Bed dilemma

[firstofallimadelight]

So in September dd mentioned that her and her bf are stopping at ours Xmas eve, lovely. She made a point of saying she wanted to be in ‘her’ bedroom. (Her childhood bedroom but she moved out 2 years ago so now the spare bedroom too) Every Christmas my cousin stays with us (she lost her parents young we are her only family) she usually comes for 1-2 weeks. Sometimes she stops with friends a night or 2 but most of the time she is with us. When she stays she stops in the spare bedroom (DDs old room) dd reminded me she wants to stop Xmas Eve in ‘her’ room so I have had to mention this to cousin. Cousin has been very nice about it , I’ve suggested she share with younger dd for the night (in a double bed) or could do a airbed downstairs. But I feel bad as her stuffs in that room.
Should I have told dd no ? Or is it ok to expect cousin to move as she’s one person so a little easier that dd and bf sleeping somewhere else in the house.

Yes my cousin so slightly younger than me

Dd or cousin? Does cousin pitch in with Christmas or expect to be hosted ? Does she reciprocate your kindness throughout the year?

Cousin went to air bnb in a nearby village and came back for pressies this morning. All fine but I feel a bit bad for her. Shes lovely and I do like her to feel like part of the family when she’s here.

Sorry cousin, she tends to come here as she lives in a house share in a v expensive seaside town so we don’t visit often due to cost. She comes 2-3 times a year and usually stays with us but also sees friends (she grew up in our town) she does massively pull her weight when here and contributes to food too. Last year we had a difficult time and she was a fantastic support

I think you're worrying too much, and possibly over prioritising her. If she was a sister or another daughter, she would still have been the person who could give up her room for one night so that two people would have somewhere to sleep. She didn't have to leave the house.