Sick of people saying Xmas is ruined over some trivial thing

[noggla]

Merry Christmas everyone

Past couple of days I have seen people saying Xmas is ruined by trivial things. Such as no Xmas crackers, the turkey they ordered is smaller than planned.

Your Christmas isn’t ruined,

Christmas being ruined is when your home is flooded, had house burglary, house on fire. Being made unnecessary homeless. NOT when something trivial such as above.

Those who say Christmas is ruined because they have no Xmas crackers. You have a roof over your head, other food.

Forget the lack of crackers, smaller turkey etc and enjoy Christmas.

People have such high expectations at this time of year, then get upset when it’s not how they thought it would be.

Your right its just a day. One of the best Christmases we had was when dc2 was unable to eat and being tube fed. Just come out of hospital, it was great to have all the dc together, I didn't even make Christmas dinner as the other dc said they wouldn't eat it without dc2 so we had no Christmas meal, no crackers but we were all together. It definitely wasn't ruined, we all just appreciated each other being there.

I think a lot of people put a lot of pressure on themselves to make Christmas perfect - and that is made worse by the social media image many paint of the day. When you had put yourself under that much pressure it does sometimes make you obsess unreasonably over something that is generally quite trivial.

persoanlly I’m treating it as another day because it’s what works for us. 16 year old (disabled) ds has got up and had some physio then gone back to bed. He will hopefully manage to eat a small amount at dinner with us but if he can’t that’s fine. If I get a few hours sewing I will be made up. If I don’t end up in A and E I will be happy!

Yes, people invest a huge amount in everything being perfect and then are unable to cope with the tiniest thing isn’t perfect.

Well my Christmas was ruined exactly two years ago today. My son was widowed the year before and I’d gone to a massive amount of trouble to make Christmas nice for him and his children.

The dog barked when he arrived, he threw a hissy fit and walked out, leaving me with a huge amount of food. The time I’d spent preparing, shopping, moving furniture to fit everyone in and creating a play area for the little one. I have a chronic painful condition, yet l did it all, to make it nice for them.

Never again under any circumstances will I put myself out for that ungrateful bastard.

I agree. All this angst about gifts. Being given something you wouldn't have chosen yourself, or something you didn't ask for or something that cost less than someone else's present, or that is Chinese tat and now they have the chore of taking it to the charity shop. Or is Fred's present good enough? Will it be rejected.

Honestly, what a load of fuss about nothing. Someone bought a gift. It involves no great thought at all. The appropriate response is to smile, say thank you, stop worrying and eat another mince pie. 🙄

I don't think social media helps these days. It seems there is so much pressure for everything to be perfect.
A lot of people then put enormous amounts of time and money into trying to achieve that perfection. Often on top of demanding jobs and the usual things in daily life.
Christmas activities often start from early December so the build up is huge.

I think for some, all of that leads to a sort of pressure cooker and it only takes one small thing for them to feel it's ruined.

We always have a nice time at Christmas but are relaxes about it. We don't do lots of the extra activities such as breakfast with santa etc.
Nice, sensible amount of gifts and food.
Christmas films etc. It's lovely but not over hyped tobrhe

I love the 'Asda ruined my Christmas' articles because of rotten turkeys or online orders having missing items 🙈

This thread has ruined my Christmas

A lot of people are more highly strung and emotive these days generally in life. You see it all over social media how much stress, hate, bitterness, selfishness and jealousy people have inside them.

My girls are home. My mum is not doing the dinner. My partner has brought me coffee in bed. My dad got home from major surgery two days ago. I've prepped everything ready to go and I have free electric until 4...

Couldn't be better here 😀

I voted yabu, aren't most people being sarcastic?
I forgot yorkshire puds yesterday doing the big Christmas shop so I messaged one of my guests arriving later today and asked if they could bring some because 'I had ruined Christmas' by forgetting them.
Obviously I was joking! I didn't expect 9 people to start sobbing over yorkshire puds (there may have been mutiny from the children!) but it is just a flippant statement.

Last Thursday I found out my cancer has returned to both my lungs and abdomen. I’m determined to have my best Christmas ever.

If Christmas hinges on cracker availability and poultry dimensions, it was probably always going to be a stressful day.

I suspect some people would feel Christmas was “ruined” even if everything went to plan — they’d just find something else to unravel over. The daughter didn’t look grateful enough, the husband thanked his mum, the brother wore the wrong socks…

@Berlinloveri hope you have a wonderful day

Merry Christmas to you! ❤️

I think anyone complaining about trivia should be made to watch the episode of The Good Life when Margot cancels Christmas because the tree that is delivered from Harrods isn't the correct height!!!!

My Christmas is ruined because nobody laughed at my funny reply on another thread. (Oh wait, they can’t, the laugh reaction has gone. )

Agree that the word “ruined” is overused in general.

Really sorry to read this. I hope you have a lovely Christmas 🎄

“Christmas is ruined” reminds me of Five Go Adventuring Again, when George is sulking because their tutor does not like dogs, and the others are pleading with her “don’t let’s spoil Christmas”.

I've had a couple of years when I was younger with younger children where I wanted everything to be perfect and I would have a meltdown at some point. However, it wasn't over the most mundane thing, it was because I lost my dad when I was 24 and tried too damn hard to make christmas perfect for my 2 boys that I tried to suppress the anger and pain. It didn't work. My boys are 19 and 12 now and still with my OH who stuck by me through thick and thin. For the last few years I've 'given up' on perfection and done it our way.
We've had a really tough time this year and unfortunately still going through it. But I'm not going to let it ruin everything. Perfection is overrated.

I was just going to mention that episode!!

”Christmas hasn’t been delivered!”

So happy to be pagan and not have all the hassle of this, some nice food and drink for the winter solstice and the 22nd then it's finished for another year.
No big build up, no pressure, no presents, endless tat to dispose of, done it for years and 100% love it.

Hope you all have a wonderful Christmas.

The irony of you posting a moany thread on Christmas Day of all days about people moaning about Christmas being ruined! Honestly, most of those threads about missing food items etc are lighthearted and should be taken as such. Maybe log off Mumsnet and have a eggnog or something to lift your Xmas spirits?! 🎄🎄🎄🎄