To start a thread where our partners did well?

[Littlebitpsycho]

Does anyone else have a partner who did well this xmas? We have so many threads about partners being useless i thought it would be nice to have one where we big them up a little.

Mine got up first this morning and brought me a latte and some toast. He bought me some lovely, well thought out gifts - and was suitably happy and grateful with his own. We've been to the beach for a walk and now stuffed after Christmas dinner with his parents.

Come tell me your nice stories 😊

You’re being negative. My husband does far more than me in the house.

Can I contribute a mixed review?

Positives: we’re out of the the uk and unable to visit family this year, he knows how important that is to me and has gone out of his way to replicate little family traditions of mine. For example, my family do stockings for everyone including adults, his family never did stockings even for kids. But I woke up today to a stocking full of little treats ❤️ Also finding familiar food like mince pies and listening to choral music with me which I love but he doesn’t honestly see the point of.

Negatives: we arranged to have Christmas dinner with some friends, he offered to cook some sides then completely forgot to organize buying the ingredients and just sort of expected everything to be magically in the fridge today despite never mentioning it to me until late last night 🤦‍♀️ so will have a last minute panic trying to find a shop that’s open on Christmas Day. He also stayed up until about 3am playing computer games last night so probably will spend half the afternoon napping or grumpy.

He filled my stocking with British chocolate, post its, bookmark post its, sudokus and other nice stuff. I had given him a completely free pass to do nothing this year as he is renovating our new house, so it was a nice surprise. And he bought me new fabric scissors.

@TheBeaTgoeson1 - it’s not at all about being handmaidens. It’s appreciation. Most threads on here at Christmas tend to be women moaning about men who do fuck all. Who buy shitty presents. Who leave everything to the woman. Who are selfish and self centered and often abusive. Some are not and it’s nice to be reminded of that. Because to be honest if I went on what I read on here day in day out I would despair of men completely. So the fact that even though my DH hates parsnips the fact he bought them (because he did the shopping) and is happy to peel and cook one for me on top of doing all the other jobs involved in cooking today (and he cooked breakfast). My standards are quite high enough thank you very much.

Chanel perfume, Victoria Beckham make up brush, Japanese cook book, Stanley cup, posh chocolates and he bought me Christmas pyjamas and gave them to me on Christmas Eve. Hot water bottle in bed last night. Coffee and breakfast in bed this morning (scrambled eggs, avocado, smoked salmon on sourdough toast). I feel I’ve won the lottery. We have been together over 15 yrs and got married this year xx

@Peridot1exactly, this is why I started this thread. There are plenty of shitty men, but there are also lots of lovely ones and I just thought we could praise them a bit ❤️

He did 50% of getting the house Christmas ready, made coffee and put out breakfast treats when we woke up this morning, cooked the majority of the family dinner, managed to not set the house on fire when igniting the Christmas pud. He bought and wrapped everyone thoughtful gifts and spent the day spreading relaxed, festive vibes to all the family. He's now having a well deserved siesta till the board games come out.

DH has cooked an excellent Christmas dinner with no input from me (I do offer to help..) and did breakfast as well.

Yep, feeling guilty reading some posts. Got some LOVELY new PJs, some perfume I said I liked aaaages ago and he remembered, some pretty incense burners, a necklace and a pretty ring so am feeling very cared for.

To add, the children have been well behaved and dinner with my inlaws was both a delight and delicious!

Nice to read some getting it right.

Really happy with my DH today. He bought me what I asked for even though he doesn't understand why I want them - a fold away table and crafting mat. Then happily drove 20 miles each way to get adult DD to a pharmacy for penicillin! Perfect as it left me free to cook the Christmas dinner without arguments and constant questioning. It was all perfectly cooked and ready the minute they got back!

Nope? They provide lists, he knows what he's doing.

But this thread isn't about being pathetically grateful for partners doing the bare minimum. It's appreciating awesome partners who go above and beyond after reading soooo many threads from women who are disappointed by shit men today.

I think it's nice and I don't think we're the ones who need to raise our standards honestly.

He's just cooked a delicious meal and put so much into getting this Christmas ready. I am very lucky.

Yes, he's 300 miles away with his very elderly and frail mum who doesn't go out any more. He's looking after her and given the carers the day off.

I'm with my equally elderly but not quite so frail mum

Me and my family (husband and two small kids) hosted for the first time ever, as his was the first time we had a place big enough. We did dinner for 9 and my husband took charge and did amazing.we worked really well as a team. He also stayed very calm with my parents staying for 5 days. Lovely as they are, they are chaotic. He got me 2 small gifts and is going to get a big present in the sales which I asked for. All in all, he did alright.

Love this thread! I adore my partner so much, and always feel so grateful to have him. Today he brought me a hot chocolate in bed, and then made the roast and did all the clearing up while I was the sous chef and drank some wine. We are now sitting on the sofa in our pjs, bellies hanging out, and eating snacks. He’s like this all year around, but it’s always appreciated :)

My DH has gone above and beyond. Sorted out all the food shopping, found recipes and done Christmas dinner today. He always does it and is an amazing cook. He could easily be a chef actually.

He got me some very thoughtful gifts, including a gorgeous necklace linked to my hobby, a gorgeous new bra which even though was mostly for him (wink wink), fits me perfectly and he clearly paid attention when he took me for a proper bra fitting lately after me struggling with uncomfortable bras for years.

He also got me tickets to see Lewis Capaldi in the summer, who he knows I adore. I lost a close friend a few months ago and have struggled with my mental health on and off for years. For that reason I'm finding his songs really emotional, in a good way.
I cried when I opened it. It meant alot.
He's an absolute gem.

Men can't fucking win with you people can they?

If they do shit, they get threads made about them slagging them off (rightly so)

If they do well, they get insufferable fun vampires marching in with the inevitable "iTs ThE bEaR mInImUm" horseshit because you can't stand to see men praised for anything.

waves at the man

Great idea Op..

Mine cooked Christmas dinner for 8. kept our glasses topped up. Organised fun games after lunch. He bought a lot of the presents. I did all the wrapping, and that's ok. Now taking granny home and later we'll slump on the sofa I expect.

Wrong, nice try though 😁 miserable bitch

It our first Christmas as a married couple. I struggle with Christmas after a significant trauma during childhood.

We normally go away and do not do Christmas. Last year we were focused on our first week of January wedding.

This year we did stocking gifts for the first time ever. The gifts were incredibly thoughtful. One book in particular was outstandingly amazing!!! It was the best surprise ever and showed how much he understands and values me.

Honestly, I’m definately out now, all subsequent posts have underlined my point so beautifully.

Including the poor ‘menz can’t win’ posts 🤣

As if you’re using language like that.

You utter weirdo 😘

Mine had noticed me looking at tins of munch mix in the shops (for those of you who haven't seen them, m&s do them, they're usually pretzels, popcorn, chocolate and nuts in a tin so a lovely combo of sweet and savoury for snacking on)
I've not found any in the shops I can have due to a nut and dairy allergy. He's gone to the lengths of finding a tin for me and then creating me a munch mix of things that I can eat so I don't miss out.
So touched with the thoughtfulness and effort ❤️ and proves you don't have to spend a load of cash to get it right