What's the worst change you have seen in a person?

[OneUmberJoker]

Two friends who spent all of high school saying they were anti smoking immediately started smoking when we got to college.

A female in their 60s who decided after breast cancer (not that it matters but stage 1) that they now wanted to 'live their best life' and is now hooking up with men left right and centre for anal sex

See this is why women should never look at their husbands phones. You find out all manner of things you didn’t wish to know. I’m afraid there’s no coming back from this now.

*Red face

A friend’s prim n proper Dsis, when I knew her. Saw a photo of her on FB as part of their parents’ 50th wedding anniversary photos.

She is 2 years older than my friend. In these photos, Dsis covered in tattoos, facial piercings- including a Marilyn, Septum. Hair of different lengths and colours.

I was shocked.

Dementia, turning a loving grandma into a grumpy and confused carcass of herself.

Fabulous, kind and supportive former colleague. Now doing time for terrible sex offences. I would have trusted him completely, just shows you never really know someone.

Husband. After years of saying small dogs weren’t real dogs he joined me saying hello to a tiny chihuahua when we walked past a hairdressers in Rome and it was in the open doorway. He’s a monster.

or His childhood.

This one time I caught my vegetarian friend smelling some ham.

The lovely swimming teacher and father of young kids who cheated on his wife, then became a drug addict, then robbed his local shop at knifepoint, then got caught by paedophile hunters.

But smoking after you leave school is pretty bad too.

Lovely gentle sweet man and perfect husband (the wife's words) developed dementia and started hitting his wife.

A highly professional senior manager who was well respected in our Company, that is now in prison for at least 14 years for the most depraved offences including planning to rape babies. I won't go in to any more details other than he was caught by undercover police.

To say we were all absolutely shocked is an understatement.

Someone turning 18 and staying going out clubbing and taking recreational drugs isn’t exactly unusual!

My mother, when her diagnosed psychopathy was no longer effectively medicated because her doctor messed around with her medication. I ended up on the receiving end.

Major head injury and subsequent personality change associated with this. It was horrific and it was hard to accept the person looked the same but weren’t who they used to be - complete chip change.

smoking? If this is the worst you’ve come across then bless your cotton socks poppet.

Nice of you to name him on a public forum
Poor lad

When they drink even drink at 17?

Hair of different lengths and colours, my god 😲

Fortunately temporary, but my mum was on some medication a few years ago that changed her personality. She's always a really positive person and a 'if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything' type but she turned into this grumpy, judgy woman on these, which is not her at all. But she stopped taking them, mainly because of that, as they weren't totally essential after a bit. I was a bit shocked how upsetting I found it.

DH says that a few weeks before our oldest was born I became so anxious and uptight (not like me at all) that he was worried what I'd be like as a mum, but it vanished as soon as I went on mat leave. The scary thing is I don't remember feeling that way in the slightest, but it's not something he'd make up.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5356665-to-ask-if-youve-ever-met-up-with-an-old-friendacquaintance-and-theyve-totally-changed?page=1

I posted that over summer, which still sticks in my mind!

My ex's daughter, who I helped raise, very tragic early life. But as a young teen she was beautiful, bright and optimistic, hoping to go in the navy and/or study equine care at college.

By the time she was an older teen she was on the streets, taking drugs and involved with much older men and crime.

She's now in her mid-twenties, gaunt, addicted and missing a lot of teeth. It's so sad, and it broke my heart, but nothing I can do.

I had a similar situation with a friend. A lot of yuong women were envious of her beauty and charisma when we were in our twenties. She studied animal care and worked in my local pub, absolutely lovely, friendly woman with stunning looks and good prospects.

She's 40 now and a heroin user. Dreadlocked, scruffy and has lost most of her friends and family with her behaviour. It's horrible to see people l destroy themselves.

my uni pal, then flatmate in my 20s. Working class background and first in her estate to make it to Uni. She did very well and got into a specific profession where she did work experience and professional training. Almost all her classmates were wealthy, often old money and absolutely clueless about the world. We used to laugh at them a bit, she would tell stories of things they said, norms they had etc. They were nice people, but just from a different planet. We lost touch for a few years, she was working qualified at this stage. I felt like i was the one pushing the friendship and kept making excuses for her, she is so busy etc. When we met up I couldn't believe it, her accent was really fake and affected and she was name dropping all the time. You must know the Blah blah family, from wherever, they are in the property or whatever business... their son is my colleague and we had a delightful weekend at their summer cottage etc etc. She made some snide comments about a friend of mine and I felt was looking me up and down in a judgemental way. It was really upsetting, she never contacted me again and I didn't pursue it either. It still makes me kind of sad

In his early 40s, having been made a partner in his investment firm, my baby-faced brother was self-conscious about how young he looked, so he thought he’d grow a beard.

His facial hair grew in fine and soft like kitten fur.

Words cannot describe how disturbing and grotesque he looked - like he was wearing half a balaclava made out of tabby cat pelt.

I still get flashbacks.

A friend completely lost her mind. She went from a ‘salt of the earth’ accomplished businesswoman to a paranoid, raging, incontinent alcoholic. She has been committed three times, has had a course of electric shock therapy twice. I stuck by her the first couple of times, and went to her weekly consultations with her mental health team (she had a partner at the time), but she became worse and worse, kinda stalkerish and scary. She didn’t wash, soiled herself and went out with a dressing gown barely covering her. I asked her partner if she had any MH issues in the past and he said no (he’d known her for 20 years). She was discharged the last time to her partner who had moved away - they weren’t really together but she owned the house he lived in. But she would show up at my door asking to be taken in. I moved myself a couple years later and hope she’ll never find me. It was shocking how fast she spiralled.