Rude? Stayed for less than an hour for a meal

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I am looking after a neighbour’s dog whilst she is away. I saw my other neighbours and said Happy New Year to them. As took
the dog out Said were being picked up by SIL for NYD meal. They live about 10 min drive from here.

Went back about an hour and a quarter later, taking dog back to its home to see the other neighbours being dropped off by the SIL. They said they had a meal with DD and family.

This means that they spent less than an hour. Literally sat to the table then left when last mouthful was finished. That seems rude and rushed

This literally has nothing to do with you 😂
My Taid has vascular dementia- he is picked up just as tea is ready, will eat at whoevers house and will go back home before he is gets delirious and seriously upset and confused. This is never longer than an hour as he cannot cope with it. You dont know anyone's story - not nice of you to assume they're being rude 😬

Given that you weren't there and weren't affected in any way I wouldn't give it another thought

Literally sat to the table then left when last mouthful was finished. That seems rude and rushed
youndont know that, that’s just your imagination about people you don’t know.

My son could eat a meal in about five minutes. Maybe an hour is their ‘limit’ in terms of seeing each other!

My mum comes over mine most evenings for supper , she lives 5 mins away and doesn't like cooking, and I like having her round. We often just have pasta or beans on toast and she stays just over an hour. Suits us.

None of your business keep your nose out.

This means that they spent less than an hour. Literally sat to the table then left when last mouthful was finished. That seems rude and rushed

You are misinformed. I invited them solely upon condition that they remained for no more than 45 minutes and ate standing up.

I tend to not stay long at peoples homes, not because of health reasons, but because I CBA. I get bored and uncomfortable after about an hour and a half. (Unless it's one of my adult DC or one of my 2 BFF, but even then - two to two and a half hours is enough tbh.) I don't get bored or uncomfortable with the DC and my 2 BFF, but after two to two and a half hours I am ready to go...

I also dislike people staying at mine for long too. Indeed, I rarely have people around because I simply CBA. I get stressed and wound up, feeling like the house has to be immaculate, and I wonder how long they're going to stay/how I can get them to leave. You can't relax, and have to 'entertain' them the whole time. When DH's brother, wife, and kid used to come around, (uninvited - 2-3 times a month on a Saturday or Sunday,) they stayed for 6-7 HOURS. It drove me fucking batshit.

I dropped lots of hints after 3 hours or so - 'surely you must be needing to get off now' and 'well I guess we should start to get things ready for the kids for school and put dinner on.' They would just sit there and ignore me, and would stay and stay until they just ended up staying for dinner sometimes. DH did NOTHING to get rid of them (even though he hated it too!) After a while, we started to say (after 3 hours) 'we need to go out for a bit, to do some shopping.' His brother would say 'we'll wait here til you get back.' Fucking hell - just FUCK OFF!!!!!!!

I was glad when they left the area in the early 2010s. (And we let soon after, so were even further away from them!)

My brother (who now lives 100s of miles away too, and left our old area a couple of years after we did,) used to just turn up unnannounced! Often at 9 at night! When I had 2 small kids. He would stay til 11pm. Even though I wanted to be in bed by 10pm, as I had an early start with the kids. DH and I got to the point where we switched off the lights, put the car in the garage, and acted like we weren't in.

And then you have the sort of people I was on about earlier, who get all shitty with you if you want to leave before they want you to. I have even had occasions where we have visited people who live quite a long way from us (still in the UK) and they get arsey and offended because we don't want to stay at their house. (And we prefer a Travelodge or Premiere Inn!) LOL... just fuck off, why do they need us to stay? So weird!

I much prefer meeting on neutral ground. At a coffee shop, or a carvery. Or a pub, or a pub lunch.

I never used to be this way, up until around 45, I would say I was a bit more tolerant and stayed a bit longer at peoples houses, and had more people around at mine... But I just cannot be arsed now. #sorrynotsorry

I have way less tolerance now, no fucks to give, and am no longer a people pleaser... (Late 50s now...)

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But you weren't there and the people who's meal they went to (or didn't) are complete strangers to you. Why on earth would you notice or care?!

You literally time how long your neighbours spend outside of the house and then deem them rude if it was for the 'incorrect' duration?

That is more than nosy it's obsession.

Very rude of you to be timing your neighbours comings and goings and passing judgements on them.

Found oot fit happened yet Isa?

Do you twitch your net curtains when home? You are taking Neighbourhood Watch too literally.

It's the Dinner Police.

a) Nothing to do with you

b) You don't know the context. eg, My mum has a chronic illness - on a bad day she can't manage company for very long before she needs to rest. Or maybe the parents just like short, frequent visits, given they live nearby.

where i live every single neighbour is like you and its one of the rare things i miss about most of england - minding their business haha

Most meals do not take anywhere near an hour.

We are often done in 10 minutes or so at home. We aren't Henry the 8th sitting down to a 12 course banquette with entertainment.

We went out for new years and we where finished in half an hour and that was a seated meal in a restaurant (although granted the food was set pre-done menu so super fast but in a restaurant thats what usually takes the time). However that still was from entering, waiting to be seated, ordering drinks, being served, eating and paying.

I expect the SIL had received a new pet for Christmas - probably a tortoise - without your neighbour's knowledge, and as it happens your neighbour is allergic to tortoises.

So she could only spend an hour for this meal as her sinuses were playing up due to the presence of this tortoise.

In future, they've arranged to put the tortoise in a little cage in the garden when she visits, so that she can chew her food more slowly.

Poking one's beak into other people's business and having opinions on it IS rude. I'd stop If I were you OP.

That so made me laugh out loud, several times and luckily only the cats and dogs to wonder what the matter is with me as I'm laughing so hard. 😂 Nice one!, There is a real book in there bursting to get out on the bookshelves if you are nosey enough to keep up with the surveillance. Very Midsomer Murders with a dash of Miss Marple. I lost this post days ago and now it has just reappeared - I was on anothe rpost on another page. How spooky.