Was the girls at salon talking about me or am I overthinking

[Tina5]

Hi everyone Went today to get my hair cut at my usual salon, walked in to see 2 girls on Reception desk and my usual stylist standing to the side where the waiting area was. Anyway I said hello happy new year and the girls at reception looked at each other and after looking at my stylist she looked at the girls who were still looking at me and said to me hello come through. AIBU to think this was rude of them as it seemed like they was talking about me or am I overthinking the whole thing

Silly you @Icanneverthinkofaname! Seems you and OP are in the same boat. 🚤

Thanks, good spot, didn't check before commenting 😂

Whoopsie. It’s so easy to make mistakes isn’t it?

Really? I wouldn't agree on that. I simply didn't proof-read and correct, way too tired tonight and should have been asleep a long time ago. Had I checked before posting, I would have picked up on it, so not quite the same as being unaware in the first place.

It's ok though, I really don't mind being corrected, as I'd always want something to be correct in a professional setting. I don't find people correcting others to be rude, as others have stated that it is, according to them apparently.

I see you trying to be all "oh yes I totally think this is fine when people do it to me too" but it's really not on. I actually don't care how OP feels about it - I find it really disruptive when posters do this. When someone asks for help on a forum they ought to be confident that people will engage with the thing they're asking about, not treat them like they're in Year 3. Also, I wonder if you've considered that it will be something disproportionately experienced by people with a working class background and how this sort of response creates a feeling of exclusivity and gatekeeping? Different people from different backgrounds and in different contexts might use language differently than you do. There are contexts where people expect good formal English, but OP's not applying to you for a job, you're not interviewing her, she's not writing letters on your behalf, she's not teaching or minding your children and you've not been engaged to teach or proofread for her. Her language is just not your concern unless it's offensive or incomprehensible.

It's not appropriate. It's rude. It makes people feel unwelcome and stupid for no good reason. It's as rude when you do it as it would be if my 8 year old did it to someone but at least she's still working out how you're supposed to behave. I really hope Mumsnet starts clamping down on this.

@CarterBeatsTheDevil point taken. The pile on from several posters have made me think. I do struggle to realise how my comments may be taken due to my autism. I think the pile on has more than put me in my place. I certainly did not mean to cause any negative feelings for the OP. I've taken the pile on in good grace, and I'd like it to stop now please.

Well said. Shite behaviour.

So regarding op actual post, I totally get that you might jump to a conclusion, but they were probably having a gossip about someone which you walked in on and thsy were discombobulated to see you. Might have been as simple as that.

But if your gut says it was more then go somewhere else in future

What has working class got to do with it?

Any chance of sticking to what OP posted about?

That's fair enough.

Actually I disagree. The post was in the past, but the suggested lack of awareness is a present continuing state.

Although the OP was writing, not speaking.

We all make mistakes.

I suspect that the OP’s instinct was right; there was a moment of awkwardness, but it could just have been that the receptionists thought that the stylist would welcome her client and the stylist thought that the receptionists would first welcome and check the OP in and they were each waiting for the other.

So nothing personal about you, OP.

Maybe one of them just got bad news.
It really isn't all about you. A bit paranoid even don't you think @Tina5 ?

I agree with you on that @HoppityBun,but there is still something grammatically iffy about that sentence. Maybe it needed ‘from’ at the beginning.

‘the way the OP was speaking was clear that she isn’t aware’

’from the way the OP was speaking, it was clear she wasn’t aware’

When posters are in the wrong, it’s usually better to just apologise instead of doubling down, tripling down and quadrupling down, over-explaining and dragging out the unpleasantness. That’s what I’ve learned myself here: to put your hands up and take it on the chin because if you’re an arse there’s a risk you’ll be humbled. Every day’s a school day and not just in matters of SPAG.

Main character energy or what

More likely they were having a conversation that would be unprofessional in front of customers and the looks were a 'did that customer hear our dirty joke?' look.

I’d be astounded if anyone at my hairdressers even remembered me enough to talk about me when I’m not there. Plus what they might be saying about me is their business, not mine.

They probably were hungover and had just been having a conversation about how they just can’t be arsed to do any work today and you walked in all cheery and interrupted their moan fest

unless you have two heads or are known to be a difficult customer or some other back story like you have shagged one of their boyfriends

THE CHANCE OF THEM GIVING TWO SHINY SHITES ABOUT YOU IS ZERO

get help for your paranoia

Also I do agree picking on posters literacy levels is cunty ( unless it’s funny , which it is sometimes)

so come on let’s try to be kind in 2026 ! ( unless it’s funny in which case it’s fine)

I love that correcting someone's SPAG is viewed as 'cunty' or in some way classist, yet hoards of actually rude responses get posted on almost every AIBU thread to no comment.

Everyone can make a choice to be cunty or not before they decide to press 'post'.

No-one with with poor SPAG has a choice over how cunty others are going to be to them about it.

Are you usually this sensitive?

Do you always make everything about you?

If you found it rude I guess it was.

But as long as the person was a good hairdresser and I didn't actually overhear them slagging me off I'd probably just forget about it.

I mean if even they were talking about you it wasn't necessarily negative. Just they knew they needed to stop when they saw you?

Certain posters would do well to consider their own posts before attempting to take the moral high ground.