To ask what age you would say is no longer dying young

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Although hard still I feel from 80 onwards it’s expected

If I make it to 70 I’d consider myself old enough really. But I’m biased because the only people I’ve loved who died were 3 and 35. They died too young.

Oh dear. When I worked in palliative care I’d get surprised that people were shocked their 90plus relatives were going to die. That said, I am very pragmatic about death and dying so I find stuff like that a bit 🤔 but that’s not to say I don’t understand that grief works in mysterious ways, and have compassion for the bereaved.

How can dying at/beyond the typical life expectancy be "dying young"? Not even "early" or "too soon" but actually young?! I think young means under 40. If I said I'd had an aunt but she died young, then revealed she had died at 60, I think most people (even those on here answering 80+) would be nonplussed.

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I'd say 80+

My mum is 64 and my dad is 71. Although neither is 'young' both are in good health and active so I would be shocked if they died at those ages.

My Uncle and Grandad both died at 49 of lung cancer. That was definitely too young!

I don’t mean this rudely, but the one thing a 27 yr old can do that you can’t at 67 is call themselves young. (and I’m much closer to your age than 27)

Dying young I would say under 50. Dying too young from 50 to 68, dying too soon under about 79/80. My dad has terminal cancer in early 70s and it is definitely too soon for him. When someone is over 92 I start to feel QOL goes downhill quite a lot in even healthy-ish people.

How is 50 - 60 middle aged? That would mean people living to 100 -120 and I think they are very much in the minority!

40 - 50 is middle aged because old age (if people are lucky enough to get there) is generally 80 -100.

Well young widows don't let you join if you are over 50 so id say 50.

I didn’t take it too seriously. I really know at 67 I’m not young, but it’s young to die.

3 score and 10 so 70

Over 50

Currently 67, the State Pension age for the majority of people; could push it to 70 as a "die young age" but I foresee the current 'longetivity' stats decreasing for numerous reasons.

My mother died this morning at 81.
Although she had a few health issues, when I was with her last night, she was in great form.
No indications that she would be dead 12 hours later.
She had me a month after she turned 18, so having her for 63 years, I imagined that we would have more time.

My husband died at 57 and it didn’t occur to me that he died young .

And then...hard to forget the times "I wanna die before I get old" actually resonated. Sure, there's always been a few that have lived a long 80+ life but then there's usually been a fair few that have died properly young, say under 30.

And the large contigent that kept going inbetween that would die oldish but still a bit youngish. And what keeps a lot of people alive and going.....is that NHS thing. Without it many of us would have croaked or be barely functioning.

Irrespective of anything we rely on it to keep so many of us that would have died in various stages of youngish alive it's obscene.

I think we need to reduce our expectations a tad.

I'm so sorry for your loss

80+ also.
although I said to my dad that a friend’s grandma had died at 77 and it felt really young and he disagreed massively

70+

It depends on person's health really, but generally I would say 80+

I agree, the last 6 years have been brutal for many : the cost of living crisis, covid and it's aftermath and the issues in the NHS to name a few. Life is becoming harder for many in this country which will have a negative effect on age expectancy.

60. I don't think you can describe 60 or over as young though it isn't old either. My dad died at 60. I felt he was too young to die but I know he wasn't young when he died.

Once your three score years and ten are up I’d say you were no longer young. So seventy.

Hardly, otherwise we’d see 67 yo Olympians. With the best will in the world your physical capabilities are well past their peak.

Dying young and dying too soon are too different things. My brother-in-law recently died too soon, but he was 94. We just weren’t ready for him to go yet.