To ask DH to just buy me normal things [lighthearted]?

[GirlfriendofSomi]

DH is brilliant. He loves buying presents. He takes huge time and care researching them. And will buy the best version of the thing that he can get.

But this year it's gone too far.
I needed a new hair brush. He said "I'll buy you that for Christmas" intending it as a little stocking filler.
I said a tangle teezer would be good because my hair's a bit brittle.
So he researched hair brushes. And rather than a tangle teezer, I got a £100 brush made from wild boar hair or some mad shit.

Ditto with socks - I asked for socks. I said I like the M&S thickish socks because I get cold feet.
He got me socks from the people who make socks for the pope. Seriously. They're bloody freezing, I've had to put some Primark bed socks over the top.

I'm grateful. I love that DP takes time and effort to get me lovely things. I make the right noises. I wear/use what I get.
But I just want some normal shit.

what a lovely husband you have! But, I get it, sometimes you can’t beat some M&S sock.

its lovely he does this. my husabnd doesnt ever buy me anything much

My DH is a bit like this, when we first lived together every Christmas he would buy me a full, long sleeved nightdress, very thoughtful but not something in my early 20’s I would wear. Now I am older in my 60’s, last year he got me some clothes from New Look, one was a lovely jumper, but the other was a satin tunic that you wear with leggings and definitely for someone younger. I hint at things I would like, but he says he’d rather choose something I’m never going to wear.

This sounds really frustrating because while it's a nice thing he's doing, it seems like he's researching what the best/most expensive type of item is and getting you that, rather than what is the most suitable for you and your needs. The boar bristle brush isn't really an 'everyday' brush and not what you asked for.

Anyone else just had to look up who makes the pope’s socks……

Just about to..😂

I haven’t, but I will. And I’ll now think of his cold toes when I see a picture of him.

OP, you can get ordinarily things for yourself, so I think what you’ll hear to do is game your present requests. Think of things that you’d like a luxury version of.

Your DH is really trying to be special for you and I’d just focus on that.

There’s going to be a weird spike in people searching “who makes the pope’s socks”!

Get him to buy you socks from Community Clothing; they are great! Great quality and made in the UK. I got some at Christmas and have become obsessed about comfortable socks.

Not Ditta Annibale Gammarelli, sure, but very good socks

Thin socks might come into their own as the weather warms up a bit?

I would buy myself the functional things I need and just see his gifts as amusing treats with anecdote potential (the Pope's socks!) rather than expecting them to be useful per se.

That made me laugh so much, OP!
Ahh...you've got to love him...
My Dh is great at thinking and buying presents too...he once bought me some Modena extra specially special Basalmic vinegar from Italy, because I mentioned I liked drinking the vinegar out of beetroot and pickled onion bottles.

Oh God, I think I'm your husband. I bought my husband a boars hair hairbrush and some socks from the lads in France who make the popes socks!! I do like researching things though.....

DH went out to buy DD a new duvet cover.

He bought beautiful pure white cotton. DD is the sort of girl who puts her mascara wand down on the nearest surface and then spills her coffee while trying to retrieve it.

I casually mentioned once, when watching an old film, that I'd always wanted to have a go on one of those pump trolley things that go on railway tracks. The next thing I know, he's booked me in for a pump trolley experience. I'm waiting for the weather to improve before I commit to a date.

This would annoy me because our money is joint and I couldn’t thoil spending money on things like this.

That would drive me mad! I would say dh get me what I fucking want, not what you think is the best.

To be fair I think you can buy a tangle teaser and markies socks for your self, or is there an issue with your access to money? I am struggling to comprehend why you ask him to buy you these things, which are rhe basics for most people.

Also could be be making a point, that you’re asking for such basic shit thay you should just be buying yourself this stuff.

How did you know they make socks for the Pope?!

Don’t tell me the useless overpriced sock present also came with added mansplaining about the Pope and ‘I suppose you didn’t know this brand are made specifically for the church, did you…?! That would drive me mad.

I would specify-‘I want these socks for Christmas. These ones from Marks and Spencer, not ones made for the Pope, the King or anyone else, these ones.’

Spell it out

That is the second advert for Community clothing I’ve seen in 24 hours.
Can we give it a rest?
I like their clothing but will not buy if I see a plug for them every time I go on MumsNet.

I'm not plugging them, for heaven's sake! I'm recommending them on a thread that mentioned being given expensive but duff socks. Patrick Grant's not infiltrating Mumsnet with bots or fake accounts.

I bought some socks, I liked them because they were nicer than my usual M& S, I suggested them to @GirlfriendofSomi who wanted M&S socks.

And I haven't seen them mentioned here before, but I don't read every single thread.

(Patrick, shove the usual fee through the door, there's a poppet)

If he wanted to get you some really special socks, he could have bought handmade ones, or better yet learned to knit and made some himself! I would much prefer that to pope socks, and they would have been warm

I don't know who makes them, but I bet they're black, not very very very very very dark blue.

I asked for a new hairdryer as he wanted an idea and I thought it would save me the bother.

He didn’t buy me a hairdryer. He bought me a 5 in 1 multistyling dryer brush thing that I can't figure out how to use.

There's a blow dry brush, two curler things which just seem to suck hair in and blow it out again.

I asked him when he ever saw me curling my hair and he said, "now with this tool, you can."

Looks like I'm buying own hairdryer.

He’s so kind. Does he have a brother?