to think that this is a tad insensitive

[Quadrophenia]

right am having a really tough time financially, really tough. Mortgage has just shot up by £250, problems remortgaging, the stress is impacting my mood, my relationship and quite honestly I'm feeling really really shit. So best mate rings me tonight, we have a very open friendship i tell her my financial crap, not because I wnt to go into the details of my finances but becuase of how it is making me feel. Her response is to tell me about the £800 dining suite she has just bought. I don't mean ten minutes later, or even two, it was a direct response. Quite honestly i'm rather annoyed I'm pouring my guts out and that is her response! Please tell me i'm entitled to feel a little bit irked, i don't begrudge anyone anything in life, I'm frankly pleased she is doing well but as a friend I want her to be just a little more sympathetic.

YANBU, I'm more skint than when I was a student now and mortgage has just gone up, buy shoes from charity shops etc. BF has v well paid job which she deserves but I cannot listen to her going on about how "poor" she is.

She has half the mortgage, no childcare and earns 20k more than me!!And she rants on about how she can't cope carrying round the latest mulberry handbag (she has 4)

I don't know about you peacelily but I can't say anything because the last thing I want to look is like I'm being resentful, i ight feel irked with her but i don't resent her hard work.

aw, thats a bit , that you laid yourself out there only to be kind of ignored (or thats how id feel i guess)
and then i was shitty too.
SORRY

I just change the conversation when she starts v hard, whinging after turning up with yet another "restyle" i.e. cut and colour about £100 a pop. Or I leave an invoice from the nursery in an obvious place

she's worked v hard and she's clever but brash and insensitive when it somes to money.

I change conversations alot too, today though I really did want a sympathetic ear. I don't think i've ever felt so uncertain about my future and i think the way she dealt with it has made me slightly contemplative about our friendship.
I kind of pride myself on being a listener and think maybe i just expect others to be the same, in truth though I listen alot and don't share my crap much so when she didn't respond in a way i identify with i felt a bit hurt.

amphib honestly don't worry am using mn as a sounding board, you didn't upset me

Amphibimum!!!

You have got to be joking!

I have a very similar relationship with someone close in my family...after having a discussion about our mortgage going up by £200 per month, me being pregnant and all the associated costs during maternity leave etc...she made all the right noises, then told me to go part time cos I'm getting older and how happy she was that Harvey Nicks was opening in Bristol so didn't have to go all the way to Birmingham to shop there...

You can just imagine my face can't you?

I didn't speak to her for a week cos I was so annoyed with her being insensitive and I don't think she noticed!!!!!