Should I LTB?

[Gottobebannee]

DP and I have been together 18 months. Both mid 40s. We live in a town at least an hours drive from a motorway.

We've done a few long distance drives in the UK. We've each both driven these distances in our own cars.

On the motorway, I use lanes 2 and 3 to overtake, else I'm in lane 1.

He is a lane 2 driver 😩

As well as being unsafe, he's got a 1 litre engine, so it's not as if he keeps up with traffic. Fastest he drove on our 4 hour journey yesterday was 65mph.

Yesterday I raised it with him for the first time, as we're now at the point in our relationship where I feel I can. He said he feels safest being in the middle lane as you don't get stuck between all the unsafe lorry drivers in lane 1. As we were driving to our holiday destination, I didn't want to push the matter and start our NY break on the wrong tone.

This man is wonderful in every way possible. But I'm lying here next to him thinking how to best address this flaw!

Any tips MN?

YABU- talk to him again
YANBU - LTB right here, right now

Stupid thread. He gets to drive how he drives. You can't 'address this flaw' aka trying to change him. If you want to end a relationship over this then go ahead.

Nothing worse than a middle lane hogger. Get out while you still can!

That would give me the ick massively. He sounds like a wet lettuce.

You're dating a man with a 1 litre car?

He is a dangerous driver. Its a punishable driving offense (where i live anyway), wrong as per highway code.
65 in the middle lane would make my teeth itch.
I would have to say “I’m driving on the motorway, you are putting us in danger”

65mph in the middle lane and he thinks lorry drivers are unsafe? Yes, LTB.

Definitely LTB - middle lane hogger! Eurgh!!!
And all because he feels unsafe over the Lorries! What a whimp! He is more likely to cause an accident incorrectly using the middle lane and driving at 64mph whilst there!

Yeah, unforgivable. Drive him to a service station, and leave him there 🙂

I actually find it refreshing!

It's a real money saver (which I find attractive), not a penis extension and he doesn't give a fuck what people think of his choice of vehicle as it gets him from a to b.

As someone said it’s an offence that can get your a fine. Is he aware of that?

accept him just the way he is and drives.

I don't know. I haven't explored it further with him.

Might be a good route to take to try to get him to be a better driver.

If that doesn't work, I'll probably insist I do all the motorways from now on.

Then LTB if he says no 😉

Nah, sounds like a keeper. You need some imperfections !

I’m surprised this is his only driving fault though.

He's an idiot. LTB.

The police now have unmarked vehicles (lorries and cars) to pick up on this very thing and to report and fine drivers.

Middle lane hogging is really dangerous, he is an arse!!

I can spot all of the fellow middle lane hoggers in the comments 😂

It’s a driving offence - it’s not “just how he drives” it’s wrong and can get you a fine / points from the police. It’s not a cute quirk like “oh he always has to park on the left hand side of a car park” its something police monitor and blast all over social media to make drivers aware it’s the wrong thing to do.

It also makes it unsafer for everyone else having to go into lane 3 just to overtake him when he’s travelling below the speed limit! If his top speed was 65mph he definitely should stick to lane 1, can’t believe he’s complaining about lorry drivers when he’s probably going a comparable speed 😂

His 1 litre engine is not the problem, one of our cars is 1litre and it can get to and maintain 70mph no issue at all, especially on a flat motorway!!

I think the middle lane is more dangerous. You can find yourself between two lorries, which can be unnerving. Also you have to be extra alert because vehicles will be moving into your lane from both sides.

Maybe talk to him about it again but I would pick a time when you won’t be on a motorway soon just to ease the pressure. But if he suits you in other respects and as you aren’t in his car when he does that, just let it go.

Get a head start and meet him at your destination.

OP, you're lucky he isn't as superficial as some around here. 🙄

Lane 2 at 65mph? 🤨
How many drivers were forced into lane 3 and then immediately cut back infront of him?
This is definitely a thing.

Definitely LTB out of sheer embarrassment.
He may also be a nervous driver for a reason, ie: he's abit rubbish.

OP,
Does he move to the left lane if he sees traffic building up behind him to allow them past?

What does he do if he’s flashed to move out of the way?

He sounds like he’s lacking in confidence. Buy him a motorway driving lesson. Or some advanced driving lessons.

If he’s not confident to drive on a motorway he should let you drive.
It's an offence drive in lane 2 when lane 1 is empty.
I'd not leave him over it but I’d educate him and do the motorway driving if he can’t do it safely and confidently.

I’d have this view as well,OP. In fact that would make him stand out as a keeper because:

1: He’s not using his car as a penis extension
2: He’s not likely to have ego issues
3: It shows he cares for the environment
3:He’s not getting into debt to keep up with the neighbours
4:He doesn’t give a shit about what anyone else thinks about his car, showing he’s a free spirit.

I’d have a chat with him to boost his confidence, maybe he could sit an advanced driving test or do a Pass Plus?