To start a thread where our partners did well?

[Littlebitpsycho]

Does anyone else have a partner who did well this xmas? We have so many threads about partners being useless i thought it would be nice to have one where we big them up a little.

Mine got up first this morning and brought me a latte and some toast. He bought me some lovely, well thought out gifts - and was suitably happy and grateful with his own. We've been to the beach for a walk and now stuffed after Christmas dinner with his parents.

Come tell me your nice stories 😊

It has been a really tough Christmas here for several reasons but mainly because our toddler and baby are both poorly, exhausted and naturally overstimulated - neither would nap despite our best efforts and Christmas dinner was SO challenging with our toddler, but my DP has been a steady, calm presence throughout the day and has kept me fuelled with cups of tea and hugs. I’ve only managed to open one gift from him so far which was a beautiful, thoughtful necklace, and am looking forward to exchanging the rest of our gifts tonight once the children are in bed. Currently doing double bed time and so looking forward to having a cuddle & putting our feet up later. Feeling lucky to be doing Christmas with my DP despite how tricky it has been.

Mine is amazing all year round but this year he outdid himself. A £300 med spa voucher and a Tiffany bracelet.

He made me tea in bed, walked the dogs and got the hot tub ready this morning. Then he helped by grating lemons (I hate that bit) for my lemon meringue pie!

I haven't had to cook as we had dinner at his mums. Looking forward to some chilled out tv and cuddles later on!

My DH got me some amazing presents (sometimes he can be a bit rubbish at presents - but his heart is in the right place) but this year nailed it and he was equally happy with what I got him.

Both of my teens got me lovely bits as well, which was slightly unexpected 😂

I cooked the Christmas dinner but Dh and the teens tidied up after me.

All in all it’s been a lovely relaxing day, everyone was pleased with their presents, and we enjoyed our dinner in the matching (ish) pjs.

Now we are all chilled out watching a film I’m drinking a glass of Prosecco and just enjoying being with my family.

I get it, I'm a paid up member of the man bashing club when they're in the wrong, which is most of the time 😂

However I also have men in my life who I love and appreciate. And I think women should be allowed to appreciate their men.

Calling women 'handmaidens' etc. when they don't fully agree with you isn't exactly helpful and doesn't help your cause.

Yes of course, but it's a boring repetition. 😊
My husband (75) does what he can anyway, this year it was all the same. No kids, big age difference, I don't enjoy food as such - big portions, preparation etc. So he said don't bother, I can have a sandwich (and meant it).
Pleased to say he did have a decent roast, sweet treats etc. Also likes to see a small tree at this time, so it's gone up last Saturday.
I'm ND, not bothered about Christmas and a bit middle age grumpy. He's currently looking for
a ring I wanted, just dropped it on him today.
Married for 20 years, he always took care of the financial side, meaning neither myself or his first wife had to work and always paid contributions into my pension.
It's not a rant, obviously we have our own problems, but I'm glad to tell him time to time men like him are not around anymore.
Merry Christmas. ❤️

Dp always does his part at Christmas, he's the main Christmas dinner cook. I do the washing up, he will was up after I have done our boxing day buffet tomorrow.

He's organized and sorted presents for dc from us and one set of presents from one dc to another. Made sure they wrapped everything while I was at work the other day. Sorted out all the stockings while I wrapped the last few gifts last night. I also had so very thoughtful gifts. A good day all round.

I’m so sorry

i I don’t mean to. But my husband is one hell of a insanely clever and good gift gover

he will listen to tiny things throughout the year. This year I had been complaining that my iPad (which I use to sleep all night long) doesn’t last the night. He brought me that and some books I’ve been really wanting so he’s always so good

last year he got me this perfume I love.

Mine never enjoyed Christmas, but he now gets fully involved because he knows I love it. He was an absolute joy with my children all morning then, when they went to their Dad’s this afternoon, he waited until I was out of the room, scurried around setting things up, then announced “Oh, look at that, Santa’s been again!”
I went in to discover he’d set up presents and a stocking for me - the stocking was a total surprise and the whole thing was, quite frankly, bloody adorable.

I’ve received some incredibly thoughtful gifts, and he’d even bought gorgeous co-ordinated paper in styles he knew I’d love, picked out matching ribbons, and had put a lot of effort into making my gifts look ‘beautiful’ (explaining he’s noticed over the years that I always do this for other people, he could see it’s something I appreciate, so he wanted me to receive similarly lovely packages). I cooked dinner because I enjoy doing it, and he’s now sat me down with a glass of wine while he washes up. Apparently, when he’s done with that, he’s running me a bath then he’ll be waiting on me for the rest of the evening “because you’ve worked very hard to make things special for everyone else and you deserve to relax”. I feel very valued and cared for!

God you are boring and lack such originality in your post that I’m actually embarrassed on your behalf. The amount of times that stupid little people comment ‘oh you’re a man’ because another woman dares to think differently than you. It’s women like YOU that are the problem.

I admired some earrings in the summer.

I Asked himself if he needed any ideas for me a while back and he said no.

Today I unwrapped the earrings!

Complete surprise, absolutely what I love. He’s brilliant at present-giving because he pays attention and listens.

He’s fab and I love him. And I know he loves me!

There’s always one! (Or two - I’ve seen another trying to ruin the lovely thread).

Why do you keep saying bye and coming back. If you don’t like the thread then go and fine one you do like.

My DH is always good at present buying and this year is No exception. He’s been amazing for me personally because I am currently signed off work with depression and also my Mum is in hospital. Added to that both our DCs are not with us today which is our first ever Christmas apart from them.

He has been so supportive, allowed me to be emotional but also kept me cheery when he could. We made lunch together, went for a walk and then spent a couple of hours building our respective Lego presents. It’s hard to explain but he’s read me and my mood and supported accordingly.

He's currently snoring like a freight train in
his arm chair but I can live with that just because of how lovely he’s been, not just today but for the last few weeks.

Toxic masculinity I'd a terrible thing where it manifests. I am really happy to support and encourage men who are trying to buck that sort of trend. I have some lovely men in my life and I want to celebrate them.

Some of those who don't hit the mark really are trying. I'm not perfect and I don't expect others to be perfect either.

I'm having the loveliest day! Mr Bats (we aren't married and don't live together) is here. He bought me some lovely presents, one thing I'd asked for, but also some surprises. Was very appreciative of his presents. Then he cooked our Christmas lunch with me, and we've been laying on the sofa watching random TV ever since.

I was in the midst of chemo last Christmas, felt dreadful and couldn't even really eat. So my lovely simple Christmas has been so special. I'm so happy and grateful.

DH has been fabulous, as ever: bought exactly from my list AND lovely, thoughtful presents too. Was up before me with youngest, autistic DC & stocking & gently roused hungover DS19 & sleepy DS21. Made gorgeous breakfast for everyone AND a stunning dinner, including vegetarian me. He's cleared up all day & kept autistic DS calm & happy.

Special mention to ex DH who arrived as organised at 12 noon, brought brilliant gifts for us & DS13 (not his child), was super enthusiastic over his gifts & was brilliant company over brunch, before coralling the older boys to his mum's for dinner.

I seem to have picked decent ones.

My DH has been nothing short of incredible.

I have to say something lovely about DH as he's been great, we are always a proper team especially at Christmas as we both value the whole family having a good experience, no matter the circumstances (and we have had odd stressful Christmases in all sorts of places and situations over the years).
I am really thankful for all his efforts this year : we've been hosted by his family, who are lovely but Ive been distracted the last month by my parents having some serious health issues meaning I've had to travel frequently to be there for them, and work some very pressured on call and extra shifts swaps, to free up time for these trips. DH has been an absolute rock, sorting out and decorating the house, doing the DCs Christmas calendars, buying presents and coordinating the present lists with his family, ferrying and accompanying DCs to events when I couldn't make it, get going the wrapping with me, baking with the DC, (important family tradition), taking the lead on getting and decorating the tree, and packing everything ready so we could drive to his family when I finally finished work on the 23rd.
Although we usually share the load and work together with all the day to day stuff , he's really been the main player for much of this Christmas , while I've been dealing with other issues, and all of it without being asked or prompted. We did end up buying our own gifts for each other to 'give' on Christmas but at least we each got exactly what we wanted and it was a mutual agreement to reduce stress.
Think I need to go and give him a hug

I love my DH so much. He is lovely to me every day and thoughtful on special occasions. I've had a 2 hour nap today which was much needed. My presents were low key and inexpensive but well thought out. More importantly I am very loved and appreciated all year round. Merry Christmas everyone 🎄

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DH is always lovely: does as much for the DC and the household as I do. Today, I had the period from hell; as well as sharing the cooking duties, he did all of the clearing up after each meal while shooing me up to bed with painkillers.

My husband was brilliant yesterday. Our DD had a complete shutdown at dinner. She’s autistic and struggles with days she’s excited for when they get here. We have a friend of family who stays every year. 12 years in, the stays have reduced from up to a week, to Christmas Eve to Boxing Day, and it’s getting increasingly hard to cope with her sulking and silent treatment on and off all day. To add information, her life isn’t easy, she’s on her own, but she talks a lot about how no one bothers with her, to us, when we’re bothering with her. There’s a lot of emotional blackmailing. I think iur present wasn’t enough for her. I do feel bad about that, it was a rushed Christmas shopping experience this year and the kids stuff was very expensive. Anyway, we had a private chat about it and I was really upset and he agreed that this Christmas it has been hard to deal with and a bit shit. He really calmed me down. I turned in early and he carried on having a well deserved drink with my lovely dad. I feel sad this morning, but so glad I’ve got him and that our relationship is honest.

PS. Lovely thread 🌺

I agree. I think it might be the wording - clearly completely not the intention, but by using the phrase "done well" it infantilises said men.

I think the OP is saying that not all men are useless, hapless and helpless. Rather than we little women should be grateful for Xmas Day scraps.