex is up to and have no interest in it whatsoever.

That's A LOT of information for an ex, how much stalking are you doing!

He was coercive controlling but you yourself seem obsessive and stalking !

OP, if this is all true then it’ll be obvious to anyone with half an eyeball that he’s leaping in or replacing you or behaving at least a bit weird. Either way, you need to stay out of it. If anyone brings it up to you, you laugh and say you don’t care. You’re glad to be out of that mess and good luck to them, so long as they leave you alone.

In short - why do you care

Why are you even bothered. Not your problem anymore.

The name is coincidence. The job title if not generic like 'project manager' or 'senior supervisor' may well be due to circles he mixes in. If she looks very much like you, then he probably has a strong type preference.
The important thing is, she's not you, will have her own unique personality and will either prove a better fit for him or she won't. Either way, nothing to do with your life now.

I find it strange that the man your claiming was cohersive seems to be you that's the problem lol, I suspect he has a very different story that probably follows the narrative your writing of yourself being controlling, stalkerish etc

we don't know who the coercive controller was...

Who cares.

Be happy you are well rid and block him on everything.

don’t look him up. Erase him from your present.

It’s odd. Maybe he wants a “re-do” where he can do things differently, or quite possibly more likely someone who might be malleable / easy to control

Why do you know so much about her - thats weird. Surely if hes been awful to you - just leave him and let him get on with it. Kids involved?

It's possible this is true my ex convinced his then girlfriend to dye her hair the same colour as mine and buy the same (pretty distinctive) glasses the kids clocked it immediately mentioned it to him then told me (they found his behaviour strange) I didn't react he moved on found another girl dyed her hair (i began bleaching mine at this point 😂)

Creepy and wierd

I'll volunteer that it's not about you. More likely he has a type.

My exH also moved on very quickly - he can't really be on his own. His new partner works in the same industry I used to. Even at the same large corporate I used to work at. She looks fairly similar to me and roughly same age.
And he is different in that relationship compared to how he was with me. Guessing it's a combination of not having years of shared kids/household resentments. And as to looks - it's simply just tells of his type.

So - just focus on your own life and leave him to his.

I know this sounds farfetched and it probably is but keep an eye on your credit score. If he has access to documents with her name and things like that he might try and apply for credit (with some more dodgy services). As I said highly unlikely but worth keeping an eye on.

So your ex is with someone with the exact same name as you, same age as you, same job as you and looks just like you.....?

Ok then!

I know all of this as my friend told me
I do not stalk him

He has a type of women and she seems very similar to you. Not that surprising, but I think you need to let go and move on. Not your issue anymore.