To ask what age you would say is no longer dying young

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Although hard still I feel from 80 onwards it’s expected

My mum died at 49 which I would say was young. My dad died at 66 which I wouldn’t consider young. So I’d say under 60.

I feel like dying at 70 is not old. But it wouldnt make me go "wow, dies so young. So much life ahead". So there is dying young which I would say under 50 and then there is dying sooner than expected which would be 50-75. Then 75 onwards it would not have an age related reaction.

This is something I've thought about recently. I remember when I was in my 20s and someone said a friend's brother had died, so young. In my head I was thinking under 40 but he was 56 and my stupid lack of brain to mouth filter said oh I thought you meant, like, young. Now of course, older and wiser, I can't believe i even thought it!

It's like being at school and you thought your teachers were old but they were only in their 30s!

To answer the question I feel under 70 is too young, under 80 more expected but too soon.

It also depends on the individual. Loved ones who have passed in their 80s still went too son to me because they were still so fit and it was due to other circumstances.

According to Age Concern, you are elderly at 55 so I would draw the line for dying young in your 40s if you are normally health but at retirement age if you are not.

As a general statistic, I'd agree with 80+, but I wouldn't go around saying "Ooh, she was young" or "That's no age is it" or "It's terribly sad to lose someone so young" etc if they were over 75.

When it is someone you are close to though, it does depend on circumstances to a greater extent. Someone who has been suffering for a long time, it doesn't feel the same as someone who just dies suddenly and unexpectedly.

I was shocked when DH died age 69, I expected 10 more years with him.

The average life expectancy in the UK according to gov stats is now 79 for men and 83 for women.
So i'd say from 75 for men and 78 for women would be expected as a reasonable lifetime.
Under retirement age i'd definitely think as dying too young

70

Older than 40 is borrowed time.
Men are useless, women are generally infertile, so also useless.
It is only medical science that prolongs the inevitable decline.

Life expectancy at 65 is approx 20 years (22.1 for women and 18.7 for men). Dying at 65 is younger than expected by around one-quarter of your life-expectancy at birth.

65 is young to die.

Average life expectancy in the UK is 81, so i'd say anything below 75 can be viewed as 'before your time'.

Dying young - maybe under 50.
From 50+, heart disease, cancer etc rates all start rising significantly, so while unusual, it's not necessarily that surprising that some people will be on the lower end of the bell curve.

"Young" is different from "not yet reached standard life expectancy".

What would I think is a reasonable, expected age for people to start dying is a huge range: 60-80 depending on the lifestyle and socio-economic factors for a particular person.

There's being kept alive and there's living, though.

I do think this depends on your socio- economic circumstances. I read a piece in the Guardian ages ago thst there was nearly 20 years between average age of death somewhere a bit nice in Glasgow and somewhere a few miles down the road that was a bit rough.

I wouldn’t be surptised that someone who has been a physical labourer for all their working life died in their 60s.

Absolutely agree with you

Yeah, it's got everything to do with how fit & healthy the person's perceived to be, hasn't it? I was going to say 70 (my age) but I'm not in particularly good shape. My parents lasted until their late 90s and were bouncing around until they passed 90.

So I'll probably go with the consensus at 75, but it would be 'young' for many.

65

I’d say over 80 my dad is a very fit and active 85 year old but he even says his days are numbered . 65 is so young and not even pension age now. Back in the 1970’s growing up everyone acted and looked a lot older I think . My gran looked ancient at 60 it’s just not the case now . I’m 51 and have plenty of life left in me

This reminds me of a colleague who's father had died quite unexpectedly. He'd had a triple bypass years earlier (possibly decades) and had had cardiac episodes since, including stints in intensive care, but pulled through. The final time he'd walked into the ambulance on his own, and told his family he'd see them soon. He died on the way to the hospital and everyone was very shocked. I went to visit her at home and other family and friends were there, reminiscing about him and how "he'd gone too soon, he wasn't ready to die". I casually asked later what age he had been, thinking he was maybe late 60s. He was 95 😁

For me 'dying young' is someone in their twenties or thirties or younger

Dying too soon would be 40s - 60s

Once you get to 70s, I'd say you had a good run

I have many relatives that did not reach 50, so this may be why

60+

This is very true. When I was younger I thought 60 was ancient, my parents are early/mid 70s and I'd definitely think they died too young if they died now. They are both fairly fit and healthy (long may it last) and got offended when their neighbour called them elderly!

I think it depends on the family. My father died at 46 of a heart attack and my brother at 49 of leukemia. But everyone else in the family (5 grandparents, all aunts and uncles, my mother) died in their mid-to late 90’s and one of my aunts at 104. I’m 79 now, I expect (hope?)despite various health problems to make at least 90.
My partner is 70 and his whole family went before 80. So I would say 85+ in my family is young and 80 in his family, if one agrees that “young” is the same as “earlier than you’d expect.”

It sort of depends on the context- dying young to me is a phrase to describe the passing of someone less than middle aged, perhaps with children still living at home. However the age that would I think “well that persons had a decent innings” would be anything 80+. There’s obviously a gap there where say if someone was 65 I wouldn’t think they had died youngest’s, but not would I think they’d lived to the age I might have expected as the average age at death in the uk is almost 80 for men and 83ish for women I think.

I’m 67 and if I died I’d find it young😂 Seriously I can still do anything a 27 year old can do, but with more experience😉