Was the girls at salon talking about me or am I overthinking

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Tina5 · 03/01/2026 20:36

Hi everyone Went today to get my hair cut at my usual salon, walked in to see 2 girls on Reception desk and my usual stylist standing to the side where the waiting area was. Anyway I said hello happy new year and the girls at reception looked at each other and after looking at my stylist she looked at the girls who were still looking at me and said to me hello come through. AIBU to think this was rude of them as it seemed like they was talking about me or am I overthinking the whole thing

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CarterBeatsTheDevil · 04/01/2026 13:23

Winederlust · 04/01/2026 11:26

I love that correcting someone's SPAG is viewed as 'cunty' or in some way classist, yet hoards of actually rude responses get posted on almost every AIBU thread to no comment.

I quite often do post in response to rude or discriminatory or abusive posts, and so do others. I also sometimes don't respond to people correcting SPAG. But I'm not a moderator and I don't have to read let alone respond to every single message on a thread that irritates me. This isn't a job for me, it's just a message board.

MadamCholetsbonnet · 04/01/2026 13:32

I can’t really understand why you would think they were talking about you.

Do you often feel like this? It’s very unlikely, unless there’s something particularly striking about you.

If you have a bright pink Mohawk and are aged 70, I take it all back!

Thepeopleversuswork · 04/01/2026 13:32

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 04/01/2026 01:38

I see you trying to be all "oh yes I totally think this is fine when people do it to me too" but it's really not on. I actually don't care how OP feels about it - I find it really disruptive when posters do this. When someone asks for help on a forum they ought to be confident that people will engage with the thing they're asking about, not treat them like they're in Year 3. Also, I wonder if you've considered that it will be something disproportionately experienced by people with a working class background and how this sort of response creates a feeling of exclusivity and gatekeeping? Different people from different backgrounds and in different contexts might use language differently than you do. There are contexts where people expect good formal English, but OP's not applying to you for a job, you're not interviewing her, she's not writing letters on your behalf, she's not teaching or minding your children and you've not been engaged to teach or proofread for her. Her language is just not your concern unless it's offensive or incomprehensible.

It's not appropriate. It's rude. It makes people feel unwelcome and stupid for no good reason. It's as rude when you do it as it would be if my 8 year old did it to someone but at least she's still working out how you're supposed to behave. I really hope Mumsnet starts clamping down on this.

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