To be sick of people saying "One won't hurt" or "You can have one!" to the designated driver.

[ChillingWithMySnowmies]

Getting so sick of people saying this to me if i'm the designated driver.

I make the choice to be 100% sober if i'm driving, i don't think it's worth the risk if anything DOES happen and i get breathalysed, besides which, i also take a medication that can make the effects of alcohol more intense.

I'm always polite about saying that i don't/won't drink if i'm driving, which is nearly always as i'm the only adult in the house that drives.

Getting so sick of the 'you can have one' lot who try and persuade me to have a glass of wine, or the 'here try this, go on, you can have a bit' or "One won't hurt if you're eating" being constantly said to me.

If you're someone who does this, ffs, stop it, and respect the person has said NO.

Strangely enough this happened out to dinner with a friend recently.

She has moved and I don't see her much anymore.
"You can have one... What harm will one do... Etc"

And then I remembered she was the same when I was in my first trimester. She actually got very pushy then but totally Illogical
"Sure look at it this way - most people wouldn't even know they are pregnant at this point (8 weeks) and would be drinking away" eh yes but I DO know.

And strangest of all she is the most committed person to her health and fitness I've ever met. Obsessive in fact.

Weird.

You need to find better people to spend time with. I mix with lots of different people and not once have any of them encouraged or even suggested that I have any alcohol when I'm driving!

People who urge non drinkers to drink have some negative feelings about their own alcohol use and can think it's ok if everyone does it.

But trying to coerce someone into drinking alcohol when they're driving, that sounds like they don't like the driver and want to cause a whole lot of trouble for them. Or they're ignorant fools who think it's ok to drink and drive and endanger other. Those should have to do ambulance runs to drunk driving wrecks.

I had this visiting family this week. ‘Oh go on, just a small one’ or ‘But you like Baileys’ Yeah, but I’m driving and it hits me hard, I’d far rather not when I’m driving. The same person pushing and pushing finally got it yesterday when I picked up from 3 locations and delivered them all home after. ‘Oh Cherrysoup is driving, she won’t be drinking’. Finally! It’s very annoying to be continually asked, not by an older person either, although my dm is a classic for the same thing.

I always find the response "But I don't want one, and I find you pressuring me to drink really weird" generally does the trick.

If not, then the escalations of "Why are you still going on about this, why is it so important to you that you drink"

And then "And now you're not getting a lift home".

The time I left Granny in the pub with no way home was the last time any of that side of the family pressured me to have a drink.

as i've said two or three times, it's family, so i don't have much choice.

Oh its ridiculous. But then people who have a problem with alcohol hate being around sober people (i know, i used to be one of them - although I would never encourage a driver to drink).

I stopped drinking this year after years of problematic binge drinking and I am getting the 'surely you can just have one' comments - even from my MIL! Most of these people have seen me paralytic and surely know it is much better for me not to drink at all. But it makes them uncomfortable

I think it’s drunk people think they’re cool and fun, but subconsciously on some level know that drunk people nearly always act like twats.

they push the drink because if everyone else is drinking, hopefully they’ll all believe they’re having a great time, and there’s no one sober to make them realise they’re acting like drunk idiots, not the cool , elegant, witty person the alcohol makes them think they are.

if you get me.