To think this was a bit of an odd gift

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Lighthearted, but DSIL gifted us a framed photo of each of her sons this year for christmas.

Just framed, individual school/nursery photos. We’ve put them up in the hallway but every time I walk past them I think it’s a bit odd to have them there, they are our nephews but I don’t have individual photos of any other kids, including my own 😂 But we are more of an artwork family and don’t really have photos up because I think they change so quickly, so maybe that’s why it feels so out of place.

Anyway, as I said lighthearted but

YABU - this is a normal thing to do in most families
YANBU - it’s a bit strange

It's a pretty standard gift in my family.

It’s worse than getting an ornament which is already bad enough.

This would not be the norm in my family. I am not really keen on photos of people on the walls - it feels a bit weird to me, but I am not sure why.
Like you say, children change so fast, so you either have a photo that feels out-of-date, or they update the photo every year.

Perfectly normal with us

This site never ceases to amaze me how different people can be, it’s an utterly normal thing to give family members individual photos of children in my family, I have up to date nursery/school photos of all my nieces and nephews and always send on photos of ours (not framed admittedly).

We have a few of DN I think they are now in a cupboard....when we buy school pics we get a set of 3, 1 for us and one for each set of grandparents. For only a few £ more you get bloody loads. I always wonder who buys them and who they give them to!

My sister sent copies of my niece and nephew's school photos with my Christmas card, I was really pleased to get them. Not framed though, but I will probably put them in frames myself.

My DSIL did this to me but with her wedding pictures. I was pleased to see her wedding pictures but I wasn’t keen on them being printed, framed and suggested I use them in to decorate my lounge in my new house. For context, I have no photos up of anyone in my home.

You've just made me think, my sil also does this. Not for Christmas but just generally, sends us photos of her children. They're little faces are often found peeking out of drawers and cupboards and most recently I noticed the glovebox. We also don't have a single family photo on display in our house.

She probably framed them so u would have no excuse! Did she include sticky picture hooks too in the package...

I am child free and over the years I have been given so so many photos of people’s kids some framed some not, I accept, maybe make a polite comment then file them in a cupboard. It would probably look strange DH & I with walls full of school uniformed kids.

We have had these as gifts. We love our DN but it feels like quite a cheap gift with not much thought put into when you’re given the smallest size photo that comes in a pack and they’ve been put in basic IKEA frames. Especially when you’ve spent around £100 on their family!

We have also been given the school artwork printed onto household objects gifts because they’ve come in a pack of 4 so we get the spare after the parents and grandparents have been given them. More than happy to praise DN for their artistic skills but we don’t want to display seasonal drawings on objects around our house. It’s not a great gift when it’s not your own child and it’s just a generic drawing they’ve done with the rest of their classmates.

I think it’s a different thing to say ‘oh, I’ve brought you a school photo of George’ and hand it over and the auntie can put it up on the fridge and giving the aunt a framed photo as a present.

My aunt still has my school pics up in her house I’m 37 😂

I’ve had both. Usually when there’s a newborn or first school photo it might be framed as a gift, and then future photos are just in a Xmas card for example. But I don’t think it’s that unusual to receive a framed photo gift of a child family member and would gratefully receive it.

Precisely. Not framed. Framed has the expectation that the person is to hang it up in their home.

Take them down or else you’ll get these every year for the next decade!!

Can you add other school photos to the collection. It will be quite good fun for everyone as they years role by

I definitely wouldn’t do this. I give pictures of my kids to my mum because she absolutely lives having them. I don’t give them to the other GPs as they don’t have any photos of anyone anywhere so assume they wouldn’t appreciate them. Aunts / uncles, definitely not!

We were once gifted photos of our DNephew for Christmas, must have been more than ten years ago now... We put them in our Christmas decoration box and every year we find him again and wonder if his mum is offended we never put them up in the house…

Ok.

I do think it’s unusual to receive a framed photo of my nephew as a present. I’ve got photos of my nephew. But they weren’t given to me as a present. I wouldn’t do this myself, give a relative a framed photograph of my child and I wouldn’t be ‘grateful to receive’ one either.

I think it was a thing that was common 30/40 years ago. I remember DM sending everyone a photo of me and DSIS in all the relatives Christmas cards. You used to buy photo packs with lots of different sized photographs for this purpose. It’s the reason why school photos used to be done in the autumn, so that they could be given as Christmas gifts.

DP used to send his family a framed photo of our DC every Christmas until I pointed out that we never see these photographs when we go round to their houses and they never send us a photo of their DC (if they did we would put them in a drawer as we wouldn’t want them on our wall). DP has now seen reason and we don’t send them accept for SIL who likes to receive one and does display them on the wall in her house.

I don’t send these myself but when I order my kids school pictures theres an option for multi buy Christmas gift pack I guess she chose this.

Totally normal growing up to send school pictures to grandparents, aunts & uncles; and 3rd cousins. We lived far apart and it was a way to say how our kids are growing up
many of them are framed and up in my parents house even now

A lot of posters are saying that it’s normal to send photos to family. I agree it is. I think what isn’t normal, and is very presumptuous, is gifting them already framed. That sends the clear message “hang these in your home”.

I just don’t like that and wouldn’t dare except for grandparents who I know actively want that.