What's the worst change you have seen in a person?

[OneUmberJoker]

Two friends who spent all of high school saying they were anti smoking immediately started smoking when we got to college.

Friendly black cabbie driver who lived a few doors down from me and my boyfriend who we shared a drink with on occasion....was John Worboys. Didn't know anything until the police called one day.

A friend who rather bizarrely became a militant vegan in his 30s after decades of loving meat and respecting other peoples lives and choices.

Cut off pretty much everyone who weren't living his lifestyle of choice. Including people who took medication they needed because it had been tested on animals.

Yeah a female family member I really respected, kind, funny, brilliant career and all of a sudden came out as a Rupert Lowe supporter, regurgitating racist talking points. I was really shocked. 😞

Back in my home town, I saw a woman go from being a fantastic mum who adored her kids, who were always happy and well dressed, to pretty much ignoring and neglecting them once she met and moved in a man. The change in her was shocking and I'm guessing he's probably abusive as that's the only reason I can think of for this sudden and very sad change. Her whole world changed to revolve around this cretin. I feel for her poor children, who are apparently now playing up at school etc. I'm from quite a poor part of the NE (big child poverty issues) and its common for women to move men in within weeks sadly.

Women I knew who were fun, fabulous, life of the party etc, morphing into boring, mundane twats as soon as they had a child 🙄

@User8008135 it is amazing how MLM involvement can transform someone’s personality isn’t it? It’s such a disaster as it causes financial damage for nearly everyone and once the MLM has rinsed them they find they’ve damaged their friendships too. Did your friend come to their senses in the end?

It really is! Im guessing you've sadly seen this too?

They did thankfully, but years later and they've burned some of their close friendships after they tried manipulating for so long and on some really sore and raw things- peoples illnesses, disease, micarriage, infertility... I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt but understandably some friends won't.

Shit that’s absolutely awful. How shocking. Genuinely can’t believe it.

My kids when they got hooked on screens-scary. Had to work hard to get them away from the stupid Xbox and TikTok!!!

You sound pleasant.

Friend of DH's from school in his 50s, married for 30 years, seemed to be content with life, had an affair with someone half his age at work and blew up his life. Divorced, married the woman, lives hundreds of miles away, doesn't see his kids or grandkids as they decided they didn't want anything to do with him, even his parents fell out with him.

People split up all the time, it's normal, but it seems to have been the deception and affair that caused so much pain and acrimony. He always seemed such a caring and kind person.

I was in the smokebusters at school! Yet, 20 a day by the time I was at uni! I know it’s terrible for your health and smelly, anti social and all that stuff but smoking was fun and you met the best people in smoking areas. I miss it.

Thank you, tabby cat pelt made me properly laugh 😂

FATNESS! My friend who only ever nibbled on MASSIVE SALADS took a McDonald's "French" "Fry" from a so-called "D" "friend" and gained 100lb instantly. Obviously I went NC with her immediately. The last I heard of her was she was so obese at 10 stone, that she needed to have a wall knocked down in her home, so they could get a crane in to lift her onto a specially made, HGV Ambulance.

Yes. Maybe they didn't actually change and it was just a plan to get where they wanted to be. Maybe the real person was the animal liver and tge ruthless person was an act. Who knows. They have goats so they can't be that bad.😂

We had this on both sides of our family in the early 60s and both were undiagnosed or not understood. One in Ireland was sent to an Institution and never got out and died there 50 years later and the other in England ended up in and out of hospital and eventually killed herself. Anyone that harks back to the great times in the 50s and 60s should give these things some thought, whilst dodging TB and all those other diseases.
This must have been a living nightmare for women when nobody understood or had empathy for what was happening to them.

My friend who spent 6 years complaining about her MIL to me day in and day out every single day (who, btw, she insisted on moving into her home) — got furious with me when I didn’t text for 4 whole days. Beyond furious. Seething.
And over a series of texts she unloaded on me about what a terrible awful horrible shitty worthless friend I was and listed (according to her) every flaw and fault I ever had and used filthy language and spewed out how much she hated me and what a gigantic waste of air I was.

After listening to her bitch about her MIL for six long years.
I think that’s quite a radical change.
I don’t miss her.

The mother of a friend of our son was fine before covid but took all the 'must keep a social distance' to the extreme and couldn't switch back afterwards. She now won't talk to anyone and gets completely irrational and abusive if anyone is within 5 metres of her. She has been in hospital twice under the mental health Acts and spends all her time walking around collecting rubbish from bins and just standing. She can stand in the same spot for two or three hours. She won't be in her house when it is daylight because she thinks that she will get covid and needs to be outside in ventilation. She thinks everyone is going to give her a disease that will kill her.

Did we actually think that it might be hard for some people to cope with the change of message from 'keep your distance' to 'it's fine now'? We study why people don't take on public health messages, like don't smoke or drink and drive, but we never consider if people might not stop acting in the way they have been told to act when it is safe to do so.
It's sad.

Someone I knew, was quite an outlandish character, part time dj. Life and soul of the party. Loved kids and was always trying to fix things for them; be a policeman for a day or ride in a gymkana. He died and literally crowds were mourning, then it transpired he was a prolific pedo!

Vegan, but 'occasionally has McDonald's'

This was pretty traumatic. You think you know someone...

"Now a woman on a speaker box
Is sayin', "Can I take your order, please?"
I said, "Yes indeed, you certainly can
We'd like two hamburgers with onions and cheese."
Then my wife says "Baby, hold on, I've changed my mind!
I think I'm gonna have a chicken sandwich instead this time"
I said, "You always get a cheeseburger!"
She says, "That's not what I'm hungry for."
I put my head in my hands and scream
"I don't know who you are anymore!"

Amongst a thread of some truly harrowing stuff this made me laugh out loud! Fine cat fur 😂

Please tell us you made him shave it off?

What?

My greatest fear. I’m a fan of one of the Glasgow clubs, so you can imagine the worry I have that my son would choose the other. I didn’t have an episiotomy so that he could choose the wrong side.