For being upset

[Kate8889]

I sent my friend a package for Christmas and it was marked as unable to deliver and taken to a pickup location. Pickup location is 10 minutes from where she lives.

I messaged her several times that she needs to pick it up please or it will be sent back to the warehouse. She apologized but said she has been too busy, that she will try. It's gone back to the warehouse after 2 weeks.

The OP has drip fed that there are huge problems for her friend.

My friend there wasn’t - I have a very busy life, 3 kids, full time job, elderly parents etc etc etc. I’ve never not found a time in two weeks to pick up a parcel delivered when I wasn’t home.

I love my friend - but she doesn’t prioritise gifts. That’s cool, I won’t send them.

You're upset because 1) your friend doesn't have your standards 2) you didn't get the glory of hearing how they loved it and what an amazing friend you are. It is shoddy that she didn't pick it up after the effort you went to but she could have tons going on and adding to her to do list probably didn't feel like much of a gift. Perhaps send things that can fit through the letter box next time.

If you see a gift as a chore that says far more about you as a person than the person who has taken the time and money to send it.

This is a reverse, the other angle was posted earlier last week.

Its probably not just ten minutes though to get they're and back and wait in queues and these places often don't have long opening hours. We don't know anything about the recipients ordinal circumstances so really can't judge if she could find the time or not.

Correct! Taking all of that information into account you are being totally unreasonable. I should imagine the poor woman is living on her nerves and very little sleep. You'll be lucky if she's remembering to eat!! She is doing well to survive right now. Give her a break! (From the perspective of a medical mum)

You do you