To give myself box room?

[freshstartere]

My marriage broke down a couple of years ago, exh was emotionally/psychologically abusive and I can't see myself ever wanting to be in a relationship again. I just have zero interest. I am still reasonable young - early 30s.

The kids are with me 90% of the time and we have 3 bedrooms, one large, one medium, one small. I was planning on redecorating their rooms this year as they're getting older and it occurred to me why am I in my room? I don't do anything in there except sleep and they would really benefit from being bumped up a room size so DD2 from box room to medium, DD1 from medium to large.

I can't think of any reason not to except it goes against the norm?

I absolutely would, they can keep all their stuff in there so downstairs doesn't become chaotic.
You'll still be in charge of the house, they'll respect your sacrifice not think they are top of the tree!

My house has two double bedrooms plus a reasonable sized box room. When my two got to the age that they wanted sleepovers/friends round I moved into the small room and they had a larger one each. I have a 3/4 bed as I didn't want to sleep in a single and it's cosy but all I do is sleep in there. Now that the eldest has more or less moved out I am planning on changing things again.

I expect you to spend most of your time in the lounge when awake etc, so then it makes sense to have a box room. kids these days have so much stuff like tvs play stations etc they need the room. plus of course sleepovers

I was going to say that the ages of the children matters.

My ExH left unexpectedly when our DC were very young indeed, and I would frequently have them both in bed with me all night so that they had the familial comfort and feeling of safety that they needed during those first few years.

When the elder one went to university he agreed to swap rooms with sibling.

They still as adults come and plonk themselves on my bed with me to chat or watch tv, occasionally to fall asleep …