Clare’s law given over phone now my ex is stalking me and arrested and on warrant again

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The police did a Clares law for me exa new partner, instead of doing it in person they did it over the phone were he was sat and were he heard everything the police went as far as to tell the new partner that it was my neighbours who rang 999 mostly not me. He ended up flipping at me over the phone and has now been arrested for following me and dragging me out of my car and for hitting the new woman. He got bail conditions then followed
me again 2 days later my life is slowly being ruined yet again all because this officer decided to do it over the phone and knew he was with the new GF

How did the officer know he was with her?

Sorry, who asked for the Clare's Law disclosure? Is it normal procedure for the police to disclose any information over the phone? I would check that all the proper procedures were followed and if not, lodge a formal complaint with the police, especially if it put you at risk.

I'm confused about what happened here....

I’ve re-read this about 5 times and I still come to that conclusion..

I think there's a typo for ex's?

So OP has an ex who has convictions relating to her, the ex's new partner got a Clare's Law disclosure, (maybe requested by someone else?) but it was over the phone and her partner, the ex, heard it all?

There's no way that should have been allowed to happen. It has endangered OP and the new partner too.

OP do you think the new partner chose to lie when asked if they were alone, or that she was coerced into letting your ex listen?

I’ve had a disclosure and I was asked to attend in person and sign to say I wouldn’t disclose anything

You need to file a complaint. This is outrageous. And also contact the police every time he approaches you. Report every breach. Dont answer calls from him but dont block so the police can see if he rings you.

sorry this happened but why didn’t you find somewhere private to take the phonecall? Or tell them it wasn’t a good time? Very confused. I would be surprised if they didn’t ask if you were in your own and safe to talk before they made the disclosure.

Please confirm what has actually happened here at

Why did the police call you and the ex was with you?
or they called your ex’s new partner on your behalf?
how do you know he was with her at the time?

You need to raise a complaint with the IPC. The police should not have jeopardised your safety when making the disclosure, and you have every right to expect the officers conduct is investigated. You should also continue to report every single incident as if occurs. Clearly, he’s a dangerous individual.

I’m surprised they did it over the phone and mentioned your neighbours as being the complainants. That’s dangerous for both you and the neighbours. I wonder if he coerced the new girlfriend into making the application.

Honestly I really think some police officers just don’t take women’s safety seriously. I’ve watched some programmes on stalking recently and the attitudes are appalling.

I think I've got it.

Exes new partner submitted a Clare's Law request.
Police called to new partner to give her the information.
Ex was with new partner at the time.
Ex overheard police tell new partner it was mostly the OP's neighbour who called the police to report him, presumably for DV.
Ex is now blaming OP, is stalking her and has assaulted her.
He was arrested and was stalking her again two days later.

OP it seems unusual that the police would divulge this information over the phone without checking the new partner was in a safe place. Do you have confirmation from anyone else that it happened this way apart from claims made by your ex?

The National Stalking Helpline may be able to advise you about how to take the right steps to make the police act to protect you.

https://www.suzylamplugh.org/pages/category/national-stalking-helpline

How in the hell are so many people’s basic comprehension skills on this thread so fucking poor? The op was understandable.

You're saying the police officer knew the new GF was in a vulnerable position and still gave her the information which led Ex back to you?

It's pretty standard for these disclosures to be given face to face to prevent this situation from happening.

Who told you that he was there when she received a phone call to do the disclosure?

If it's him that has told you that is what happened I wouldn't believe him.

Me too

She applied for a Clare’s law herself I had no idea about her being with him or anything

Can you explain a little bit more about what has happened op? Understandably you’re upset and this must be very stressful for you but what you’ve written isn’t clear and it will help us to advise you if you can clarify.

I think he didn’t think she would do it and that he coerced her into doing it in front of her

They gave his partner the Clare’s law over the phone not me I’m his ex partner

He said on a VN to me that he got someone to do it

It really wasn't
HTH x

Boggles me why you wanted to be around him ex or not anyhow.thays weird

So my ex new partner did a Clare’s law and the police did it over the phone the new partner told them he was there but they did it anyways so he heard it all. He is fuming. New partner then got assaulted by him and had to report him I got attacked as I can’t remove what he did from Clare’s law and he on bail now for stalking