To think this was a bit of an odd gift

[Bilingualistic]

Lighthearted, but DSIL gifted us a framed photo of each of her sons this year for christmas.

Just framed, individual school/nursery photos. We’ve put them up in the hallway but every time I walk past them I think it’s a bit odd to have them there, they are our nephews but I don’t have individual photos of any other kids, including my own 😂 But we are more of an artwork family and don’t really have photos up because I think they change so quickly, so maybe that’s why it feels so out of place.

Anyway, as I said lighthearted but

YABU - this is a normal thing to do in most families
YANBU - it’s a bit strange

I think it’s more the kind of gift you’d give to grandparents! Very odd

This was completely normal in our family when our children were younger (my eldest and my niece are the same age, so it was a mutual thing), but I can see why you may not appreciate it as much if you don’t normally have family photos up.

I would happily put up small photos of neices etc. I think it's quite a sweet gift.

MN will hate it as being twee or an imposition

We’ve had this in the past and they just end up in a drawer.

Yes that’s kind of weird 😂 kind of you to have put them up in your hallway - I wouldn’t!

Yes, it’s a normal thing to do in non-artwork sorts of families 🙄

Grandparents yes, nieces and nephews no.

My brother loves to receive school photos of my kids so I don’t understand your take on this. I look forwards to him having his own children so I can have theirs too

I have a photo of my niece up but not in the hallway. I think it’s odd to send you a photo that you didn’t ask for

Oh god don’t let them see you’ve put them up! You’ll be beholden to add a photo of the nephews every year throughout their school lives!

this sort of thing is not done in my family at all - we assume we are all capable of printing any photos we’d like ourselves. However in my partners family it’s very normal, school photos are given around the family as magnets, calendars and prints every Christmas. I’m not convinced anyone really wants them except the parent of the child!

The Traitors production team have obviously been reading mn, as it’s been suggested here before that it would be fun not to know who the Traitors are.

Ooos, wrong thread.

Was that the only present?

@Silverbirchleaf that completely threw me as I am currently watching traitors 😂

I think it’s fine. We have a photo gallery wall outside the study so I’d be quite happy with that as a present. I wouldn’t randomly stick them up in the hallway if that’s wasn’t where we normally put photos though- put it on a bookshelf or whatever you do normally with family snaps.

Thanks everyone, thought it would be a split! Maybe I need to just pop them on a bookshelf instead, maybe it’s the hallway that’s throwing me 😂

Also please don’t get me wrong, we have our wedding photos up and a few family photos, we’ve just never been gifted individual photos of our neices/newphews before. Maybe I need to do a gallery wall as someone else has done, I like that idea.

I wouldn't mind getting the pictures but would pop them standing on a side table or something but not put them permanently on the wall..too much! Some of my nieces live abroad and their parents would have sent us pictures over the years buts that's different as we rarely got to see them. Also we pop up pictures of our own kids with their cousins but l would change these around regularly. If they are up in the hall they may be insulted if you ever take them down.

My aunt and uncle used to send photos of my cousin every year. Not really my thing (I'm not a fan of lots of family photos all over the place).

But some families do like it. So I'd say it's something that some people do appreciate.

Sorry!

Sending school photos to aunts, uncles and grandparents would be totally normal in my family. Not framed though - it’s the frame that makes it an awkward gift as the implication is that you’re expected to display it. If it’s just a photo tucked inside a card, you can choose whether you want to display it or not.

I would hate to receive this as a present and would never give photos of my kids as a present.

Yes a bit odd.

One of my cousins has a son and I get a framed picture of him every couple of years or so. Last year I got one of those photo calendars of him.

I mean- I'm fond of my cousin (though not met in person for 7 years or so as we live in different countries) but I have children of my own and do not even have a photo calendar of them.

It’s more unusual to me that you put them up. I’d have thanked her, removed them from their frames and plonked them in a memory box/file and used the frames for something else if they were nice or charity shopped them if they weren’t.

It was normal in my family

It’s not the done thing in my family. I enjoy seeing the photos we all share on WhatsApp, but I wouldn’t frame and display any.