To think its a bit shit that our posts end up on FB

[gardenbouche]

Not sure I am happy about that tbh

Yes that's what annoys me. Mn posts a tiny snippet and misses out key relevant info. But fb people don't click full thread they just comment bitchy comments based on one line. Which if its a sensitive topic is shit for poster!

that was a classic and brought me to mumsnet,

I'd there really are 8m users then the engagement rate is pitiful, I've seen AIBU votes with fewer than 50 responses. What exactly counts as a user?

Hello @gardenbouche , are you referring to one of your threads that appeared on our Facebook page? We haven’t been able to locate it, but please let us know if we’ve missed something.

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We've now removed the SEN thread referenced here. While the majority of the comments were supportive and related to the OP, we can see how the lack of context was an issue so thanks for alerting us.

Why does it matter whether the comments were supportive and related to the OP or not when the OP will never see them? What is the point of those comments on Facebook?

OP might see them

They are also to draw people to the site

It's advertising

I think the chance of the OP seeing them when it is not flagged anywhere on MN that their thread has been posted on facebook is unlikely.

Websites aren't a little bubble or safe space. This site has over 9 million users, our email addresses, username and passwords were released by a hacker.
Once something is online it is there forever.

Like @noblegiraffe says, it wouldn't occur to me to check FB or Insta or the DM comments section to see if anyone was engaging with something I had posted on this site, whether offering me support or ripping me to shreds.

I'm always a bit wary about what I post anyway after someone once did a weird advance search on me to try to undermine a point I was attempting to make; such a weird experience to know that a stranger, over-invested in an online disagreement over a relative non-issue, actively went out of their way to hunt through the archives for some 'dirt' on me, triumphantly pulling old, out-of-context, unrelated statements out of the bag, like "Ta-dah, now who's the xxx?!"

I don't particularly like that there's this 'MN adjacent' audience which can passively consume this content without actively contributing, 'in the spirit of' the site, and I do think it has contributed to a feeling of 'hollowing out' of what was once something akin to an intentional community of users who had deliberately sought out this online space, as opposed to having it served up as an incedental side dish.

A public website with around 8 to 10 million monthly users is no-one's safe space.

I think the reason I disagree with them posting on FB is because the comments appear to be unregulated and are far more brutal than even on here.

I thought I didn't read Facebook messages as I don't use it!

It's 21 years, for me. At the time when you and I joined, Facebook didn't exist, the Daily Mail online didn't exist - and Mumsnet had less than 20,000 users. So not only did it seem a safe space, it actually was a lot safer and far more private than it is now.

Do you remember, in the early days there used to be regular meet-ups organised? They were always in London, so too much of a faff for me to bother going. But there were quite a few large friendship groups on here then, where people knew each other in real life as well as on here. I'm not sure if that's the case any more.

They’ve been on Facebook for years and MN has been mentioned on other parent sites like BabyCentre and Netmums and had plenty of story end up on various media outlet webpages.

Anyone can come on here and link threads from MN anywhere they desire.

It is still the internet.

That is why they say whatever you post online be sure you don’t mind it getting anywhere else.

Think it is different when it is MNHQ themselves posting your threads on other sites and then getting hundreds of comments on your threads that you yourself don't see, and that they do not moderate.

@BeckyAMumsnet yes, I have name changed since the thread which I posted a couple of days before Christmas.

I haven't name changed for about 20 years, but it really freaked me out seeing my thread on FB without me knowing about it, and as others have said with FB users commenting in an unmoderated environment.

I don't follow MN on FB and so it was by chance that I came upon it as a suggested page to follow.

I remember the meet ups well, and like you didn't go as they were mostly in London.

I suppose I still think MN is like it was then, but of course its very different.

Why on earth would you consider a public forum on the World Wide Web as a safe space?

I think the figures given out by MNHQ are exaggerated out of date. As you say, the engagement rate here (and on FB) is relatively low - very low.

MNHQ also posts threads on to X/Twitter and engagement is pretty close to zero on there.

I think MN’s heyday has passed, for all sorts of reasons.

I agree. I thought Justine and her friend started it as a place for women to get advice. Now it’s obviously about making as much money as possible.

‘Man who has it all’ FB page often has posts directly lifted from MN. Or maybe it’s the other way round, or a collaboration I wasn’t aware of. Dunno.

I agree. The comments on fb aren't policed the same way posts here are. Plus the comments here are often there to help/inform the OP whereas on fb they are usually just horrible judgey comments.

I agree OP. I've seen some of the mumsnet posts on Facebook and the comments were horrible. Not only that, but of course you can see how many people have 'liked' a comment on there. One particularly unpleasant comment I saw had 60 likes, and I remember thinking if I was the original poster of the thread, that would upset me. It would be nice if the OP was informed when their thread was going to be on Facebook/Twitter- and given the option to say no - though I shouldn't think for a moment that will happen. Everything is about making money, by attracting more people to the site.

Seems pointless to me, may as well put the whole MN forum on there.

It's a shame but these forums aren't what they used to be, and will never be the same. I remember the days of closed chatrooms in the mid 1990s. Proper advice, no numpties, no adverts, no propoganda, no mis- or dis-information, because only the nerds had control of it all and they just wanted to be generous and share what they knew because they thought it was interesting. Sad times.

what is 'penis beaker'?

It was a thread that went viral and completely changed Mumsnet. I've been here around 18 years. I'm not sure when penis beaker was, maybe 8/10 years ago?