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To think I can't trust a all drivers to stop at zebra crossings?

112 replies

pengwig · 06/01/2026 17:31

Where I live there are 2 zebra crossings, once right outside a school and the other close by and so often drivers just don't stop for you. I go to cross and they don't slow down never mind stop. I am now in a situation where my trust in it is just gone and I feel like I am almost waiting until the driver has stopped before I even start to cross which I know annoys drivers but I'm fed up of being almost mowed down.

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Boogiemam · 06/01/2026 17:56

jessycake · 06/01/2026 17:46

We have these stupid pedestrian crossings where you have to look sideways for the green man for what seems ages , then they change quickly. I think they are less safe if the traffic doesn’t obey .

I HATE these new style pedestrian crossings. They've just changed the one near me from traditional overhead ones on the opposite side to waist height on the side. It just means when someone is stood right next to it (you know, after pressing it) no one else can see if it's a green man. Awful, awful design.
Sorry for the derailing rant 😂

I think as a society we have gotten more selfish, and lots of drivers don't stop for things that inconvenience or delay them slightly. I know the "rule" is drivers only NEED to stop when your foot is on the crossing, but they ignore the "you should get ready to stop when you see someone waiting" bit and speed through. Who is honestly going to risk stepping out onto a busy road when drivers aren't stopping to force the issue.

Complain to the council and ask for a pelican crossing perhaps? Make the fuckers stop, mind you some of them don't stop for red lights either.

alexdgr8 · 06/01/2026 17:57

Drivers should never wave or otherwise urge a pedestrian to cross.
If they do ignore them. It can be quite dangerous.
Only cross when you judge it safe to do so and you are comfortable doing so.

OtherS · 06/01/2026 18:01

Not had that at all, everyone stops. At least in the UK; in other countries I don't understand why they even bother painting them as they're completely meaningless. But down south and in London, I've never noticed anyone not stop, either as a driver or pedestrian. I would definitely escalate it to the council, ask for cameras maybe.

Davros · 06/01/2026 18:02

Unfortunately zebra crossing behaviour has seriously declined imo. So many people just swerve straight onto the crossing without looking to see if traffic is stopping or facing the crossing to indicate they are about to use it. Afaik, if a vehicle is within the zigzag it is too late to be expected to stop, if you’re not speeding that is. Pedestrians need to “address the crossing” and try to make eye contact with the nearest driver, not just March out without looking. Having said that, I agree that drivers aren’t respecting zebra crossings as much as they used to, they were always sacrosanct!

alexdgr8 · 06/01/2026 18:02

When I started driving we did the hand signals too.
The right arm out the window in a graceful motion palm down like a gull landing meant I am slowing down or stopping. This was to alert following drivers.
It was used when approaching zebra crossings but the pedestrian always had to make their own judgement as to when it was safe to cross.
This was not intended as a signal to urge the pedestrian to cross.

JaneGrint · 06/01/2026 18:03

I absolutely wait until I’m sure the cars are stopping before I go onto the zebra crossing.

I’ve seen cars drive straight through them too often to want to risk it. I’ve even seen cars speed up on the approach to zebra crossings when pedestrians are still crossing the road. Some drivers just seem oblivious to zebra crossings.
And it’s not going to end well for the pedestrian if there’s a collision.

ChinFluff46 · 06/01/2026 18:03

I've never trusted them.

I look and practically make eye contact with the driver until I'm dead sure they are stopping, before I step out onto them.

I know you are supposed to put one foot on it, and then look again before proceeding I think?

The state of drivers on the roads these days is worse.

3678194b · 06/01/2026 18:06

I agree drivers not stopping at zebras, when you're already on the crossing, has got worse.

Not just today but I can think of many other zebras where the driver on the near side has stopped to let you cross, but you're then greeted by a driver on the other side of the road zooming by as you're walking across. Obviously illegally. I do think they should be replaced by pedestrian crossings.

A couple of months ago a pedestrian was knocked down in our area whilst crossing a zebra. I never trust anyone to stop anymore.

ChinFluff46 · 06/01/2026 18:06

If they aren't going to stop, I would rather they did that without me on it.

roseymoira · 06/01/2026 18:09

ChinFluff46 · 06/01/2026 18:03

I've never trusted them.

I look and practically make eye contact with the driver until I'm dead sure they are stopping, before I step out onto them.

I know you are supposed to put one foot on it, and then look again before proceeding I think?

The state of drivers on the roads these days is worse.

Edited

Yes drivers must stop when a pedestrian puts one foot on the crossing, and SHOULD (but not must) stop if a pedestrian is waiting

Nomoremening · 06/01/2026 18:09

pengwig · 06/01/2026 17:40

Some people say you have to look as though you are just about to cross so they know to stop but they should be able to see you waiting to cross and if you just stand there its like they think you are waving them on! I do wait because I don't want to be run over but many drivers just want to be able to slow down about and speed up as you pass them. It feels very unsafe. They even put in new lights and tried to make the crossings more obvious but so many drivers just don't seem to care. Some drivers are lovely and do stop but so many these days don't.

You’re not wrong OP. They are meant to just stop even if you’re just standing like a lamppost.

I’m learning to drive and I know we are told to approach it carefully and watch our speed in case anyone pops out wanting to cross. If we see people even walking near it we are told to keep an eye out in case they are wanting to cross. But I see drivers ahead of me just tearing through the crossings when I’m on my lessons even when the person is taking steps closer to the kerb.

Unfortunately people discard of a lot of the rules once they get the licence.

JumpingPumpkin · 06/01/2026 18:13

EmeraldShamrock000 · 06/01/2026 17:43

Not only zebra crossing, I double check at red lights too.

Very sensible. I was once halfway across a road at a pedestrian crossing, lights were red for cars, and even though I was pushing a pram a car clearly didn't notice and just passed in front of me without even slowing down. Scary

Nomoremening · 06/01/2026 18:15

From the Highway Code: .

”Drivers and riders should give way to pedestrians waiting to cross and MUST give way to pedestrians on a zebra crossing (see Rule H2). Keep looking both ways, and listening, in case a driver or rider has not seen you and attempts to overtake a vehicle that has stopped”

The problem is pedestrians rightly don’t trust the drivers so the pedestrians stands waiting and watching cars whizz by but don’t actually put a foot on the crossing. And then the driver can say to themselves “oh well they weren’t actually on the crossings so I was fine not to stop”

So unless you’re going to cause a traffic accident by stopping at a zebra crossings I feel you should stop if you see someone waiting.

Eyeshadow · 06/01/2026 18:18

Are you a driver?
Never assume a car will stop or see you.

Always wait until the car has stopped and be vigilant when you cross.

I don’t think pedestrians realise that sometimes drivers literally cannot see them or they’re distracted because there’s someone trying to cross further up etc.

I drill it into my DC that just because you can see the cars it doesn’t mean they can see you.

Chinsupmeloves · 06/01/2026 18:28

Sadly there are too many arseholes out there so always best to be cautious. I generally gesticulate like a banshee when someone speeds across to let them know it's wrong. Makes me feel better anyway. Xx

Jackiepumpkinhead · 06/01/2026 18:30

I always wait for both sides to stop, someone almost hit my dog as they came flying along as I was half way over.

sillyrubberduck · 06/01/2026 18:31

Please stop and wait for car to slow down / stop. My friend was killed on a zebra crossing by a car that didn’t stop. She was only 15.

Nomoremening · 06/01/2026 18:58

Chinsupmeloves · 06/01/2026 18:28

Sadly there are too many arseholes out there so always best to be cautious. I generally gesticulate like a banshee when someone speeds across to let them know it's wrong. Makes me feel better anyway. Xx

Same, I’m currently abroad in a European country and was crossing the road with my suitcase and so was another woman. I mention suitcase because I couldn’t easily run across.

This man was reversing into the crossing area right where we were walking , and it was a green man!

I don’t know what was happening with his driving, but it was a mess. I locked eyes with him and shook my head before I even finished crossings and then gave him a wide berth.

He did pause for a while so maybe i appropriately shamed him 😂but then started again once we had all crossed and the green man went off.

And within 30 seconds he had smacked into a pole thingy on the sidewalk and his rear light cracked and fell off 😬 he and the passenger in his car didn’t even notice. It was someone else who knocked on the window and told him.

I don’t want any part of that madness so I scooted well away from him - I was waiting for my uber - in case things got worse! The sidewalks aren’t even safe with some drivers lol

SwedishEdith · 06/01/2026 19:06

OtherS · 06/01/2026 18:01

Not had that at all, everyone stops. At least in the UK; in other countries I don't understand why they even bother painting them as they're completely meaningless. But down south and in London, I've never noticed anyone not stop, either as a driver or pedestrian. I would definitely escalate it to the council, ask for cameras maybe.

Disagree with this. Was in Prague last year and we commented that cars all automatically stopped without you having to second guess whether they were going to. France, Spain, Italy - can't say I've noticed any significant difference to the UK, tbh.

DappledThings · 06/01/2026 19:11

RecordBreakers · 06/01/2026 17:37

Why would it annoy drivers ? Confused

It has always been the case that you'd be daft to step out into the road without being sure it is safe to do so. Who is crossing any other way ? Confused

Because you can't tell if people are definitely crossing of they dither like that. If people walk out more confidently when cars are at a sensible distance then pedestrians can cross and drivers can slow down gently adjusting their speed to be able to start off again smoothly and efficiently helping traffic flow.

I step out on crossings if traffic is approaching and is far enough away to stop.

LlynTegid · 06/01/2026 19:14

Sadly in the UK I think the OP is making the correct decision. I wish it were not the case, but as there is no real enforcement of driving standards and the courts don't ban the drivers they should, self preservation must come first.

Contrast that with Belgium where they always stop without exception in my experience.

ohyesido · 06/01/2026 19:17

The drivers where I live rarely stop, and when they do they rev their engines in what think is a passive aggressive manner. Run me over then arse!

ErrolTheDragon · 06/01/2026 19:26

LlynTegid · 06/01/2026 19:14

Sadly in the UK I think the OP is making the correct decision. I wish it were not the case, but as there is no real enforcement of driving standards and the courts don't ban the drivers they should, self preservation must come first.

Contrast that with Belgium where they always stop without exception in my experience.

Otoh, Italy….on our first visit, DH asked someone why they bothered painting the zebra lines on roads as only cars with German plates stopped at them. “ah, we are artistic”, was the cheerfully unabashed reply.

Ariana12 · 06/01/2026 19:27

I slow down if I see someone at a pedestrian crossing but that doesn't mean they have to start crossing begore I've actually stopped andctheyvfeel secure. A few seconds make no difference

ErrolTheDragon · 06/01/2026 19:30

Eyeshadow · 06/01/2026 18:18

Are you a driver?
Never assume a car will stop or see you.

Always wait until the car has stopped and be vigilant when you cross.

I don’t think pedestrians realise that sometimes drivers literally cannot see them or they’re distracted because there’s someone trying to cross further up etc.

I drill it into my DC that just because you can see the cars it doesn’t mean they can see you.

How the hell does a driver not see someone on a zebra though? Unless idiots have parked in the zigzags, there should be clear visibility on them. (Of course you’re right that some drivers do manage to be oblivious, I’m just mystified by it!)